Polarized or Fractured vs. Unified

“People are all fruit from the same tree.  Not all are appreciated; especially if they are tried before they have had the chance to ripen, others turn bad because of the experiences they endure and the rest bring joy to all who value what they have to offer.”

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Modern Solutionary

We are each born of the one human race; innocent, pure and good.  As we mature or ripen, flaws begin to appear as dark blemishes on our soul; invisible to the world until we act.  It is these acts that pull us apart and fracture our society.  This darkness is a byproduct of our acting out against the truth through the selfishness of our free will and the negative influences of a harmful environment.  Through the passage of time we will either allow this darkness to rot our decisions or we can take steps to scrub away the damaging thoughts, words and deeds that spoil the original fruit we were created to be.

This cleansing work need not be a solo job.  We are provided help in the form of various people whom we meet along the pathway of life; a co-worker, a friend or possibly the mailman who we speak with every now and then.  The role that others play depends on our predisposition at the time of the encounter.  It can also fluctuate as our being evolves daily through the people that you meet in person or by video, the books that we read and our moral and ethical values.

I find that with each good person who comes into one’s life and with each final farewell made to them; we strive harder to be a better version of our self as selflessness grows from the experience they provided us.

For years, university polls have reported that we are a polarized world; a people who cannot agree on the solutions needed to solve our communal problems.  Consider the term itself, “polarized” means two opposite extremes.  We are constantly trying to identify if people are right or left, black or white, gay verses straight, Republican or Democrat and the list goes on.  I personally believe the only polarization that should be of any importance is whether we are right verses wrong but in today’s relativistic world that is the one polarization that is not popular on either side.  As a matter of fact, it begs the question “Is it society’s factorization that causes blindness toward multiple wrong leaning views?”  It is like looking at the world through broken glasses; nothing looks like what it truly is.

As I age, I am prone to turn to the Power of the Wisdom of Three for answers.  These lessons can help us Learn, Understand and Apply the solutions against the forces that cause us to pull away from one another.  I am learning daily that, just like the tree in the quote above, we are “planted” securely in our own environment. As a society our environment does not allow us to quickly change our view of the world in which we live.  In our environment, each “fruit” starts as a bud struggling for Survival, if it can draw enough nourishment from the tree it will reach a state of Adequacy and with care, nourishment and strength it can eventually arrive at a place of Prosperity.  Unlike the fruit of a tree, we individually have the ability to make decisions that will impact our future environments.  These choices will differ based on our unique perspective but, just as the real fruit has to deal with outside influencers like heat, wind and insects so are we challenged to not succumb to the destructive effects of selfish perceptions, emotionally charged lies or inscrutable people but instead to base any decision on the truth.  We are assured that the truth does not change, regardless of which environment we find ourselves in.

Think back to when you were young; we depended on others.  This dependency, through the lessons of experience, should have drastically reduced as we matured.  As we become self-reliant we learn that there are only three attributes of a self-sufficient adult who strives for a state of prosperity; we first become Dependable, then are held Accountable and once accountable we must become Responsible. These attributes are viewed as noble statuses to hold but are not without cost.  People who possess these attributes must abide by the truth or be ridiculed when they are stripped of them.  A few good and wise decisions could earn you the respect of these attributes but in order to secure these traits long term one must live a selfless and truth filled existence. This cost is high and the reason why too many people choose to be dependent instead of dependable, unaccountable instead of accountable and irresponsible instead of responsible.  It will always be those who choose to be dependent, unaccountable and the irresponsible people who draw the focus away from the truth.

The last three proofs of the “ripening of the fruit” rest in the character of the person.  To finally reach prosperity one must be viewed as Honest.  When someone lives an honest life they will be said to have Integrity. Living a life of integrity will naturally foster the Trust of all whom you deal with.  These three character traits will always be present in those people who follow the truth.  For anyone who leads others to the truth will be said to be trustworthy.

So, even though we all are fruit from the same tree, the only way for us to become a unified society is to follow the truth and the truth will not and cannot be different for everybody, it never changes, and it requires a selfless nature.  Until we understand and live these facts there will never be unity.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others. 

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion

“Truth is ever to be found in simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things.”

Solutionary, Sir Isaac Newton

I have always been driven to “climb the ladder of success”.  I enjoy that metaphor the most because one of my mentors, Zig Ziglar, when speaking on the topic of the goal of success was fond of saying; “I will see you at the top.”   He was not the only one who commonly envisioned success as a state of being higher than the rest of the pack; a journey that called for the traveler to pay an extra price for getting to a place of distinction.  Anyone who ever climbed a mountain or even a hill can attest that the higher you climb the greater the toll, the harder work and the sweeter the victory.  Continue reading “Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion”

Clamping down on Leadership

History is so important to the human race because it provides us with the experience component of wisdom.  It is wisdom that solves our troubles and without history we have no chance of overcoming our future dilemmas before they cause harm. It is through the lessons of history that we come to understand; how the eternal laws can solve these quandaries, create tools that leverage the power of the laws and master the application of the laws through the tools that we create so as to benefit all mankind.

For instance, the first clamps are said to have been developed by the Egyptian around 600 BC.  They were made by wedging two boards between large rocks.  The wedging force tightly pressed the two boards together so the glue could set, binding the boards as one.  This created stronger boards and for ship building, made a leak proof seal between boards.

Much has changed since 600 BC but the uses of modern clamps still solve the exact same problems they were originally intended to solve using the same laws of nature.  The Egyptians understood the Law of the Lever; force leveraged by a fulcrum will increase power, creating extra strength.

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Using Natural Laws to Solve our Problems

Every wise decision must be based on the truth; identifying the true problem, understanding the true motivating factors impacting those affected by the problem, and committing to the truly selfless solution as well as the consequences that will impact each of the three parties involved.  Yet, for millenniums the truth has evaded, been doubted, or has just been totally ignored by the human race.  It is through this struggle that we create, instead of solving, the problems that plague our lives.  The funny thing is that the human race is the only species on earth that has the mental capacity to challenge these eternal truths.  All other species live their lives programmed to follow the universal truths that rule all of our existence; while we live our lives questioning the very truths instilled in us from birth and that we know, deep down in our being, to be true.


Take fire, for instance; it has solved our problems from the earliest times of our existence.  It solved our heating needs, brought us more food options, and was instrumental in our creation of many tools that solved even more of our problems. These are just a few of the obvious solutions that fire has brought to us, but there are many other problems we can solve if we learn to use the building blocks that allow fire to even exist.  These building blocks are the universal truths all people have access to naturally.  Let’s use the following scenario of two people gathered around a camp fire as an example.

Jerry was enjoying his decision to move away from the rest of the community.  He built himself a crude shelter by the lake and was able to do whatever he wanted, when he wanted without first having to consider the rules of the town.  He’s always been a loner and did not like having to conform to the wishes of others.  Oh sure, the town’s people were nice enough but he thought that they seemed to judge his actions.  People noticed that he was on the lazy side and when he did have a job, he did not like being told what to do; even if he was being paid to do it.  He also felt that his neighbors looked down on him for other reasons; when he did not attend church services, his hair was longer than every other man in town, and he admits he enjoys a few too many alcoholic beverages from time to time.  Out here he could be himself.

About a year later another man, Greg, built a cabin across the lake from Jerry.  Seeing one another from time to time, they got along well enough and soon Jerry thought of him as a friend.  One evening they were sitting around a fire.  Greg asked a lot of questions about how Jerry came to be here and how he coped during the winter months.  Jerry explained that he had a small herd of sheep and he did some trapping to bringing in extra money during the slow months.  When Jerry began to quiz Greg about the same, Greg said that he relied on others.

Confused Jerry asked, “What do you mean?”

“I have two other “neighbors” who bring me what I need.”

“How do you pay them?”

“I don’t.” said Greg.

“Why would they do that?”

Taking a stick from the wood pile, Greg nudges a burning log off the fire and to the side, away from the stack of burning embers.  “Jerry, watch what happens to that log.”

The two men sat quietly watching as the burning log slowly began to cool to the sight. The once glowing amber log died to a coal gray color of ash and the dancing flames quickly shrank and eventually faded away completely.  “You see Jerry, without the support of the community of the other logs and the shared energy of their embers, the isolated log quickly dies away.”

Greg coldly stares down Jerry and whispers, “I expect your support.”

The next day, Jerry packed up his wagon and moved back into the town.

Jerry learned valuable lessons.  Never confuse your desires with your values.  People who make decisions based on emotions, desires, or false ideologies can easily be taken advantage of by the next passionate, likeable character to walk into their life.  There will always be three communities, one with whom you share core values, the one whose core values you oppose, and the one that tries to hide their core values.  Sadly the utopia does not exist where all residents of the community share completely in all values.  However, when you do find the place where the majority of your core values are shared; unity, peace and respect will live supreme.

It would serve us well to remember and understand the message behind the words of Michelangelo, “Only God creates; the rest of us just copy.”

We can draw so many lessons from this story, all of them compliments of the natural laws.  First, people, like all animals, are not meant to survive alone.  The Law of Survival teaches us that we each depend on one another.  Humans are by nature a social animal.

“No man is an island unto himself.”

John Donne

The other, less obvious lessons come from the Law of Fire.  We know that the logs burn because all three ingredients are present for a fire to start; fuel, air, and the ignition source.  As in all aspects of our life, as long as the law is followed, there will be truth and the outcome is predictable.  If that is true, why do you think that the log that rolled away from the pile stopped burning?  It is simple, either one of the three ingredients were missing or a fourth overpowering element was present into the mix.

To apply any law to one’s life we are required to be educated, have experience and apply the spiritual, ethical and moral precepts in a selfless manner.  The education and experience could consist of understanding what conditions make wood the best fuel.  It is the wood fibers that are combustible, but logs naturally contain a very non-combustible ingredient, water.  When logs are piled together in a fire, their unified presence increases the heat substantially.  This magnified heat can overcome a higher level of non-combustible water; turning the fourth ingredient into steam.  Once separated from the higher heat source, the water overwhelms the fuel component and the reduced heat as the ignition source.

When this lesson is applied to our life, we can exchange the water in the wood for lies, deceit and trickery in our lives.  Every one of us is basically the same; just like that pile of logs and we each have a little of these falsehoods in our lives.  When we are trying to do the right thing, it is much easier when they are surrounded by people of like mind, words, and deeds.  However, when we separate from the group, for whatever the reason, and if too much untruth is introduced to their life, we quickly begin to burn out.  The flames of truth are smothered and the blackness of deception envelops us.

That explains the introduction of a fourth ingredient but what about the loss or reduction of one of the three required components?  Think back to that rolled out log. The area where it lays flat against the earth has no way to receive the air needed to continue to burn, the rest of area of the log which is producing the needed heat source is not enough to over compensate for the presence of the water. This in turn reduces the temperature even more allowing the water to extinguish the rest of the fire.

These realities should prove to us that it takes all three areas of our life to make us burn with the passion we are meant to deliver.  Our three ingredients for our fire are our body, mind, and soul.  The other “logs” that we depend on come from the “forest” we create from our three personas, personal, professional, and spiritual.  We need all of these to burn bright and if one of our three ingredients are covered up for some reason, we need the other “logs” more than ever in our life.  It is almost guaranteed that at some time in our life, one or more of our ingredients will be negatively affected by something.  Do not lose hope; instead turn to those key “logs” as a trustworthy source of truth, strength, and courage.  Together we can more than make up the difference.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President, Education & Development at The American College of Financial Services and the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Faith in the Leadership; Professing is not Enough

solutionWhen you leader others, you want them; no you need them to have faith in your thoughts, words, and deeds. If they do not have that faith, they will falter when things get tough, or worst, they will seek out another leader whom they perceive will better fit their needs. For the leaders of companies, organizations, or even families this lack of retention can be a very big problem. Continue reading “Faith in the Leadership; Professing is not Enough”

Our Three Final Wise Decisions

“There are only three certainties in life; breathing, taxes, and death.”

Anthony “Tony” Boquet

It was Ben Franklin who coined the phrase, “There are but two certainties in life; death and taxes.”   Now realize that this statement was made as a jab of the ever growing need to fund the government machine but he was absolutely right in the fact that taxes will last as long as we live and death is a certain end to our life.  However, in an effort to satisfy my craving for accuracy, I purpose a third certainty; the only sustaining involuntary function that maintains life; breathing.  We know that Ben was a fan of debates and was also a very intelligent man.  I think that if he and I could have reflected together on this comment, he would have agreed that I was correct in my addition.  Man only needs three things for human life; Air, Water and Food.  Of the three it is only air that is consumed involuntarily; thus there can be no life without the act of breathing.

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They are to be Honored and Memorialized

Memorial DaySpringtime is a lovely time of the year. The air is filled with the smells of blossoms and fresh cut grass. The comfortable temperatures entice and draw us to enjoy the outdoors. This weekend will be no different in those ways but you will have the added benefit of seeing many stars and stripes flapping in the breeze. Your family may take part in a parade or host a family picnic to recognize a special group of loved ones that you wish to remember. Regardless of the activities you participate in this weekend; I hope we all set aside time to celebrate this most righteous of holidays. For it is as a united Country that we should set aside our differences to come together as a whole to honor and memorialize those brave men and women who gave their all so that each of us can continued to live in freedom, liberty, and peace. Continue reading “They are to be Honored and Memorialized”

The Mother Cell

Mother'sLoveThe human species is an ever-changing creature. Created as a physical, mental and spiritual being; we live each day as a somewhat new entity.  Each day we change in multitude of ways; most of them occurring without us even noticing they are happening. In addition to the voluntary changes we make in our lives; our body goes through involuntary changes internally at a chemical and cellular level, externally our hair falls out and what stays grows longer.  On a mental level; our brain functions work and change around the clock, never resting.  On the spiritual side of the house; from moment to moment our faith and beliefs can change as we face challenging situations or joyful moments of wonder. Whether we are asleep or awake, it makes no difference; we are changing.  Continue reading “The Mother Cell”

What Are They Worth to the Team?

Anyone who has ever managed or led a team of people will have been Your view of yourselfquestioned about the worth of the various team members.  In today’s hypersensitive world of income fairness this has become a major issue. All people want and deserve to be treated fairly in all aspect of their employment but they rarely, if ever, agree that they might not deserve the same wages as others doing the same job description.  It should never matter what color the person’s skin is or if they are male or female.  The sole barometer should be can they do the job and if they do it better, they should be compensated accordingly.  To demonstrate how this should work, let me share with you a story I was given many years ago.  Continue reading “What Are They Worth to the Team?”