A Parent’s Journey; Together Life

I am not sure how many of you know about the Law of Symbiosis.  It is a very interesting law that happens all around us every day of our life.  The word symbiosis actually means “together life”.  The law refers to the three types of relationships organisms share that live in close approximation to one another; often one cannot live without the other.  In extreme cases, one organism actually lives inside the other organism.  This law is the basis of ecology; the study of living organisms and their environment as well as the definition of a family environment.   This law like so many others is powered by the wisdom of three.

Relationship one is Parasitism: the parasite benefits and the host is harmed.

Relationship number two is Commensalism: one species benefits, the other is neither hurt nor helped.

The third relationship is Mutualism: when both species benefit.

In a family environment we see all three as an evolution from one to another.  As we examine each separately we can see how each pertains to a parent’s relationship to the children.

Parasitism is often viewed as a negative way to live life because of the harm the parasite brings to the host organism.  Many times in life the host organism knows the parasite is harming them but graciously allows the relationship to continue.  I can site hundreds of cases where a father or mother selflessly gave their all for the children.  When the child is young this is understandable and is a very natural occurrence. It is only when the child becomes older and knowingly “feeds” off the parent’s generosity does this affiliation become a negative situation.

As the child matures into adolescence the relationship should become one of Commensalism.  The child should benefit from the parental support and developmental guidance while the father and/or mother are made whole through the results of these efforts.  From the parent’s perspective it is enriching to be able to be a part of the fulfillment of their child’s needs and the rewards are great on many levels while the detriment is minimal.

Once the child has matured into an adult, the relationship should have reached a healthy state of Mutualism.  The child and the parent both benefit from the others existence without harm to either.  It is here that the parent can observe the start of a new cycle of relationships and the continuation of their legacy.  The child takes the lessons of the guardian, applying them in their lives while passing them along to the next generation.  The one time parasite has now becomes host to their children; the cycle of life continues and thrives.

Science proves once more the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  It is our God, through the Wisdom of Three, who gives us the blueprint we need to solve our problems.  The term symbiosis, together life, is His explanation of the steps Solutionary parents should take in order to teach others the truth to their children.  In May we celebrated Mother’s Day; in June we recognize the role of the father with their special day.  Thank you to everyone who selflessly leads another along their life’s journey with the motto; Together Life.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Our Motives Create Three Types of Actions

“Karma, akarma and vikarma are distinct actions in Buddhist and Hindi cultures.  Actions that are performed in terms of one’s prescribed duties are called karma. Actions that free one from the cycle of birth and death (Good) are called akarma. And actions that are performed through the misuse of one’s freedom and that direct one to the lower life forms (Bad) are called vikarma. Of these three types of actions, that which frees one from the bondage to karma is preferred by intelligent men.”

The above explanation of the types of actions dates back millenniums.  In modern western culture we still see these same three types of actions though they are not presented in the same manner nor do they use the Hindi titles.

First is the No Consequence Action; an action which seem to offer no evident consequences.  An example of the first type of action would be someone going for a walk around their neighborhood.  If they have no contact with any other living creature it could be viewed as the action having neither a positive nor negative impact, spinning off no future consequences. It is just an action; something which was done by someone effecting no one. In other words, “Do Nothing”.

The second described action, a Positive Consequence Action, would result in direct and indirect positive outcomes.  The person going for the walk stopped to help a neighbor load their car with groceries destined for a local soup kitchen.  Obviously this action was positive for the two loading the car as well as to those who will keep this act going once the food arrives at the kitchen.  “Do Good”

Finally, in the case of the Negative Consequence Action, the person walking through the neighborhood decided to steal the groceries; an act which would begin an ever expanding stream of negative ripples which would impact many people in a negative manner. Even the one person who stole the groceries, though self-perceived as reaping a positive outcome personally, will ultimately be impacted in a negative manner because of the self-incrimination they will carry in their mind.  “Do Harm”

Many people go through their lives experiencing consequences from an unidentifiable action or actions that cause positive or negative events in their lives.  We are all like boats floating on an ocean; effected by the waves created somewhere out at sea.  The only actions that we can affect are the ones we take ourselves; whether they are instigated by us or as a response to someone’s action.

The betterment of the world has always depended on the individual actions of each person.  When our individual actions are each based of the right choices, we do good things and our neighbors will be more likely to ride the wave toward taking positive actions themselves.  The same is true when we do the wrong things.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

All Actions Have Consequences

“How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.”

Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor

This quote from one of the founder of the art of mediation understood well that every action or choice we make comes with it consequences.  These consequences are rarely in our control and usually cannot be successfully litigated against because they are created through our actions. Continue reading “All Actions Have Consequences”

Your Body Doesn’t Lie

“It is as old as the truth and if you use it you believe you came out on top when, in essence, just the opposite has occurred. What am I?”

The lie is as old as the truth, at least as it pertains to our communication.  Each time that we are asked a question we make a choice of one of three ways we will answer it.  We can reply by telling the truth, telling a lie or ignoring the question all together.  Isn’t it interesting that we have only three replies; one right, one wrong and the third an acceptable concession.  These are the exact same choices we have for every problem we face.

Studies have shown that people lie more in their younger ages and even less after they reach sixty years of age.  It seems that as we mature we do get wiser.  We tell lies about many things but we do so for only three reasons; to satisfy our selfish reasons, to protect someone from perceived pain or embellish reality.  No matter the reason, lies, when discovered, always deteriorates established levels of trust.   It is trust that builds unity through relationships.

Trust is so important to our society; science has developed ways to determine when someone is lying.  One of these ways is the use of a polygraph machine.  By quizzing the subject, a polygraph examiner can look at the graphs and can see whether their vital signs changed significantly on any of the questions. If a lie is told there will be a significant change in three involuntary bodily functions; a faster heart rate, higher blood pressure and an increase in perspiration.  What science has proven is that when the body is in conflict, even with it’s own mind, the body will fight against the lie.  It acts differently in a state of conflict.  Our body wants to live in the peace provided by the truth.  

 “A man is never more truthful than when he acknowledges himself a liar.” – Mark Twain

Thanks to the Power of the Wisdom of Three we can solve our man-made problems pretty easily as long as we also stay selfless in nature.  We try so hard to uncover truths by creating top ten lists of this or the top seven ways of doing that but these will usually have redundancies that can be eliminated without harm or impact to the truth.  Three concepts are much simpler, will have much greater retention over time and they stay true to our natural laws.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” and Vice President, Education and Development at The American College of Financial Services

Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion

“Truth is ever to be found in simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things.”

Solutionary, Sir Isaac Newton

I have always been driven to “climb the ladder of success”.  I enjoy that metaphor the most because one of my mentors, Zig Ziglar, when speaking on the topic of the goal of success was fond of saying; “I will see you at the top.”   He was not the only one who commonly envisioned success as a state of being higher than the rest of the pack; a journey that called for the traveler to pay an extra price for getting to a place of distinction.  Anyone who ever climbed a mountain or even a hill can attest that the higher you climb the greater the toll, the harder work and the sweeter the victory.  Continue reading “Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion”

Success; Balance vs. Unity

Without question, we live is a three dimensional world.  As a species these dimensions take on many common characteristics.  Consider our human person; it has a body, mind and soul.  Thus, we live our life addressing every aspect presented to us on a physical, mental and spiritual level.  Every approach to these aspects will be made personally, professionally and spiritually.  We have no say in this, we cannot discard or add to these personas and each of us must learn to accept, understand and thrive within the confines of these realities.  When we accomplish this task well we are said to be at peace, to have “balance” in our life and we are generally viewed as someone who has their life “all together”.   Continue reading “Success; Balance vs. Unity”

Down Is Not a Permanent State of Being

“I have been up and I have been down; and I will surely be both again.” Anthony “Tony” Boquet, A Modern Solutionary

Much has been written about the ups and downs of business. Whenever this topic is discussed it is widely accepted that up is good and down is bad but what about in between?

For those of us in a sales role we are acutely aware of the importance of keeping our sale activity up because our income and very possibly even our job will depend on it.  If you have ever been elected to an office or position you will naturally hone in on whether or not your poll numbers are up or down.  In accounting offices worldwide they focus on having the revenue up and the expense field down.  Even the CEOs have to report to their board of directors on whether the corporate graphs are tracking up or down.  From these simple examples it is clear that businesses makes decisions based on what is either up or down; not so much on what is in the middle.  I wonder that since this seems so important, why we shouldn’t examine the truths or laws that have the power to drive these critical movements.

Let’s begin with the basic truth found in the laws of physics that states that in order for anything to move, energy is required.  Due to this fact we must understand the first Law of Thermodynamics.

That law says that energy and matter cannot be created or destroyed it can only change form. To anyone who has ever worked in a manual labor position, it is clear that energy is a must.  The more energy that we give to any project the more results or heat that will be generated from those efforts.  Thus, when we are going in the upward direction you can bet we are applying more energy to the work that we are doing.  As with all things energy ebbs and flows, resulting in less or more results. Being that it is a natural and true occurrence we shouldn’t expect anyone or any entity to be constantly in the up or down position. The middle seems like a good place to regroup in preparation for the next upward drive.

More so, this law demands by its very existence that since energy cannot be destroyed, we should be in a constant state of motion. With that said, motion alone will not determine which direction we will be moving or at what speed. To help us solve that problem we must turn to another natural law, the Law of Gestation.

This law speaks to the three states or location of any matter; the beginning or down, the middle or center and the end or up.  This truth also explains that you can only go up if you are first down and when you reach the bottom, there is only one definite way to go.  This law fortifies the truth that it is literally impossible to stay in the up position just as it is equally impossible to stay in the middle or down position.  Every journey upward must, by truth and law, start from a lower position so if you are ever down, rejoice, the future is bright.

By understanding these laws of nature we should never expect a constant upward or downward trend in anything that we do.  Instead, we should stay strong so our energy is high, stay positive so the energy is directed in the right direction and stay focused on the truths because the matter that is you is the only matter that matters.  We can only change our self and the truth is the only path that leads to positive change.

I have more good news.  We are given another natural law that helps us solve the problem of maintaining control.  As with every law it must be known, understood and accepted before it can be used successfully to solve our problems. The Law of Attraction says that whatever we think, we believe then we become.  If you want to be successful you must first think of yourself as successful, believe you are successful and soon you will become successful.

By learning, professing and living these irrefutable laws we can become the person we are destined to be, a Solutionary to the world.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President, Education & Development at The American College and the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

School Shootings; A Symptom of a Major Problem

“An individual’s reality can and will change based on their actions guided by their thoughts, reasons and ideals.  There will always be bad reasons for good ideas and good reasons for bad ideas.  This is why moral people struggle to find common ground on ideological differences.  The truth, however, is the casualty; it commonly gets lost in the mix.”

Anthony “Tony” Boquet

Schools were created as a societal method of teaching our children how to solve problems. When the painful results of our problems show up on campus we must realize that the system is broken.  People all agree, it’s time for these violent symptoms and the problems that they represent to be fixed.  They cry out for something to be done to correct the situation but the areas of attention is off the mark and is not the problem so nothing makes a difference.

Why?   Continue reading “School Shootings; A Symptom of a Major Problem”

Searching for the Gold of Truth

Panning for gold was a difficult and time consuming way to earn a living.  During America’s Gold Rush heyday people were drawn to panning as an occupation.  The job either paid extremely well if you were part of the few or it was an economical disaster for the vast majority of the others.  The difference in the payout was completely dependent on only three things; the amount of effort one applied in the search, the amount of sediment that one filtered and the ability of the person to identify three key identifiers; what does gold look like, where does it hide and how does it react when found.

Gold is an element that exists alongside every other mineral, rock or metal found in the earth so why did people choose gold as the popular choice for currency?

Gold’s color is very appealing and attracts attention.  It is strong, durable and doesn’t corrode when it comes into contact with other element.  Finally, it is rare enough to generate an intrinsic value but available enough to supply the needs of the many.

As a student of the truth and a Financial Planner by trade, I found these similarities remarkable when comparing gold to the truth.

In the search for truth the “miner” is called a Solutionary.  The truth can be equally as hard to find for the same reasons as gold, it takes the same three things to successfully discover both and the Solutionary has to be aware of the three identifiers.  They must know what the truth looks like, where can it be found and how does it react differently than the other information that they are sifting through.

Like gold the truth resides alongside an abundant amount of minutia in the form of believable lies, desirable falsehoods and the chunks of the partial facts.  These other “elements” will not corrode or tarnish the truth.  These non-truths are spread out of a vast area of knowledge so to save times, the sincere seeker must find the trusted spots to begin mining.  Then one has to take the time needed to sift through this pile of weaker debris in order to expose the valuable gold of truth.  Only then can a Solutionary with the appropriate education, experience and moral/ethical fortitude learn, profess and live the treasure that we call the truth; solving the problems for others.

On the surface, the truth can be hard to spot but if one know where and what to look for, it is fairly easy to find.  The truth will always be based on Natural Law so any contradiction to the laws is the first sign of fool’s gold.  The truth will also be the right and best choice for all who it impacts.  If any of the three parties of the solution is not positively affected by it’s long term outcomes it is likely a pebble to be discorded.

Finally, truth always reacts differently from false information.  Just like gold is easy to separate from the lighter sediment, so too the truth does not wash away with the passage of time.  What was true once is always true.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Natural Law; The Basis of our Common Law

“Even Aristotle, a Greek pagan, would have agreed with the Christians on choices and / or decisions which would contradict with the natural flow of nature. He is credited with establishing the Law he called, The Natural Law: A paradigm that posits the existence of a set of laws whose content is set by nature and that therefore has validity everywhere.”

(International Encyclopedia of the Social Sciences)

I think Aristotle and I would have been great friends because we both agree that it is nature that rules the truth and the truth can be found in all things naturally.  It is when society tolerates the opposite that problems cannot be solved.

Humans are the only creature with the mental capacity to make decisions that contradict that which is natural and when they do they are stupid enough to believe it is the true and right way of doing things.

However, it is evident that any time such decisions or choices are made it creates a multitude of additional problems for the person and all those that are effected by the choice or decision.  Problems are tied to the Wisdom of Three in the same manner as their solutions are in that there are always three stakeholders to every problem or solution.  The person or entity creating the issue, the person, persons, or entity directly affected by the problem / solution, and those indirectly impacted by the outcomes. Continue reading “Natural Law; The Basis of our Common Law”