Equality or Fairness; Which Do You Prefer?

We are born male or female, healthy or ill and our race or culture doesn’t matter at all.  At that special moment of our birth we are all equal in the eyes of our Creator, the world and our parents.  However, from that point on our values toward equality begins to change in the eyes of all who pay attention.  As we age we each begin to develop different talents, pursue different goals and strive for different aspirations.  It is because of these changes that we can never again be viewed, treated or even perceived as equal.

So, should we be treated equally?

Why would anyone seek to be treated as equal?

Instead, should we not strive for fairness?

It is through fairness that we show an individual respect earned for those differences that make each of us unique.  If gold was not an unique metal it would not be valued as precious.  This is why not all people will choose to limit themselves to the standards of those who wish to go through life doing just enough to skate by.  It is my belief that the majority are not satisfied with equality but rather demands, expects and wishes to receive fairness.

Speaking as a leader of various teams, I always strived to surround myself with people who wished to be better than all the rest.   Just think, if we applied the rules of equality to games, businesses or organizations then there would be no reason for competition.  If we were to treat every person as an equal to one another we would be working diligently at being mediocre.  The difference in being mediocre verses being outstanding is exactly what makes each of us unequal.

Picture the most spectacular painting you have ever saw; then ask yourself if you could have painted it.  If the answer is no, then you are not alone and you are definitely not an equal to the artist whose work you are admiring; nor should you be.  That difference is exactly what makes the work you’re admiring spectacular and I, for one, do not want to ever give up the spectacular for the mediocre.

So next time you hear of a school, business or organization’s leadership crying that we should not keep score, whining that everyone should be a winner or that everyone must be treated the same; think of that spectacular work of art, the gold medal athlete or the hardworking successful business owner who started their business with one hundred dollars and a dream. These remarkable people would not exist in the world of equality.  Instead, the world of art would be full of ugly painting because everyone would paint like the rest of us.  We would lose way more than we win because everyone would stop practicing too soon but worst of all we would all stop dreaming.

 It is for these reasons that I believe we were created equal to give us all a fair start but we are destined to be unequal and to accomplish extraordinary things through the use of our unique talents, skills and abilities.  By definition, nothing can be considered greater than without first surpassing equal and to make that leap all we need is a fair chance and the belief that we are special and unequal.

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Building a Strong Leader

A master carpenter who worked for the same builder for nearly 50 years announced he wanted to retire. The builder told him how much he appreciated his work. He gave the carpenter a $5,000 bonus and asked him if he would build just one more house. The builder owned a magnificent lot with a spectacular view, and said he wanted to build a dream home there.

The carpenter was bitterly disappointed at the small bonus, but his last building fee would help him buy a small cottage, so he agreed to build the dream house.

The carpenter had always prided himself on his uncompromising commitment to quality, but resentment over this last job caused him to cut corners, ignore details, and accept shoddy workmanship from other workers. He even looked the other way when some of them substituted cheaper materials and pocketed the difference.

When the house was finished, the builder shook the carpenter’s hand and, with a huge smile, gave him an envelope with a thank-you card and a folded piece of paper. The carpenter was disdainful until he unfolded the paper and found the deed to the house he had just built.

The carpenter was ashamed to have misjudged his old friend and betrayed his own values, and he was remorseful that the house he would live in for the rest of his life had been made so carelessly.

Our character is the house we live in and it’s built piece by piece by our daily choices. Deceit, irresponsibility, and disrespect are like shoddy workmanship. Whenever we put in less than our best and ignore our potential for excellence, we create a future full of creaky floors, leaky roofs, and crumbling foundations.

“The Parable of the Carpenter” by Michael Josephson

This parable emphasizes the power we each possess over the construction of our lives. We are each leaders of our self, our family and / or our work.  As the leader we determine the quality of workmanship based on our level of personal development, the quality of materials we choose to work with by the people we choose to bring into our lives and the quality of environment which we choose build our structure on through the places we live, work and pray.  Thus begins our daily construction of the ultimate work of art that is destined to be our life.

A master leader will pride them self on the work that goes into every project they are involved in. They will take the time to develop personally so that they are the best they can be.  The materials they will use will be of the highest quality.  The leader understands that once they start using subpar materials, the reflection will come to rest squarely on the leader’s shoulder.  When the valued leader gives the very best talents, skills and abilities using the very best resources, the structure must be positioned in the very best environment.  One would never build a mansion on a weak or unstable foundation so why would a master leader choose to operate in an environment destined to sink or collapse.

Also consider the Power of the Wisdom of Three using the features that make up every construction; the foundation, the walls and the roof. Every building must have these three building blocks.  The foundation must be solid, stable and strong so as to bear the weight of the entire structure.  The permanent and eternal part of every person, the soul.  The house is only as good as the foundation and so it is with a leaders soul.  The walls must be ridged, binding and durable to survive the elements.  They must be ridged enough to not bend under stress, be capable of binding the roof to the foundation and the walls to one another; keeping the structure together and they must be durable enough to endure outside forces powerful enough to topple the building.  We too have walls known as our body.  Of course, every resident must have a roof.  The roof must be constructed to allow for runoff so it does not take on additional weight from debris.  It must be centered so as to keep the walls straight. Most importantly, the roof must act as the covering protecting the valuables residing directly below it.  Our roof is our mind.

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

The Wisdom of a Positive Self-Image

Have you ever gone somewhere with someone you did not particularly care for? They were not a bad person; they just were not a good fit to your personality. You may not have even realized why you felt the way you did about them.  Possibly the person was just not a lot of fun to be around, you might not have had much in common with them, or they just rubbed you the wrong way in general.

That kind of personal chemistry can make a one hour event feel like a week-long visit to a sadistic dentist.

It is sad but you just could not wait to be out of their presence for whatever the reason.

What if that person is you?

Have you ever considered that there is only one person that we have to be with every hour of every day and that person is our “self”? If our vision of that person is not good, life can be extremely rough and uncomfortable.  On the other hand, once we possess a positive self-image of our self we can reach heights that other can only dream of.  Those people have a healthy, honest and positive self-image.  This image also creates the mind set we use to form the basis of all of our decisions. Continue reading “The Wisdom of a Positive Self-Image”

Two Fundamental Questions to Ponder

Do we no longer know what morals look like?

or is it;

Do we just no longer care?

Two very important questions. Together, they are both true some of the time, neither are true all the time but anytime either are true, society suffers.

One should be perplexed at the thought of how either of these questions can be true in an advanced and intelligent society such as the United States. Of course the argument can be made that intelligence has little to do with morals. Centuries ago, societies held morals above the man-made laws of the land primarily because morals come first in the process.  It is always the morals of a society that create the belief systems of the leaders who drafted the laws that set the legal boundaries established for the society.  If a society is immoral the laws that they pass will also be immoral.  In those cases, the immoral society is destined to fail due to the widespread lack of trust of all members of the community.  As an example of our decline, it is currently legal to allow the harm of a viable fetus of a healthy woman yet it is against the law, in many jurisdictions, to even whip a non-violent animal.

Are not both acts morally wrong? Yet one is legal.

If any given person holds one of these acts as morally apprehensible while the other morally acceptable what does that say about that person’s belief system?

Can the same person believe it is immoral to safely separate children from their parents while also believing it is perfectly fine to physically remove a healthy child from a healthy woman’s womb resulting in the child’s planned death?

Recently, we were able to view a national job interview where the candidate was accused of an immoral and illegal act. The available facts were brought forth, witnesses were questioned and the candidate was cross examined by a committee of people.  The results showed no clear evidence to support the accusations.  In a moral society, an unsubstantiated accusation would be held to be without merit.  It would be understood that all people are to be treated as innocent until proven guilty by facts; but not in today’s America. Many of this man’s opponents and critics, if the candidate would have been them or a loved one of theirs, would have wanted fair treatment; but solely on his moral beliefs they have and are treating him as if he were guilty.  This case was a public one but make no mistake, cases like this happen every day in boardrooms throughout the country.

Do we know longer care about treating people morally fair?

Do the facts and evidence still hold any substance of order?

Every day you hear people blaming the presence of guns for the high level of gun violence in the world. Yet,  many of these same people who scream and posture to make gun ownership illegal depend on armed security to be with them around the clock.

It would seem that the protection of one’s security is morally right for everyone; not just those who can afford a personal security detail.

In today’s society, we seem to rationalize morals to our whims instead of living to moral standards. The difference is clear.  When I am allowed to rationalize my personal moral code; no one has the “right” to question my beliefs.  They become relativistic to the individual not to the truth as it pertains to the events in question.  The facts and the truth no longer matter.  On the other hand, if I must live to a moral standard, a level much higher than any one individual, then society has a say in what is perceived as moral or immoral. Each member of the society relies on one another to keep the society grounded in the truth.

The Evolution of Relativism

“The natural law is itself the eternal law, implanted in beings endowed with reason, and inclining them towards their right action and end.”

Saint Thomas Aquinas’ “Summa Theologiae”

The human race has forever questioned the “truth” or at the very least the “righteousness” of man-made laws.  Take speeding for instance; it is a good “idea” to restrict everyone from speeding, that is, until it is you who is late, struggling to make up for lost time.  I bet that as soon as that first speed limit was established, someone decided it would be okay to ignore the posted speed.  Consider another example, every society throughout history has had laws against the theft of property but the laws have never stopped some from stealing what is not theirs.  It is clear, by the activity level of the judicial system we view man-made laws as ours to break whenever we believe it is right for us.  If we get caught, we will surely have an excuse and when that doesn’t work we will deal with the consequences the best that we can.  Continue reading “The Evolution of Relativism”

Followship is a Goal of Leadership

I love unique words and each year new ones are created, liked or disliked by average people like me and you.  As a matter of fact, I created a word for my replacement of the word “problem-solver”.  I have never liked that word because it elevates the problem above the solution; at least it does so in my mind.  So, the word “Solutionary” was born in 2009.  Today its popularity continues to grow.

As a student of leadership, I have studied leadership for a little over thirty years and recently the term “followship” been growing in usage as a word that describes the practice of following a leader.

I LOVE IT!…mainly, because the entire premise builds off the power of the wisdom of three.  It guides a Solutionary along the ultimate path that leads to a successful life. Continue reading “Followship is a Goal of Leadership”

Heroes & Heroines; Solutionaries in Our Times of Need

Do we still have true heroes?  

Does the definition change as society changes?  

These are a couple of thought-provoking questions which were recently posed to me in a meeting that I attended. The discussion that followed was riveting and caused me to reflect more fully on the topic as it relates to moral and ethical changes of a society.

Heroes, in the simplest term, are a group of people.  To answer questions about any group, we first must try to understand the meanings of the title used to describe them.     Continue reading “Heroes & Heroines; Solutionaries in Our Times of Need”

A Masterpiece in the Works

The stage is set, all is silent. The Master smiles; again the perfect story has been formed; one that will move the hearts, minds and souls of people and change the future of all mankind.  The Master has a history of perfecting all the stories based on the lives of the characters and using their children to perpetuate the next legacy of change.  In the mind of the Master, it is clear that every perfect story needs a perfect main character that will shape the epic tale.  Each phenomenal story places the setting as the life’s journey of the main character and who better to write this narrative but the characters themselves.  When that character has a child, eventually, the child will become the author as they become an adult. Due to this process, it is not usually a quick project but it is always a worthy one.    Continue reading “A Masterpiece in the Works”

Polarized or Fractured vs. Unified

“People are all fruit from the same tree.  Not all are appreciated; especially if they are tried before they have had the chance to ripen, others turn bad because of the experiences they endure and the rest bring joy to all who value what they have to offer.”

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Modern Solutionary

We are each born of the one human race; innocent, pure and good.  As we mature or ripen, flaws begin to appear as dark blemishes on our soul; invisible to the world until we act.  It is these acts that pull us apart and fracture our society.  This darkness is a byproduct of our acting out against the truth through the selfishness of our free will and the negative influences of a harmful environment.  Through the passage of time we will either allow this darkness to rot our decisions or we can take steps to scrub away the damaging thoughts, words and deeds that spoil the original fruit we were created to be.

This cleansing work need not be a solo job.  We are provided help in the form of various people whom we meet along the pathway of life; a co-worker, a friend or possibly the mailman who we speak with every now and then.  The role that others play depends on our predisposition at the time of the encounter.  It can also fluctuate as our being evolves daily through the people that you meet in person or by video, the books that we read and our moral and ethical values.

I find that with each good person who comes into one’s life and with each final farewell made to them; we strive harder to be a better version of our self as selflessness grows from the experience they provided us.

For years, university polls have reported that we are a polarized world; a people who cannot agree on the solutions needed to solve our communal problems.  Consider the term itself, “polarized” means two opposite extremes.  We are constantly trying to identify if people are right or left, black or white, gay verses straight, Republican or Democrat and the list goes on.  I personally believe the only polarization that should be of any importance is whether we are right verses wrong but in today’s relativistic world that is the one polarization that is not popular on either side.  As a matter of fact, it begs the question “Is it society’s factorization that causes blindness toward multiple wrong leaning views?”  It is like looking at the world through broken glasses; nothing looks like what it truly is.

As I age, I am prone to turn to the Power of the Wisdom of Three for answers.  These lessons can help us Learn, Understand and Apply the solutions against the forces that cause us to pull away from one another.  I am learning daily that, just like the tree in the quote above, we are “planted” securely in our own environment. As a society our environment does not allow us to quickly change our view of the world in which we live.  In our environment, each “fruit” starts as a bud struggling for Survival, if it can draw enough nourishment from the tree it will reach a state of Adequacy and with care, nourishment and strength it can eventually arrive at a place of Prosperity.  Unlike the fruit of a tree, we individually have the ability to make decisions that will impact our future environments.  These choices will differ based on our unique perspective but, just as the real fruit has to deal with outside influencers like heat, wind and insects so are we challenged to not succumb to the destructive effects of selfish perceptions, emotionally charged lies or inscrutable people but instead to base any decision on the truth.  We are assured that the truth does not change, regardless of which environment we find ourselves in.

Think back to when you were young; we depended on others.  This dependency, through the lessons of experience, should have drastically reduced as we matured.  As we become self-reliant we learn that there are only three attributes of a self-sufficient adult who strives for a state of prosperity; we first become Dependable, then are held Accountable and once accountable we must become Responsible. These attributes are viewed as noble statuses to hold but are not without cost.  People who possess these attributes must abide by the truth or be ridiculed when they are stripped of them.  A few good and wise decisions could earn you the respect of these attributes but in order to secure these traits long term one must live a selfless and truth filled existence. This cost is high and the reason why too many people choose to be dependent instead of dependable, unaccountable instead of accountable and irresponsible instead of responsible.  It will always be those who choose to be dependent, unaccountable and the irresponsible people who draw the focus away from the truth.

The last three proofs of the “ripening of the fruit” rest in the character of the person.  To finally reach prosperity one must be viewed as Honest.  When someone lives an honest life they will be said to have Integrity. Living a life of integrity will naturally foster the Trust of all whom you deal with.  These three character traits will always be present in those people who follow the truth.  For anyone who leads others to the truth will be said to be trustworthy.

So, even though we all are fruit from the same tree, the only way for us to become a unified society is to follow the truth and the truth will not and cannot be different for everybody, it never changes, and it requires a selfless nature.  Until we understand and live these facts there will never be unity.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others. 

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

The A Cappella Concert of the Mute

It is said that one cannot be a good leader before first being a good follower.  In the same vein we hear that the very best leaders hold the title of Servant Leader.  I believe that both of these statements are true. So why do some leaders, who are viewed as less than great, develop such a large following?

At any one moment in time there are many people who hold the title of leader.  Some will be good, some will be bad and a few will be considered great.  To determine which class they will be ranked in, we generally use the size and the loyalty of their following as two of many factors in the overall judgment of their placement.  Right or wrong, this is what we do.  So why do some mediocre leaders amass large groups of loyal followers?

Throughout history we have many examples of leaders with large, loyal fan bases.  In each example there is always one common denominator. I call this phenomenon the “a cappella concert of the mute”.  The people are attracted to someone who is brave enough to stand up to voice the beliefs that they themselves are not willing or able to voice on their own. This courageous individual quickly becomes the melodious voice of the muted many.

Think about what it would be like to have something you wished to be said; you believe it is extremely important but you are not able to make yourself heard.  That would have to be so frustrating.  Now, imagine being in a room with thousands of muted people all with the very same passionate message burning deeply in their hearts.  Their unified desire to make their message known to one another would be excruciatingly painful.

Then, in walks a person who feels what they feel, shares the belief in the importance of their message and is willing and able to voice this pent up desire that they believe all needs to hear.  The mute finally have their voice.

The leader in this case in not chosen because they exemplifies great leadership skills. This leader is selected as a courageous voice with the conviction shared by the muted masses with the message that obviously needs to be heard.

In every case of a leader rising through an “a cappella concert of the mute” the message truly needed to be heard and acted upon for the good of the whole.  The non-mute citizenry must take a step back and listen to the messenger; whether they liked the leader or not.  In these cases, it is not the leader who is of importance; it is the message.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.  Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”