A Father’s Day Guide

I enjoy learning from the masters. The way that I see it, why should I have to learn from the painful beginning when others have paid the price on the behalf of others?  The Solutionaries who possess this hard earned wisdom are eager to share their education, experience, and ethical understandings. The rest of us should be ready to absorb this fountain of information.

One such Master lived over two thousand years ago; leaving behind his wisdom of truth which did not only survive but thrives through the centuries with as much power as it had when the words were first spoken.  One such lesson can act as a guide to the sons of their father.  As with each of His lessons, there can be multiple interpretations so as we celebrate our earthly fathers let’s focus on this area of application.

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You have faith in God; have faith also in me. In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places. If there were not, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back again and take you to myself, so that where I am you also may be. Where [I] am going you know the way.”

Jesus is explaining to his apostles the earthy process of finding their way to their heavenly reward.  Instilling the image of a loving father, He builds on the facts that when you revere the faith that we have in our fathers, that faith should grow in the persona of his child.  What a good father possesses will be shared by the children.  More so, the relationship between a father and his child is one that should reside with an open invitation of belonging.

Thomas said to him, “Master, we do not know where you are going; how can we know the way?”

Jesus said to him, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, then you will also know my Father. From now on you do know him and have seen him.”

In these passages he uses the Power of the Wisdom of Three to make clear the solution to a very important problem. The apostles wanted to be with Jesus in Heaven but they still did not clearly see the way.  Expanding on the analogy of a good father, Jesus spells out that as a child grows in the ways of his father, through time he too becomes the father; believing what he believes, knowing what he knows, and loving what he loves.  A critical role of every father is to teach their children in the truths of this life.

Philip said to him, “Master, show us the Father, and that will be enough for us.”

Jesus said to him, “Have I been with you for so long a time and you still do not know me, Philip? Whoever has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’?  Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words that I speak to you I do not speak on my own. The Father who dwells in me is doing his works. Believe me that I am in the Father and the Father is in me, or else, believe because of the works themselves. Amen, amen, I say to you, whoever believes in me will do the works that I do, and will do greater ones than these, because I am going to the Father. And whatever you ask in my name, I will do, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask anything of me in my name, I will do it.”

Just as a good father and mother are the creators of a positive life, the father takes on the responsibility as the head of the family unit.  When the children live past the earthly lives of their parents; it is the children who are viewed as living embodiments of their father and mother.  As we age, we physically become our parents.  If we do our part in honoring their legacy we can far exceed the good that they accomplished leaving our own legacy to our children.

Heaven is reached through a happy, healthy, and loving family environment.  This truth is supported by the fourth commandment, Honor thy Father and Mother.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

A Father’s Journey; Together Life

I am not sure how many of you know about the Law of Symbiosis.  It is a very interesting law that happens all around us every day of our life.  The word symbiosis actually means “together life”.  The law refers to the three types of relationships organisms share that live in close approximation to one another; often one cannot live without the other.  In extreme cases, one organism actually lives inside the other organism.  This law is the basis of ecology; the study of living organisms and their environment as well as the definition of a family environment.   This law like so many others is powered by the wisdom of three.

Relationship one is Parasitism: the parasite benefits and the host is harmed.

Relationship two is Commensalism: one species benefits, the other is neither hurt nor helped.

Relationship three is Mutualism: when both species benefit.

In a family environment we see all three as an evolution from one to another. As we celebrate Father’s Day let’s examine each separately as they pertain to a father’s relationship to the children.

Parasitism is often viewed as a negative way to live life because of the harm the parasite brings to the host organism.  Many times in life the host organism knows the parasite is harming them but graciously allows the relationship to continue.  I can site hundreds of cases where a father selflessly gave his all for his children.  When the child is young this is understandable and is a very natural occurrence. It is only when the child becomes older and knowingly “feeds” off the father’s generosity does this affiliation become a negative situation.

As the child matures into adolescence the relationship should become one of Commensalism.  The child should benefit from the father support and developmental guidance while the father is made whole through the results of these efforts.  From the father’s perspective it is enriching to be able to be a part of the fulfillment of their child’s needs and the rewards are great on many levels while the detriment is minimal.

Once the child has matured into an adult, the relationship should have reached a healthy state of Mutualism.  The child and the father both benefit from the others existence without harm to either.  It is here that the father can observe the start of a new cycle of relationships and the continuation of his legacy.  The child takes the lessons of the father, applying them in their lives while passing them along to the next generation.  The one time parasite now becomes host to their children; the cycle of life continues and thrives.

Science proves once more the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  It is our God, through the Wisdom of Three, who gives us the blueprint we need to solve our problems.  The term symbiosis, together life, is His explanation of the steps Solutionaries should take in order to teach others the truth.  Happy Father’s Day to everyone who selflessly leads another along their life’s journey with the motto; Together Life.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Our Motives Create Three Types of Actions

“Karma, akarma and vikarma are distinct actions in Buddhist and Hindi cultures.  Actions that are performed in terms of one’s prescribed duties are called karma. Actions that free one from the cycle of birth and death (Good) are called akarma. And actions that are performed through the misuse of one’s freedom and that direct one to the lower life forms (Bad) are called vikarma. Of these three types of actions, that which frees one from the bondage to karma is preferred by intelligent men.”

The above explanation of the types of actions dates back millenniums.  In modern western culture we still see these same three types of actions though they are not presented in the same manner nor do they use the Hindi titles.

First is the No Consequence Action; an action which seem to offer no evident consequences.  An example of the first type of action would be someone going for a walk around their neighborhood.  If they have no contact with any other living creature it could be viewed as the action having neither a positive nor negative impact, spinning off no future consequences. It is just an action; something which was done by someone effecting no one. In other words, “Do Nothing”.

The second described action, a Positive Consequence Action, would result in direct and indirect positive outcomes.  The person going for the walk stopped to help a neighbor load their car with groceries destined for a local soup kitchen.  Obviously this action was positive for the two loading the car as well as to those who will keep this act going once the food arrives at the kitchen.  “Do Good”

Finally, in the case of the Negative Consequence Action, the person walking through the neighborhood decided to steal the groceries; an act which would begin an ever expanding stream of negative ripples which would impact many people in a negative manner. Even the one person who stole the groceries, though self-perceived as reaping a positive outcome personally, will ultimately be impacted in a negative manner because of the self-incrimination they will carry in their mind.  “Do Harm”

Many people go through their lives experiencing consequences from an unidentifiable action or actions that cause positive or negative events in their lives.  We are all like boats floating on an ocean; effected by the waves created somewhere out at sea.  The only actions that we can affect are the ones we take ourselves; whether they are instigated by us or as a response to someone’s action.

The betterment of the world has always depended on the individual actions of each person.  When our individual actions are each based of the right choices, we do good things and our neighbors will be more likely to ride the wave toward taking positive actions themselves.  The same is true when we do the wrong things.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

All Actions Have Consequences

“How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.”

Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor

This quote from one of the founder of the art of mediation understood well that every action or choice we make comes with it consequences.  These consequences are rarely in our control and usually cannot be successfully litigated against because they are created through our actions. Continue reading “All Actions Have Consequences”

Financial Literacy Begins With the Truth

April is Financial Literacy Month but what does that mean?   The definition of the phrase tells us, it is the ability to use knowledge and skills to manage one’s financial resources effectively for lifetime financial security.

I believe that words do matter regardless of who uses them. Their meaning cannot be altered or changed without first clarifying the facts.  This belief brings me comfort.  Speaking as someone who likes peace and stability; I seek comfort by taking the time to focus on those things that should not change much.  This ultimately means the truth.  The truth never changes.  If it was true five thousand years ago and it is still true today; I am comfortable it will be true tomorrow.   Continue reading “Financial Literacy Begins With the Truth”

Your Body Doesn’t Lie

“It is as old as the truth and if you use it you believe you came out on top when, in essence, just the opposite has occurred. What am I?”

The lie is as old as the truth, at least as it pertains to our communication.  Each time that we are asked a question we make a choice of one of three ways we will answer it.  We can reply by telling the truth, telling a lie or ignoring the question all together.  Isn’t it interesting that we have only three replies; one right, one wrong and the third an acceptable concession.  These are the exact same choices we have for every problem we face.

Studies have shown that people lie more in their younger ages and even less after they reach sixty years of age.  It seems that as we mature we do get wiser.  We tell lies about many things but we do so for only three reasons; to satisfy our selfish reasons, to protect someone from perceived pain or embellish reality.  No matter the reason, lies, when discovered, always deteriorates established levels of trust.   It is trust that builds unity through relationships.

Trust is so important to our society; science has developed ways to determine when someone is lying.  One of these ways is the use of a polygraph machine.  By quizzing the subject, a polygraph examiner can look at the graphs and can see whether their vital signs changed significantly on any of the questions. If a lie is told there will be a significant change in three involuntary bodily functions; a faster heart rate, higher blood pressure and an increase in perspiration.  What science has proven is that when the body is in conflict, even with it’s own mind, the body will fight against the lie.  It acts differently in a state of conflict.  Our body wants to live in the peace provided by the truth.  

 “A man is never more truthful than when he acknowledges himself a liar.” – Mark Twain

Thanks to the Power of the Wisdom of Three we can solve our man-made problems pretty easily as long as we also stay selfless in nature.  We try so hard to uncover truths by creating top ten lists of this or the top seven ways of doing that but these will usually have redundancies that can be eliminated without harm or impact to the truth.  Three concepts are much simpler, will have much greater retention over time and they stay true to our natural laws.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” and Vice President, Education and Development at The American College of Financial Services

Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion

“Truth is ever to be found in simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things.”

Solutionary, Sir Isaac Newton

I have always been driven to “climb the ladder of success”.  I enjoy that metaphor the most because one of my mentors, Zig Ziglar, when speaking on the topic of the goal of success was fond of saying; “I will see you at the top.”   He was not the only one who commonly envisioned success as a state of being higher than the rest of the pack; a journey that called for the traveler to pay an extra price for getting to a place of distinction.  Anyone who ever climbed a mountain or even a hill can attest that the higher you climb the greater the toll, the harder work and the sweeter the victory.  Continue reading “Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion”

Success; Balance vs. Unity

Without question, we live is a three dimensional world.  As a species these dimensions take on many common characteristics.  Consider our human person; it has a body, mind and soul.  Thus, we live our life addressing every aspect presented to us on a physical, mental and spiritual level.  Every approach to these aspects will be made personally, professionally and spiritually.  We have no say in this, we cannot discard or add to these personas and each of us must learn to accept, understand and thrive within the confines of these realities.  When we accomplish this task well we are said to be at peace, to have “balance” in our life and we are generally viewed as someone who has their life “all together”.   Continue reading “Success; Balance vs. Unity”

Are Modern Group Demonstrations Confusing the Public By Masking the Truth?

As far back as history can reveal to us, people have gathered in an effort to make their views known.  These demonstrations have carried many names through the years but they normally fall under one of the three “R’s”; a rally, riot or rebellion.   Whether peaceful or hostile they have usually been an effective method of grabbing the attention of the decision makers while helping to sway the minds of others who may not be aware of the problem or the area of concern.  Continue reading “Are Modern Group Demonstrations Confusing the Public By Masking the Truth?”

True Love, Selfish Love; What is the Difference?

Wiser words were never spoken.  All love is not created equal and identifying the difference between true selfless love and selfish love is not always easy to determine at first blush.

Many young lovers are faced with this dilemma and they are not prepared to handle this complex problem.  Without the benefit of life’s experiences to rely on one person could be experiencing true love while being preyed upon by someone consumed by selfish love. They will both experience the stirrings of love in the form of emotions like happiness, excitement and pleasure which will entices more intimate relations to build.  Through the reciprocal nature of love, both partners will display outward signs such as tenderness, warmth, and endearment even if the end game desired is poles apart.  To complicate matters further, with all forms of love, these feelings will be returned to the one who initially offers them up regardless of the motives.  Due to our body’s hormone system, the way that we process any emotion naturally pushes the facts into the recesses of our mind so that they are rarely considered.  The ultimate goal for both people can be vastly different while emotionally identical; a breeding ground for confusion.  This leads to poor decision being made and negative outcomes that can last a life time. Continue reading “True Love, Selfish Love; What is the Difference?”