Polarized or Fractured vs. Unified

“People are all fruit from the same tree.  Not all are appreciated; especially if they are tried before they have had the chance to ripen, others turn bad because of the experiences they endure and the rest bring joy to all who value what they have to offer.”

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Modern Solutionary

We are each born of the one human race; innocent, pure and good.  As we mature or ripen, flaws begin to appear as dark blemishes on our soul; invisible to the world until we act.  It is these acts that pull us apart and fracture our society.  This darkness is a byproduct of our acting out against the truth through the selfishness of our free will and the negative influences of a harmful environment.  Through the passage of time we will either allow this darkness to rot our decisions or we can take steps to scrub away the damaging thoughts, words and deeds that spoil the original fruit we were created to be.

This cleansing work need not be a solo job.  We are provided help in the form of various people whom we meet along the pathway of life; a co-worker, a friend or possibly the mailman who we speak with every now and then.  The role that others play depends on our predisposition at the time of the encounter.  It can also fluctuate as our being evolves daily through the people that you meet in person or by video, the books that we read and our moral and ethical values.

I find that with each good person who comes into one’s life and with each final farewell made to them; we strive harder to be a better version of our self as selflessness grows from the experience they provided us.

For years, university polls have reported that we are a polarized world; a people who cannot agree on the solutions needed to solve our communal problems.  Consider the term itself, “polarized” means two opposite extremes.  We are constantly trying to identify if people are right or left, black or white, gay verses straight, Republican or Democrat and the list goes on.  I personally believe the only polarization that should be of any importance is whether we are right verses wrong but in today’s relativistic world that is the one polarization that is not popular on either side.  As a matter of fact, it begs the question “Is it society’s factorization that causes blindness toward multiple wrong leaning views?”  It is like looking at the world through broken glasses; nothing looks like what it truly is.

As I age, I am prone to turn to the Power of the Wisdom of Three for answers.  These lessons can help us Learn, Understand and Apply the solutions against the forces that cause us to pull away from one another.  I am learning daily that, just like the tree in the quote above, we are “planted” securely in our own environment. As a society our environment does not allow us to quickly change our view of the world in which we live.  In our environment, each “fruit” starts as a bud struggling for Survival, if it can draw enough nourishment from the tree it will reach a state of Adequacy and with care, nourishment and strength it can eventually arrive at a place of Prosperity.  Unlike the fruit of a tree, we individually have the ability to make decisions that will impact our future environments.  These choices will differ based on our unique perspective but, just as the real fruit has to deal with outside influencers like heat, wind and insects so are we challenged to not succumb to the destructive effects of selfish perceptions, emotionally charged lies or inscrutable people but instead to base any decision on the truth.  We are assured that the truth does not change, regardless of which environment we find ourselves in.

Think back to when you were young; we depended on others.  This dependency, through the lessons of experience, should have drastically reduced as we matured.  As we become self-reliant we learn that there are only three attributes of a self-sufficient adult who strives for a state of prosperity; we first become Dependable, then are held Accountable and once accountable we must become Responsible. These attributes are viewed as noble statuses to hold but are not without cost.  People who possess these attributes must abide by the truth or be ridiculed when they are stripped of them.  A few good and wise decisions could earn you the respect of these attributes but in order to secure these traits long term one must live a selfless and truth filled existence. This cost is high and the reason why too many people choose to be dependent instead of dependable, unaccountable instead of accountable and irresponsible instead of responsible.  It will always be those who choose to be dependent, unaccountable and the irresponsible people who draw the focus away from the truth.

The last three proofs of the “ripening of the fruit” rest in the character of the person.  To finally reach prosperity one must be viewed as Honest.  When someone lives an honest life they will be said to have Integrity. Living a life of integrity will naturally foster the Trust of all whom you deal with.  These three character traits will always be present in those people who follow the truth.  For anyone who leads others to the truth will be said to be trustworthy.

So, even though we all are fruit from the same tree, the only way for us to become a unified society is to follow the truth and the truth will not and cannot be different for everybody, it never changes, and it requires a selfless nature.  Until we understand and live these facts there will never be unity.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others. 

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

The A Cappella Concert of the Mute

It is said that one cannot be a good leader before first being a good follower.  In the same vein we hear that the very best leaders hold the title of Servant Leader.  I believe that both of these statements are true. So why do some leaders, who are viewed as less than great, develop such a large following?

At any one moment in time there are many people who hold the title of leader.  Some will be good, some will be bad and a few will be considered great.  To determine which class they will be ranked in, we generally use the size and the loyalty of their following as two of many factors in the overall judgment of their placement.  Right or wrong, this is what we do.  So why do some mediocre leaders amass large groups of loyal followers?

Throughout history we have many examples of leaders with large, loyal fan bases.  In each example there is always one common denominator. I call this phenomenon the “a cappella concert of the mute”.  The people are attracted to someone who is brave enough to stand up to voice the beliefs that they themselves are not willing or able to voice on their own. This courageous individual quickly becomes the melodious voice of the muted many.

Think about what it would be like to have something you wished to be said; you believe it is extremely important but you are not able to make yourself heard.  That would have to be so frustrating.  Now, imagine being in a room with thousands of muted people all with the very same passionate message burning deeply in their hearts.  Their unified desire to make their message known to one another would be excruciatingly painful.

Then, in walks a person who feels what they feel, shares the belief in the importance of their message and is willing and able to voice this pent up desire that they believe all needs to hear.  The mute finally have their voice.

The leader in this case in not chosen because they exemplifies great leadership skills. This leader is selected as a courageous voice with the conviction shared by the muted masses with the message that obviously needs to be heard.

In every case of a leader rising through an “a cappella concert of the mute” the message truly needed to be heard and acted upon for the good of the whole.  The non-mute citizenry must take a step back and listen to the messenger; whether they liked the leader or not.  In these cases, it is not the leader who is of importance; it is the message.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.  Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

The Trinities and The Sign of the Cross

Today is Trinity Sunday in the Christian faith.  As many of you know, I am a practicing Catholic who enjoys sharing the why behind the what.  The “what” of this week has to do with my favorite number, the number three and, more specifically; the Holy Trinity, the human trinity, the three human actions and the sign of the cross.

The sign of the cross in the Roman Catholic Church is much more than just an act that we do in remembrance of Jesus’ ultimate sacrifice for the world.  It is really an amazing prayer with much meaning.  Continue reading “The Trinities and The Sign of the Cross”

The Truth about the Anthem Controversy

On Memorial Day we are asked to remember those who gave their lives for the freedoms that we, as Americans, enjoy.  Yet, as our national media took to the air this weekend they chose to discuss the NFL’s ruling on the expectation of their employee as it pertains to conduct during the playing of the National Anthem.  In their supposed “unbiased” commentary, they failed to report the true meaning behind why these players should stand during the anthem.  Below, as a reference, is the actual legal code of conduct.    Continue reading “The Truth about the Anthem Controversy”

A Father’s Day Guide

I enjoy learning from the masters. The way that I see it, why should I have to learn from the painful beginning when others have paid the price on the behalf of others?  The Solutionaries among us who possess this hard earned wisdom are eager to share their education, experience, and ethical understandings. The rest of us should be ready to absorb this fountain of information.

One such Master lived over two thousand years ago; leaving behind his wisdom of truth which did not only survive but continues to thrive through the centuries with as much power as it had when the words were first spoken.  One such lesson can act as a guide to the sons of their father.  As with each of His lessons, there can be multiple interpretations so as we celebrate our earthly fathers let’s focus on this area of application.

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You have faith in God; have faith also in me. In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places. If there were not, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back again and take you to myself, so that where I am you also may be. Where [I] am going you know the way.”

Jesus is explaining to his apostles the earthy process of finding their way to their heavenly reward.  Instilling the image of a loving father, He builds on the facts that when you revere the faith that we have in our fathers, that faith should grow in the persona of his child.  What a good father possesses, will be shared by the children.  More so, the relationship between a father and his child is one that should reside with an open invitation of belonging.

Thomas said to him, “Master, we do not know where you are going; how can we know the way?”

Jesus said to him, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, then you will also know my Father. From now on you do know him and have seen him.”

In these passages he uses the Power of the Wisdom of Three to make clear the solution to a very important problem. The apostles wanted to be with Jesus in Heaven but they still did not clearly see the way.  Expanding on the analogy of a good father, Jesus spells out that as a child grows in the ways of his father, through time he too becomes the father; believing what he believes, knowing what he knows, and loving what he loves.  A critical role of every father is to teach their children in the truths of this life.

Philip said to him, “Master, show us the Father, and that will be enough for us.”

Jesus said to him, “Have I been with you for so long a time and you still do not know me, Philip? Whoever has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’?  Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words that I speak to you I do not speak on my own. The Father who dwells in me is doing his works. Believe me that I am in the Father and the Father is in me, or else, believe because of the works themselves. Amen, amen, I say to you, whoever believes in me will do the works that I do, and will do greater ones than these, because I am going to the Father. And whatever you ask in my name, I will do, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask anything of me in my name, I will do it.”

Just as a good father and mother are the creators of a positive life, the father takes on the responsibility as the head of the family unit.  When the children live on past the earthly lives of their parents, it is the children who are viewed as living embodiment of their father and mother.  As we age, we physically become our parents.  If we do our part in honoring their legacy we can far exceed the good that they accomplished leaving our own legacy to our children.

Heaven is reached through a happy, healthy, and loving family environment.  This truth is supported by the fourth Judaeo/Christian commandment; Honor thy Father and Mother.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

A Parent’s Journey; Together Life

I am not sure how many of you know about the Law of Symbiosis.  It is a very interesting law that happens all around us every day of our life.  The word symbiosis actually means “together life”.  The law refers to the three types of relationships organisms share that live in close approximation to one another; often one cannot live without the other.  In extreme cases, one organism actually lives inside the other organism.  This law is the basis of ecology; the study of living organisms and their environment as well as the definition of a family environment.   This law like so many others is powered by the wisdom of three.

Relationship one is Parasitism: the parasite benefits and the host is harmed.

Relationship number two is Commensalism: one species benefits, the other is neither hurt nor helped.

The third relationship is Mutualism: when both species benefit.

In a family environment we see all three as an evolution from one to another.  As we examine each separately we can see how each pertains to a parent’s relationship to the children.

Parasitism is often viewed as a negative way to live life because of the harm the parasite brings to the host organism.  Many times in life the host organism knows the parasite is harming them but graciously allows the relationship to continue.  I can site hundreds of cases where a father or mother selflessly gave their all for the children.  When the child is young this is understandable and is a very natural occurrence. It is only when the child becomes older and knowingly “feeds” off the parent’s generosity does this affiliation become a negative situation.

As the child matures into adolescence the relationship should become one of Commensalism.  The child should benefit from the parental support and developmental guidance while the father and/or mother are made whole through the results of these efforts.  From the parent’s perspective it is enriching to be able to be a part of the fulfillment of their child’s needs and the rewards are great on many levels while the detriment is minimal.

Once the child has matured into an adult, the relationship should have reached a healthy state of Mutualism.  The child and the parent both benefit from the others existence without harm to either.  It is here that the parent can observe the start of a new cycle of relationships and the continuation of their legacy.  The child takes the lessons of the guardian, applying them in their lives while passing them along to the next generation.  The one time parasite has now becomes host to their children; the cycle of life continues and thrives.

Science proves once more the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  It is our God, through the Wisdom of Three, who gives us the blueprint we need to solve our problems.  The term symbiosis, together life, is His explanation of the steps Solutionary parents should take in order to teach others the truth to their children.  In May we celebrated Mother’s Day; in June we recognize the role of the father with their special day.  Thank you to everyone who selflessly leads another along their life’s journey with the motto; Together Life.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Our Motives Create Three Types of Actions

“Karma, akarma and vikarma are distinct actions in Buddhist and Hindi cultures.  Actions that are performed in terms of one’s prescribed duties are called karma. Actions that free one from the cycle of birth and death (Good) are called akarma. And actions that are performed through the misuse of one’s freedom and that direct one to the lower life forms (Bad) are called vikarma. Of these three types of actions, that which frees one from the bondage to karma is preferred by intelligent men.”

The above explanation of the types of actions dates back millenniums.  In modern western culture we still see these same three types of actions though they are not presented in the same manner nor do they use the Hindi titles.

First is the No Consequence Action; an action which seem to offer no evident consequences.  An example of the first type of action would be someone going for a walk around their neighborhood.  If they have no contact with any other living creature it could be viewed as the action having neither a positive nor negative impact, spinning off no future consequences. It is just an action; something which was done by someone effecting no one. In other words, “Do Nothing”.

The second described action, a Positive Consequence Action, would result in direct and indirect positive outcomes.  The person going for the walk stopped to help a neighbor load their car with groceries destined for a local soup kitchen.  Obviously this action was positive for the two loading the car as well as to those who will keep this act going once the food arrives at the kitchen.  “Do Good”

Finally, in the case of the Negative Consequence Action, the person walking through the neighborhood decided to steal the groceries; an act which would begin an ever expanding stream of negative ripples which would impact many people in a negative manner. Even the one person who stole the groceries, though self-perceived as reaping a positive outcome personally, will ultimately be impacted in a negative manner because of the self-incrimination they will carry in their mind.  “Do Harm”

Many people go through their lives experiencing consequences from an unidentifiable action or actions that cause positive or negative events in their lives.  We are all like boats floating on an ocean; effected by the waves created somewhere out at sea.  The only actions that we can affect are the ones we take ourselves; whether they are instigated by us or as a response to someone’s action.

The betterment of the world has always depended on the individual actions of each person.  When our individual actions are each based of the right choices, we do good things and our neighbors will be more likely to ride the wave toward taking positive actions themselves.  The same is true when we do the wrong things.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

All Actions Have Consequences

“How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.”

Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor

This quote from one of the founder of the art of mediation understood well that every action or choice we make comes with it consequences.  These consequences are rarely in our control and usually cannot be successfully litigated against because they are created through our actions. Continue reading “All Actions Have Consequences”

Financial Literacy Begins With the Truth

April is Financial Literacy Month but what does that mean?   The definition of the phrase tells us, it is the ability to use knowledge and skills to manage one’s financial resources effectively for lifetime financial security.

I believe that words do matter regardless of who uses them. Their meaning cannot be altered or changed without first clarifying the facts.  This belief brings me comfort.  Speaking as someone who likes peace and stability; I seek comfort by taking the time to focus on those things that should not change much.  This ultimately means the truth.  The truth never changes.  If it was true five thousand years ago and it is still true today; I am comfortable it will be true tomorrow.   Continue reading “Financial Literacy Begins With the Truth”

Your Body Doesn’t Lie

“It is as old as the truth and if you use it you believe you came out on top when, in essence, just the opposite has occurred. What am I?”

The lie is as old as the truth, at least as it pertains to our communication.  Each time that we are asked a question we make a choice of one of three ways we will answer it.  We can reply by telling the truth, telling a lie or ignoring the question all together.  Isn’t it interesting that we have only three replies; one right, one wrong and the third an acceptable concession.  These are the exact same choices we have for every problem we face.

Studies have shown that people lie more in their younger ages and even less after they reach sixty years of age.  It seems that as we mature we do get wiser.  We tell lies about many things but we do so for only three reasons; to satisfy our selfish reasons, to protect someone from perceived pain or embellish reality.  No matter the reason, lies, when discovered, always deteriorates established levels of trust.   It is trust that builds unity through relationships.

Trust is so important to our society; science has developed ways to determine when someone is lying.  One of these ways is the use of a polygraph machine.  By quizzing the subject, a polygraph examiner can look at the graphs and can see whether their vital signs changed significantly on any of the questions. If a lie is told there will be a significant change in three involuntary bodily functions; a faster heart rate, higher blood pressure and an increase in perspiration.  What science has proven is that when the body is in conflict, even with it’s own mind, the body will fight against the lie.  It acts differently in a state of conflict.  Our body wants to live in the peace provided by the truth.  

 “A man is never more truthful than when he acknowledges himself a liar.” – Mark Twain

Thanks to the Power of the Wisdom of Three we can solve our man-made problems pretty easily as long as we also stay selfless in nature.  We try so hard to uncover truths by creating top ten lists of this or the top seven ways of doing that but these will usually have redundancies that can be eliminated without harm or impact to the truth.  Three concepts are much simpler, will have much greater retention over time and they stay true to our natural laws.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” and Vice President, Education and Development at The American College of Financial Services