Division; Contradiction to the Truth

Two people disagree and fail to communicate

The Prediction of Division

“I have come to bring fire on the earth, and how I wish it were already kindled! But I have a baptism to undergo, and what constraint I am under until it is completed! Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.”

A little over two thousand years ago this prophesy was spoken by a man committed to teaching, professing and living the truth.  Not a truth applicable to only one person or one group of people.  No, this man was speaking about the natural laws that effect all mankind.  All races of people and both genders are equal under these eternal laws.  This simple man understood that people, when faced with the truth, would choose one of three ways to react to it; they would either accept it, reject it or ignore it. Despite the choice they would make, others in their life would choose to react in opposition to their decision causing unavoidable division. 

The orator who declared this prediction knew that the truth must be made known and that the division coming from any disagreements were the prices that had to be paid.  As a leaders by example, he himself would pay the ultimate price for speaking, thinking and acting on the truth but through his model the entire world changed accordingly.  No longer would the truth be hidden from the masses and any dissension would have to be dealt with as resulting consequences.

Those words were first spoken long ago but consider the division in today’s society.  The media claims we are more divided than ever before.  If this is indeed a fact then could it be because we have people reacting in opposition to the truth others are trying to make known? 

Take for example the headlines of today; “A Third Option for Gender”.  Eleven States have voted to allow a gender neutral option on driver licenses.  The scientific supported truth is that there are only two genders, male or female.  There is no third option.  Sure, people can chose to claim to be a male when they are a female and vice a versa but their DNA will always confirm their true gender.  This will cause division naturally because people oppose lies especially when the country’s law making bodies create laws that contradict the truth. 

Another example in the news; “Lawmakers Accused of White Supremacy”.  All people are created equal under the natural laws.  Whether your skin is black, white, red or yellow makes no difference to your talents, skills or abilities.  The law of gravity doesn’t treat you differently, the laws of motion will affect your life the same as it affects mine.  The truth will be equally fair with you and your neighbor, but as long as we continue to try to argue with the truth there will be division. 

A third example is the immigrant crisis. Whenever our actions circumvent the law by definition we are doing something illegal. To call it anything else is a lie. Those who oppose the truth can’t change it by naming it something less threatening; undocumented alien. The truth will still remain and as will the division.     

The silly thing about division, it all boils down to selfishness.  We want what we want and the truth doesn’t matter when we are being selfish.  Division will end when we all want the truth even when it goes against our personal desires. The fact is people live in the truth, we will never be able to change or control it.         

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

The Right Questions Matter

“When we ask the wrong questions, we normally receive the wrong answers.  Even when we know nothing about our problem, it is our responsibility to ask the right questions especially when speaking to those we seek assistance from in solving them.  A Solutionary is someone who understands this fact and they use their knowledge in a selfless manner to solve the problems brought to them.”

Anthony Boquet, A Modern Solutionary

Every species on earth depends on balance to function at optimum performance.  This balance is more difficult to achieve in the human species because we are the only creature that has the ability to act against the natural laws.  It is our freewill which allows us to make choices based on the whims of our three states of humanity; our physical, mental and spiritual selves.  Our higher level of intelligence also makes it possible for us to reach that perfect balance while at the same time creating internal battles over the complexities of protecting our body, mind and soul in equal unity.

Take for instance our financial responsibilities through our retirement years.  The average person does not have the education or experience to plan for this daunting task.  Someone well trained as a financial planner would know how to solve the financial problems people face in all aspects of their lives. To do this job completely and correctly, one must be willing and able to guide their client along their life journey, being responsible for balancing their financial matters in every phase of life where money plays a part, namely our three personas; our personal, professional and spiritual lives.  

A very large majority of planners have no problems when it comes to the professional persona because they are dealing with the client on a professional level by just doing business with them.  An equal number of them can rise to the occasion when it comes to the personal persona, especially when their client / planner dynamic share personal commonalities…their kids play on the same ball team or they each have young children.  It is the spiritual life that stumps most planners, mainly due to societies perception of the need to separate spirituality from our work life. In other words, people can see one another at Church on Sunday but on Monday we can no longer talk about our spirituality. A ridiculous mindset since each of us possess a spiritual persona requiring financial planning. It does not matter which religion one follows; it is the fact that we each have some form of spiritual belief that we support through our income and wealth.

Needless to say, finding that perfect balance in the financial area of one’s life could prove difficult not only because of the self-inflicted imbalance caused by emotional decision-making but also from that of the planner we choose to work with.  An important correct question should be, “What can I do to protect myself against further financial imbalance?”

The answer is to learn, profess and live the truths of financial literacy.  The first truth one should follow is the understanding that there are only three uses for our treasures.  Once you earn any treasure you can chose to spend it, save it or share it; nothing more.  Achieving balance in anything requires the appropriate distribution of the whole into the correct areas; thus balancing the unit.  The optimum appropriation percentages for a healthy budget is usually; seventy percent of what we earn should be allocated for spending (paying our bills), twenty percent should be placed in savings (ten percent long term and ten percent short term saving) and ten percent should be shared.  If your bills add up to more than seventy percent of your take home pay you are likely out of balance.  For short periods of time going above the seventy percent might not be an issue but habitually exceeding that percentage will create problems.  The same can be said about the other two components as well.  Balance is critical and fighting the truth by defending your over spending, choosing not to save and failing to share from your abundance will never create financial balance.        

Once you have the basics down the question becomes, “Do I need to hire a professional for assistance?” If you do, you should expect that person to live those same truths and selflessly apply their knowledge to your solutions.  You are looking for a Solutionary.  The next question is; “How do I determine their level competence?”  First, select a planner who can demonstrate their commitment to being a Solutionary not just a problem-solver. Everyone we hire to assist us in solving our problems should be knowledgeable in the field of expertise the problem is in.  This knowledge must come from three sources; education, experience and moral / ethical values.  We should never apologize for asking for credentials verifying the level of each.  When determining education, degrees or designations assures that the person learned and successfully tested their understanding of the field of study.  Experience is gauged by the amount of time worked in the profession.  Moral and ethical values can be more of a challenge in today’s world.   If the person holds a credential, usually the issuing body oversees the ethical standing of their members.  Asking questions about their beliefs and values can also shed light to their character.  With the internet, we can also easily research the background of anyone, including their social activities through various sites.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President, The American College and the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others. 

A Story Meant to Changed the World

 A little over two thousand years ago a story packed with examples of the Power of the Wisdom on Three was told as an answer to a simple four word question; “Who is my neighbor?”  This question was posed as a clarifying point to a spiritual law; one of the natural laws of civilized societies.  In Christian circles the law is called the First Commandment.  To philosophers and solutionaries it is called the Trinity of Selfless Love.  Simply stated, in order to live a peace filled existence one must love their God with their whole mind, body and soul; and love their neighbor as their self.

The story that was told in reply to that question is solely responsible for countless societal changes throughout the centuries. Today, if we were to see someone lying, hurt in the street, our first action would be to call 911.  That one action would put into motion a flood of goodwill that did not exist at the time of the original narrative. First responders, hospitals, insurance, orphanages, soup kitchens, homeless shelter and many other services were all a direct creation of the premise taught in that short tale.  We should each care for those who are in need of physical help but the story uncovers many deeper societal injuries as well.

The audience were the residents of a wealthy and prominent city of the time.  The setting was one of the entry ways into the city; a well traveled, yet prone to violence, thoroughfare.  One of the main characters of the story was a man who was robbed, brutally attacked and left for dead on the roadway.  The first two people who happened to pass the crime scene did nothing to help the man, thinking he was already dead.  These two people were described as holy people and due to the religious customs of the times, they were not to touch dead bodies at the risk of becoming “unclean”.  In other words, to the listeners, the two bystanders would have been justified, doing nothing wrong by just walking around the man laying in the street.  The third character was identified as a Samaritan, an outsider, a person from a neighboring town inhabited by people who were looked down upon because of their differing beliefs.  Of all people, it was the Samaritan who stopped and found the man to be alive. He cared for his wounds the best he could, physically carried him to an Inn, stayed with him over night, arranged and paid for the follow up care for this total stranger while making sure that any further bills would be paid if more were outstanding.  Then to end the story, this accomplished storyteller, wanting the audience to think, ended the parable with another question; “Who was neighbor to the beaten man?”

We each are called to love one another.  Not only when people agree with our beliefs.  Not only when they follow the letter of the “law”. That is what makes this story eternally relevant.  We can see ourselves in each character.  No more superior than any and possibly equally as guilty of ignoring the law of love. 

Would our world be a much better place if we all strove to be a good Samaritan to every neighbor we encounter?        

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

The Highest Levels of Humanity

Humanity is more than just being born of the human species.  It is a level of existence that no other creature can take part in yet sometimes its greatness is taken for granted by those born into it.   Think of it as connecting our individual selves to one other so as to enrich society through our personal growth of talents, skills and abilities. It is like being pieces of a puzzle; you know you belong in the picture but you are not quite sure where or how you fit.

It can be an overwhelming undertaking since no one is born having already reaching their true potential.  In order to reach our full potential we must rely on and then use the guidance offered by the natural laws.  These constant truths are the rules and life lessons that must be adhered to and mastered regardless of who we are.  Every human is born equal yet unique and can participate in the benefits of following these natural laws if they so choose but it is not required nor is it easy.

The reasons we do not choose to follow the truths of humanity and the consequences associated with it can be made clear by one of these laws.  The Law of Poor Behavior says that the human reality toward the poor handling of the truth can be explained in three ways.

  1. We can accidentally choose wisely without knowing the truth.
  2. We can be completely mistaken about the truth but still arrive at the truth through the unforeseen consequences of our past decisions.  
  3. We can know the truth but choose to ignore it completely for our own selfish reasons.

On the positive side, when we choose to embrace the truths of humanity, The Law of Developmental Growth outlines the process very simply.   The law states that no physical, spiritual or mental growth can take place without first being tested at a higher and usually uncomfortable level of endurance and passing the test.  In other words, to get better we must first step outside our normal comfort zone.  Physically, muscles have to be stretched; mentally, minds must be challenged with new ideas and spiritually we have to grow to new heights of love and understanding.  A meaningful life experience can only occur through the constant repeating of the growth cycle; moving from content, to uneasy, to success; driving us to a higher level of comfort.  By dying to our old ways, we can reach this new level of contentment which brings us back to the beginning and the cycle starts all over again.   

From the very moment of conception our cells are brought to their limits before dividing into new cells.  After nine months from the birth of conception, the comfortable infant is physically forced to leave the safety and comfort of the mother’s womb to be thrust into a whole new scary second birth.  This experience is so intense, experts say that it is good that the child does not have the mental awareness to understand what is happening.   You could say, our birth is the first of many very traumatic life cycles. Each cycle has a birth, growth and a death. The cycle of life.  

From that moment on the baby will begin the journey of thousands of such cycles.  It will be born, grow and die multiple times and in countless ways.  As this new person develops their three personas, he or she will need to experience repeated discomfort and forced growth before reaching a new and more comfortable existence.  In school the student will be born again into a new grades of education where new curricula will be presented.  For the student to excel they will have to endure hours of study and pass repeated testing before reaching the next and harder level of advancement. 

When we become adults our learning methods change but they never stop.  In all aspects of our lives we will be challenge by the choices we make.  If we do well and make the right choices we develop into a higher level of comfort.  If we slack and make poor choices, we remain at the same level of existence or worse, we decline into a state of suffering.  The better our choices, the more that we challenge our self and the more vested we become in our positive improvement; the higher our growth and development will be. 

After living the life we have crafted, another cycle will end and a new one will begin.  Most people who believe in the natural laws, also believe in a life continuance after death.  It is believed that the level of comfort we will experience in our next plane of existence will depend greatly on the amount of effort we put forth during our earthly life.  It make sense, as it follows the decree of all natural laws, we are each given a present, a past and a future.  What we make of our future depends on what we learned from the past and how we apply the lessons in our present.        

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others. 

The Natural Laws of Positive Change

Most of the people that I know, value the truth.  The problem is that the truth can be difficult to discern.  In an effort to weed out the falsehoods of any problem one only needs to turn to history and ever present Natural Laws of our planet.  Natural laws are the eternal truths.  They never change so they are always dependable.  They never lie so they can always be relied upon in every situation.   

Take one of the most challenging issues people face; making positive changes in their life.  We all struggle with change because we are creatures of habit.  These habits take hold of our life because of one of the natural laws; The Law of Action.  This law says that we only do things for three reasons; to increase pleasure, avoid pain or for the love of another. Whenever we find an area in our life that we feel needs to be changed the Law of Action must be dealt with.  We used this law to form the bad habits so we have to use this same law to form the new and positive habit.  Think of this law as the “why” behind the “what” I want to change.

To aid us in doing this, we must use other laws that build on the Law of Action.  The Law of Positive Change creates the blueprint for fighting the pull of old habits.  The Law of Positive Change lays out three requirements needed to affect the changes we seek.  First, we must have a burning desire.  A burning desire to change, to reach the pleasure associated with the change and hopefully fueled by the love and support of others.  Second, the willingness to apply daily effort.  Change requires constant repetitious actions which will become the foundation of the new habit.  And third, we must be patient and allow time for the habit to take hold.  This law is the “how” behind the “why” I want to change.

Finally, we must rely on another law; The Law of the Stages of Time.  There are three stages of time; Past, Present and Future.  No more, no less.  This law supports all life on the planet.  It also pairs well with the Law of Positive Change.  The requirements of the Law of Positive Change unite with the Stages of Time. 

Requirements of Positive Change                                  Stages of Time                       

A Burning Desire                                                                    Future

Daily Effort                                                                                Present

Passage of Time                                                                       Past

Even with the support and guidance of the natural laws, we still will struggle to make positive changes in our lives but with these laws, change is always possible.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

The Unity and Solution of Three

Three is a very unique number.  In the same way that every word has a meaning, so too does every number.  Through the last ten years I have been intrigued by my ever expanding understanding of the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  This power touches each of our lives and many of us don’t take the time to notice the impact this small yet significant number has on our life.

Dating back over six thousand years ago, the number three was given to stand for unity.  People understood that when three people were brought together in thought, word and deeds unity was always present.  Still today, when two people have opposing beliefs it is a third who is solicited to break the tie.  With the same level of accuracy the number three was thought to signify solutions.  Lessons that held three simple concepts were the ones easy to teach, remember and apply; successfully bringing a solution to the problem.  That is why, these early learned people, used this unique number to pass down traditions we use today; touching our personal, professional and spiritual personas. 

To illustrate these truths, we need only read the stories of the early Christians written over two thousand years ago; giving meaning to our Holy Week celebrations and the memorials of our Savior. 

If you consider only the accounts of the week that made up Jesus’ passion; you will find many uses of the number three.  Each application provides us, as well as the people of that time, with either an understanding of unity and / or a solution to problems presented.

One interesting example is the way Jesus accurately predicted that Peter would deny him three times.  Peter was a trusted and loyal disciple; so why would he, of all people, deny knowing his honorable friend whom he loved so much; not once, not twice but three times?

This incident greatly exemplifies that we are, at our very core, a self preserving race.  Peter and all the apostles were fearful of their lives after seeing their teacher arrested and abused.  He knew that Jesus was the most innocent man he knew and yet he watch him being tormented in ways no one would dare openly submit to.  It was Peter’s humanity that was tested three times, not to break him but to unify him.  It was through these three denials that Peter was unified to Christ.  In addition, these failures would act to strengthen three entities; Peter, those who would follow him and the future Church.  It was on that Holy Thursday night that Peter came face to face with depth of his Lord’s first commandment.  To love our self, our community and our God is the goal established by our Savior; even when we face the threat of persecution, physical suffering or mental anguish. Without a doubt, it can be the hardest thing one could ever do. 

Unlike Judas, who also denied Jesus three times that week, Peter found the solution in God’s forgiving love.  Judas had much more time to reverse his actions but he chose not to; yet Peter had minutes between his indiscretions.  Though Judas did finally repent by giving back the money and confessing that he did a terrible thing; he still was unable to accept the grace of God’s mercy.  Instead, he gave up on Jesus; taking his own life in an attempt to ease his own self inflicted suffering.  Peter on the other hand, learned from his three mistakes and became a champion for the world. 

For three years Peter experienced the essence of Jesus.  After Jesus’ resurrection, Peter was likely one of the first to feel the essence of God and would soon be introduced to the essence of the Holy Spirit.  God’s divine Essence magnified but not different from the three individual persons of the Trinity.  Just as every person has three humanities; mental, physical and spiritual we have one singular essence.  Our mind cannot think one way and have the body and soul act imposingly.  What we think becomes our words and then our deeds.  Our deeds are the result of the strength of our essence.

When we overcome great struggles like Peter did, our nature becomes a new and powerful essence; felt by all who experience us.  We are never the same again.  Our essence is magnified in our trinity; our mind, body and soul.  God’s and our essence are not distinct from our three personas; instead we become distinguished by the unity of the three.  

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”, your source for additional information about the Power of the Wisdom of Three.

Trust Is More Than The Facts

In recent years there has been a tremendous amount of controversy about the American media and something called “Fake News”. When I was young; fake news existed but it was called lies, not news. We were raised, not to put much stock in things we read, heard on the radio or saw on the television. Instead, we depended on something more important; something called trust and it was not given, it was earned.

Fast forward a few generations and along comes this little thing called the Internet. Over time it has grown exponentially from a couple of hundred searchable sites into a massive repository of information. Gone are the old paper books of encyclopedias along with their searchable indexes. Here to stay is the with-you-always, ever present, all-knowing entity of Google, Bing or Siri; just to name a few.

I cannot tell you how often someone has told me that they learned something on the Internet. As someone who places a high value on education, I am always happy to hear that we, as a people, are still interested in learning. It does however, bring into question the quality of the content being relied upon without two of the three sources of knowledge, experience and ethical values. The level of unwarranted trust placed on this education alone could present more problems. It may be decades before we truly know the ultimate price society paid for this massive shift away from the reliance of an experienced, value based trustworthy source of knowledge.

Are we trading the importance of trust for convenience, the unlimited and unimaginable abundance of quantity?

Without trust, what good does this vast information really serve?

Without a doubt, the Internet has broadened the scope of our knowledge. At the touch of a finger, from anywhere and at anytime of the day or night, we can scour the endless resources of information like never before. However, we should never forget, that this information or education is comprised of all levels of accuracy. Some reliable, truthful and factual with an equal amount being conniving, manipulative and deceiving. Furthermore, the sheer volume of the material along with the speed new data is added makes sorting, classifying and justifying the truths from the lies almost impossible. Education is just one of the three sources of knowledge we need to make the best decisions.

To emphasize this point. let’s consider a widely used feature of technology, the Global Positioning System. Today, everyone who drives a car or a bike or walks in a strange city; uses the GPS feature on their phone to get from point A to point B. By simply entering the locations into the program, it calculates the turn by turn directions for the trip. No longer do we need to decide the course of travel, the system does it for you and at fifty five miles per hour we blindly trust this computer. Even though there may be multiple routes to get you where you are going, the system can be allowed to make the choices for us.

Why do we explicitly trust this technology without a second thought?

Should we trust the facts of any decision that effects our safety without also referencing past experience or the ethical and moral sources of knowledge?

I know, from personal experience, a GPS location is not always “correct”. In other words, this trusted source of guidance is not always true and even when it is true, it might not always be safe. I have been brought to the wrong location many times and in some cases the program selected roads that were unsafe to travel. As a motorcycle enthusiast, I have been placed on gravel roads that presented serious hazards to an unsuspecting motorist. Still, we trust this information as we would a loyal experienced friend. Further, when traveling in large cities, the selected route can bring you down dark deserted alleyways or through unsavory neighborhoods. Streets you would not select if you knew the area nor would you ever suggest this path to someone asking you for directions.

So, even with all the facts, we can still make bad decisions without the experience and caring guidance from an ethical and moral person. We must realize that even in today’s education rich world, any source of knowledge should be verified before being earning the stamp of trust.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President, Education & Development at The American College of Financial Services and the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Two Sides of the Same Coin

The idiom “two sides of the same coin” is a very meaningful phase that hold multiple applications in our world. With that said, on the surface it also falls short in the understanding of the three dimensional world in which we live.

Look at any coin held off from a side angle. You will quickly notice that the coin has three sides, not two. The edge of the coin brings in the third dimension; one that holds the true meaning of the statement itself. The coin is much more than the sum of the two images on the two prominent sides. What lies in the middle is the reason the side images can even exist. Once more, The Power of the Wisdom of Three can be held in the palm of your hand.

This saying is usually “coined”, pun intended, as a reference to the opposites of any one’s true nature. Meaning that we cannot determine the coin’s value just by considering a single engraved image found on either one of the two opposite sides. The same can be said about people. Whether we show the world the good that we do or the mistakes that we make; our value is the sum of both sides and the often ignored middle.  After all it is the middle that allows the two side images to exist. This is why that I believe it is the important middle that should not be overlooked.

Consider how our whole is made up of all three sides, not just the two that we intentionally showcase to the world. The images we project through our actions will either be good, bad or neutral. We make choices every day that will either benefit, harm or have no effect on the three entities of every solution. Even though our true value to society comes through the good that we do, as with the example of a coin, our conceived value doesn’t vary immediately when we do bad. The intrinsic value of a coin is found in the metal in the middle and our intrinsic value rests in the whole of our being; mind, body and soul.

Cannot a coin be used to fund good as well as evil and at the same value?

The tri-images that we present to the world are created through the tri-nature of our body, mind and soul which in turn will be featured in the tri-personas of our personal, professional or spiritual lives. No one person can always be bad or good nor a success or a failure; we are all flawed just like every coin is less than pure and somewhat tarnished. As with the coin, it takes both imperfect impressions and the less than distinguishable middle to make us whole.   

Even though we are flawed, it should not hinder us from doing all that we can to increase our value by doing more good than bad. As I mentioned before, the coins value does not decline immediately when used to fund inappropriate endeavors but over time, when the society that produces the coin begin to collapse, the value of the coin will decline. This down turn always occurs because of the accumulation of an abundance of poor decisions made by the majority of its citizens. The same can be said about a prosperous society or business; it only rises in value when the majority of individuals contributes to the growth and well being of whole. It is this well-being, funded by the selfless giving of ourselves, that supports and enhances the value of the coin through positive actions of the many. When more members of the team does well by their fellow members, the stronger the whole will be and the higher the net worth of the greater good.  

Next time you hold a coin in your hand, toss it around, notice the three sides and think about your personal growth.  Your growth will effect that of your family, your work and your spiritual life. The worth of that coin is made up of three sides as is yours.

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President / Adjunct Instructor at The American College of Financial Services and author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Equality or Fairness; Which Do You Prefer?

We are born male or female, healthy or ill and our race or culture doesn’t matter at all.  At that special moment of our birth we are all equal in the eyes of our Creator, the world and our parents.  However, from that point on our values toward equality begins to change in the eyes of all who pay attention.  As we age we each begin to develop different talents, pursue different goals and strive for different aspirations.  It is because of these changes that we can never again be viewed, treated or even perceived as equal.

So, should we be treated equally?

Why would anyone seek to be treated as equal?

Instead, should we not strive for fairness?

It is through fairness that we show an individual respect earned for those differences that make each of us unique.  If gold was not an unique metal it would not be valued as precious.  This is why not all people will choose to limit themselves to the standards of those who wish to go through life doing just enough to skate by.  It is my belief that the majority are not satisfied with equality but rather demands, expects and wishes to receive fairness.

Speaking as a leader of various teams, I always strived to surround myself with people who wished to be better than all the rest.   Just think, if we applied the rules of equality to games, businesses or organizations then there would be no reason for competition.  If we were to treat every person as an equal to one another we would be working diligently at being mediocre.  The difference in being mediocre verses being outstanding is exactly what makes each of us unequal.

Picture the most spectacular painting you have ever saw; then ask yourself if you could have painted it.  If the answer is no, then you are not alone and you are definitely not an equal to the artist whose work you are admiring; nor should you be.  That difference is exactly what makes the work you’re admiring spectacular and I, for one, do not want to ever give up the spectacular for the mediocre.

So next time you hear of a school, business or organization’s leadership crying that we should not keep score, whining that everyone should be a winner or that everyone must be treated the same; think of that spectacular work of art, the gold medal athlete or the hardworking successful business owner who started their business with one hundred dollars and a dream. These remarkable people would not exist in the world of equality.  Instead, the world of art would be full of ugly painting because everyone would paint like the rest of us.  We would lose way more than we win because everyone would stop practicing too soon but worst of all we would all stop dreaming.

 It is for these reasons that I believe we were created equal to give us all a fair start but we are destined to be unequal and to accomplish extraordinary things through the use of our unique talents, skills and abilities.  By definition, nothing can be considered greater than without first surpassing equal and to make that leap all we need is a fair chance and the belief that we are special and unequal.

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Building a Strong Leader

A master carpenter who worked for the same builder for nearly 50 years announced he wanted to retire. The builder told him how much he appreciated his work. He gave the carpenter a $5,000 bonus and asked him if he would build just one more house. The builder owned a magnificent lot with a spectacular view, and said he wanted to build a dream home there.

The carpenter was bitterly disappointed at the small bonus, but his last building fee would help him buy a small cottage, so he agreed to build the dream house.

The carpenter had always prided himself on his uncompromising commitment to quality, but resentment over this last job caused him to cut corners, ignore details, and accept shoddy workmanship from other workers. He even looked the other way when some of them substituted cheaper materials and pocketed the difference.

When the house was finished, the builder shook the carpenter’s hand and, with a huge smile, gave him an envelope with a thank-you card and a folded piece of paper. The carpenter was disdainful until he unfolded the paper and found the deed to the house he had just built.

The carpenter was ashamed to have misjudged his old friend and betrayed his own values, and he was remorseful that the house he would live in for the rest of his life had been made so carelessly.

Our character is the house we live in and it’s built piece by piece by our daily choices. Deceit, irresponsibility, and disrespect are like shoddy workmanship. Whenever we put in less than our best and ignore our potential for excellence, we create a future full of creaky floors, leaky roofs, and crumbling foundations.

“The Parable of the Carpenter” by Michael Josephson

This parable emphasizes the power we each possess over the construction of our lives. We are each leaders of our self, our family and / or our work.  As the leader we determine the quality of workmanship based on our level of personal development, the quality of materials we choose to work with by the people we choose to bring into our lives and the quality of environment which we choose build our structure on through the places we live, work and pray.  Thus begins our daily construction of the ultimate work of art that is destined to be our life.

A master leader will pride them self on the work that goes into every project they are involved in. They will take the time to develop personally so that they are the best they can be.  The materials they will use will be of the highest quality.  The leader understands that once they start using subpar materials, the reflection will come to rest squarely on the leader’s shoulder.  When the valued leader gives the very best talents, skills and abilities using the very best resources, the structure must be positioned in the very best environment.  One would never build a mansion on a weak or unstable foundation so why would a master leader choose to operate in an environment destined to sink or collapse.

Also consider the Power of the Wisdom of Three using the features that make up every construction; the foundation, the walls and the roof. Every building must have these three building blocks.  The foundation must be solid, stable and strong so as to bear the weight of the entire structure.  The permanent and eternal part of every person, the soul.  The house is only as good as the foundation and so it is with a leaders soul.  The walls must be ridged, binding and durable to survive the elements.  They must be ridged enough to not bend under stress, be capable of binding the roof to the foundation and the walls to one another; keeping the structure together and they must be durable enough to endure outside forces powerful enough to topple the building.  We too have walls known as our body.  Of course, every resident must have a roof.  The roof must be constructed to allow for runoff so it does not take on additional weight from debris.  It must be centered so as to keep the walls straight. Most importantly, the roof must act as the covering protecting the valuables residing directly below it.  Our roof is our mind.

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.