Passionate; Should Be a Good Thing, Right?

I love words!

Words are the basis for all written and spoken communications.  When we offer, the right words, at the right time, to the right audience they can create a wave of change spanning millenniums of human existence regardless of the language in which they were originally spoken.  The Right Words, Right Time and Right Audience culminates into the Law of the Message; another natural law and an example of the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  

The first and the key driver of that law, is a word not even incorporated in the sentence; the word, Truth.  The right words will always be true. Only meaningful statements of truths can endure the passage of time when relayed to the right person at the right time. 

Consider that we are living in a time when each person receives an overwhelming amount of daily information.  Televisions, computer programs, internet sites, texts and voice messaging are just a small list of the methods in which we receive spoken or written words.  As a matter of fact, worldwide we process over forty-four zettabytes of information.  If this number is correct, it means there are forty times more bytes of information than there are stars in the observable universe.  With this example of the star filled night, if only half of the stars represent truthful information and each star look just alike, you can begin to see why, in today’s world, it is so hard to identify the truth from the lies.

The second requirement is equally tricky; what is meant by the right time?  This speaks to the old adage, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”  In order to foster change in our selves; a person has to be in the right frame of mind to learn, profess and live the truth.  It is only then that they will accept the fact that they have been living a lie and become open to making the required changes in their life.  Timing is literally everything.

The receiver of the message will know when the time is right but the one providing the truth, may not. This is why it is so important for those who do profess the truths to do so daily and to as many people as possible. We may never know when an individual will be at their “right time”.

The third aspect of the law deals with the right audience.  Think back to the amount of data one consumes during the day.  It is coming from a multitude of sources and is being distributed to an even greater number of individual audiences.  It is the individual who controls the acceptance from the sources.  If I am trying to learn more about politics, during an election year, then I have to decide what information sources are going to provide me the most accurate information on the subject.  When the truth is revealed and I am open to accepting it, the impact can be life changing.  The same can be said for overcoming alcohol or drug abuse, extramarital affairs or any other vice carried on through living a life built around lies. This Law works every time, for every topic and for everyone once they are open to believing the truth.

Through my life’s journey, I’ve found that meaningful change, through the truth of wisdom, excites me!  The one word that defines this excitement the very best is “Passionate”.  Do you know the word “passion” comes from the Latin word, “patior”, which means to suffer?  The word ‘passionate’, literally means “willing to suffer” and it is one of those words where the modern application appears disconnected from the original meaning.  No longer does the word “passionate” conjure up images of suffering yet when we are truly passionate about something or someone, aren’t we willing to suffer for them?  That is the true essence of our modern day passions.

When it comes to learning, professing and living the truth we should all be willing to suffer so that our self and others can benefit from the positive changes the truth can bring into our lives.  Once anyone experiences the positive impact that the truth can have on their lives, they will never settle for the wrong information or the acceptable concessions that most people choose to live by.  Ethically and morally we owe it to those who depend on us to be passionate Solutionaries when it comes to the conveying the truth.       

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Risk verses Reward

Thinking ahead

I have been a student of life for nearly fifty-nine years.  I have read literally thousands of books, met thousands of people and traveled to many distant lands.  Each of these experiences have pushed, pulled and in some cases cut away the clay of my existing self.  During this lifelong transformation process I have come to understand the complexity of what is truly meant by the statement; risk verses reward. 

Following my mantra of the Power of the Wisdom of Three; once more we are given a blueprint comprised of only three dynamic components.  When we put them in context, they make the difficult simple.  We have to deal with the risk to reach the reward but it is what is in the middle that sets us apart. For even if we know the actual risk and we know the final reward, it is the unknown between the two that shapes who we really are.

In finance, risk verses reward is a common refrain.  The riskier the investment, the more reward potential on the other side.  It makes it sound simple to the investor when in essence the trail to the reward is a complex path littered with pitfalls, traps and snares.  That is why the reward is not guaranteed; most investors need to rely on the skills of an experienced, educated and ethical advisor; a Solutionary, to take them through the unknown obstacles.

In life, we encounter countless examples of risk verses reward situations; many of which go unnoticed; that is, until the reward becomes a peril.  This world presents us with innumerable invisible risks but the seen rewards are just as plentiful when we are willing and able to challenge the obstacles.  It is proven that we have to take risks if we desire the big rewards but only when you are free to make those choices can we control the outcomes of our desires. 

As I look at this pandemic world of today, I see a plethora of scared people unwilling to conquer their fear. Cowering people do not take risks because the fear of the unknown is greater than their will.  Likewise, they are barred from reaping the big rewards not because they are not free to do so but because they choose to be captive to their fears.  They are not willing to endure the potential of the imagined pain.  Conversely, a free society filled with reward driven people will never succumb to fear for very long.  It is not in their nature to do so.  That is why some people are thriving while others choose to remain captive.  The fearful will see opening up the economy as reckless, the reward driven will take on the risk, overcoming their fears to reach their just reward.  The fearful refuse to admit that one can be courageous without being reckless to themselves or others.  That is not the America of our ancestors.   

It is all about one’s definition of life.  Our ancestors faced perils every day but their dreams were worth the risks.  They knew that they may not realize their dreams but they were willing to die trying.  During the trek across the American wilderness of the 1800s; fathers, mothers and children journeyed into the perilous unknown, many never arriving to their destination.  If they could have seen what became of this great Country, I believe they would do it all again.  They are the reason we are still the Land of Free and the Home of the Brave.

I too choose to live free; as if every day maybe my last.  I am educated to the risks, willing to mitigate them where possible but willing to face them head on.  In my world, I refuse to live as if I am already dead because I’ve learned; there are worse things than death.               

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” and Vice President, Education and Development at The American College of Financial Services

Success; What Does It Truly Mean?

Sphere of Success©

I mentor people whenever possible because I was blest to be mentored; benefiting greatly due to their efforts.  My mentors all had one thing in common, they all believed in the same learning structure; “Keeping It Simple”!  That must be why, to this day, I like learning things that never change.  The Natural Laws, eternal truths, never ever change.  This is why I can say, without question, we live is a three-dimensional world.  It is a Law; it has to happen.

For every earthly species, these dimensions take on many common characteristics.  Consider our human person; it has a body, mind and a soul.  Thus, we live our life addressing every aspect presented to us on a physical, mental and spiritual level.  Our approach to these aspects will be made personally, professionally and spiritually. Yes, Mr. or Mrs. Sceptic, this applies to you too.  People have no say in this, we cannot discard or add to these personas and each of us must learn to accept, understand and thrive within the confines of these realities. It is only when we accomplish this task well, we are said to be at peace. Finding “balance” in our life, we will be generally viewed as someone who has their life “all together”.   Success!!

Many people strive for this nirvana their entire life and are never able to reach this place of “all togetherness”.  They are good, hardworking, educated and focused people but something still seems to get in the way.  This main hurtle is due to one major obstacle; we simply never truly learn, then profess and finally live the truth.  For example, we pick and choose when we will hide, disown or ignore one or more of our three personas.  We chose to be a different person at church than who we are at the office or on the golf course.  We rarely intentionally bring all three personas together as one.  In other words, we go through life denying to ourselves; who we really are in respect to one of more of our personas.  This denial causes us to live a lie.  A secret you might want to write down is that long term success can never be reached through falsehoods we convince ourselves to be true.  As my mom use to say, “The truth will always be revealed.”

These natural personas are not man-made; we were created with all three and we will die with all three.  Human kind cannot change these to suit our own desires; they are part of the natural laws that we have to live with.  As with all-natural laws, they are all true but not all people like the truth.  Some spend their life in a state of internal conflict fighting a battle that they cannot win.  During these skirmishes, three common strategies are used.  

The most common is when we try to compartmentalize the three personas. It goes something like this; “When we work; we work, when we play; we play and when we pray; we pray”.  Thanks to our crazy litigious society, human resource departments struggle with this model because it might satisfy the attorneys but, in reality, the natural truth will always be revealed.  Business culture tries to keep the three completely separate, appropriate and very tidy.  It is like “trying to satisfy a three-headed beast.”  This plan never works long term because one or more of the three will eventually cross the imaginary line; we were not wired to be only one persona at a time.  The unity of the three make us who we are.

The second most common plan is for the person to try to intentionally remove, extinguish or ignore one or more of their personas.  The deleted persona of choice is routinely their spiritual nature.  We live in a secular culture that promotes disagreeing, discrediting and disavowing spirituality so denying this persona makes you one of the cool kids.  Picture your body represented as our three triangle circle above; if you remove one of the triangles everyone can tell something is missing. 

The last arrangement is where we spend all of our time focusing on only one persona.  This is the technique we use in the attempt to “get ahead” in business.  We rationalize that we will spend all of our time, talents and treasures on our professional nature which will make us successful, then, once the business is up and running, we will have more time for family, friends and God.  All I can say is, good luck with that one. What generally happens in this scenario is when the business person finally gets around to doing the same for the other two personas, they find that the people whom are touched by those parts of their life are no longer there. 

The truth is, we cannot successfully separate and then balance the three personas; our nature does not work well in this fragmented way.  The winning formula is to use the truth completely and in unity for each persona.  We must be deliberate in doing the right things; this requires learning, professing and living the truth while striving to do our very best and always treat others how we would want to be treated.

The triangle that assures that we can do all of this with a pure mission is the hierarchy of Love.  Once again, we must do this in unity and without segregation of choice.  We are called to love our Creator, our neighbor and our self as one.   When I am spending time with my family and friends; I am also benefiting my work life by relaxing and the activities that I am doing should also be pleasing to my God.  When I am working I do so to benefit my family and my God.  When I am being spiritual it is to bring me to a closer relationship with my God, my spouse, my parents, siblings, friends, co-workers and supervisors.  Victory can only be obtained by our ability to combine the three personas into a single cohesive unit; one well-rounded successful trinity of a person.     

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” and Vice President, Education and Development at The American College of Financial Services

Love to the Third Power

“My grown child is in an abusive relationship and I don’t know what to do to fix it.”

“If only I did not have all these problems to deal with in my life, my anxieties would be manageable.”

“My son was shot and killed; we have to outlaw guns.”  

“Why does my spouse drink so much?”

“If things would finally go my way, I would not be so depressed and would not have to drink so much.”

“I work hard but I continue to be overlooked for a promotion.  What can I do to make my boss aware of this mistake?”

“Consumers are being taken advantage of every day by the unscrupulous people they hire to do work for them. We need to have a new regulation to protect them.”

These are common views and thoughts of many people all around the world.  Who knows, you might have said or felt these exact sentiments in your own life at one time or another.  Some people can get past these obstacles, moving on to great happiness and success, while others turn these hardships into a permanent way of life or worse, the reason for their ultimate demise.  What is it that makes the difference between flourishing out of despair and allowing the despair to control you very existence?

First let’s consider the views above.  What is the common denominator in all of those statements? 

If you said, that in each of those cases, bad behaviors, poor choices or habitual decisions were made you would be on the right track.  Look at them again and consider, who the person making the statement, views as the one in need of change?  Correct, in each of those statements the person feeling the anxiety, depression, or the injustice does not view themself as the one with the problem needing correcting; it is always someone or something else at fault for the pain that they or their loved ones are suffering.  In cases where a loved one is involved; it is not even that person who bears the responsibility.  In their mind; a non involved third party should be the blame or in some cases, our government should be responsible to fix it.  This is at the heart of the problem of selfishness. The problem makes me suffer but someone else is the blame and someone else should solve it so I don’t have to change.   

I have written in one of my books, “Selfishness causes blindness to the truth; it is only the brightness of Love to the Third Power that can remove the darkness of deception, bringing clarity of sight.  For in order to relieve our problems we must first make a wise and true decision based on a compiled list of the best choice options of which to select.  However, this successful choice process first requires that we know, experience, and believe the truth.”  

Love to the Third Power is the only true and selfless love.  Love found in the bodies, minds and souls of those who demonstrate a caring attitude through thoughts, words, and deeds for those who share a strong unwavering emotional bond with you; a bond consistent with the relationship shared by the three parties affected by every decision.  On a family level it would be your family members, the people of the community in which you live, and your spiritual family who share and teach your moral values.  On a business level it would be the businesses’ associates, the consumers and people impacted indirectly by the company’s product or service.  When all three are considered and satisfied before a decision is made, wisdom will prevail. 

If it is true that all of the people above share the same selfish views yet some of them are still able to rise above these hardships, what is the differentiator that makes that possible?  It is something that I call, Personal Growth toward Wisdom. 

Personal growth toward wisdom is simply a shift in attitude.  In order to succeed and overcome any hardship a person must first take ownership of their problems and solutions they choose. When your attitude shifts to others, personal growth and your wise decisions can begin to address the true problems causing the other issues needing to be changed.  It is true, that not all problems can be solved to our satisfaction but we have to face the truth that all man-made problems can be solved by man, even if the solution is not one that brings us the pleasure we desire or immediately relieves the pains of past bad choices.

To illustrate these realities, recently I was on a panel discussing the importance of freedom of choice.  A fellow panelist, a psycho-therapist, made a comment that I found extremely interesting and culturally revealing.  He exclaimed to the audience, “Rational people cannot make bad decisions.” 

This was immediately countered by a vocal audience member who shouted, “I do not agree with that statement.”  The physiologist asked him, “Please explain why you feel that way.” 

After being brought a microphone, “I decided to marry the wrong person; a crazy person who for many years caused tremendous pain and struggles to me and our family.  We finally decided to divorce.  It was the wrong decision to choose her to marry.” 

The therapist asked him, “What made it a mistake?”

Taking his time before answering, “I did not know at the time of our wedding that she was an alcoholic.  After the fact, she would never seek help and the problem only got worse as time went by.”

“So, what you are saying is that given the information you had at the time of the wedding you thought she was the right person?” 

“Yes but if I had known she was an alcoholic I would probably not have married her.” 

The therapist said with a smile, “You see, you didn’t make a bad decision.  Any rational person would have likely made the same decision given the information you had at the time. You are being overly hard on yourself.”

After hearing this, I could not stay quiet any longer.  “Excuse me, may I ask a few questions?”  Standing I asked the audience member, “Without getting too personal, how long did you date before your wedding date?”

“Three months.” 

“During those three months, did you ever witness her drinking to excess?”

“Oh sure, we attended a couple of pretty wild parties while we were dating.” 

“You didn’t have a problem with her abuse of alcohol while you were dating?  Why?”

“Well, to be honest, we were both drinking heavy while we were partying.  It was only later that I found out that she was drinking heavily almost every day, even while at work.” 

Turning to the therapist, I asked, “Do you consider yourself a good representation of a “rational person”? 

He loudly proclaimed, “Yes I do.”

“Would you have married someone after only dating three months?”

He admitted softly, “No.”

“Me either and given the other information this gentleman shared, if I were in his shoes, I too would admit to making a mistake for choosing her as my wife.  The true fact is, only after having experienced deep pain through the relationship, does he believe he did not have enough information to make the right choice.  If he would have spent a little more time getting to know this woman before making a lifelong commitment, he would have started to question his judgment sooner than later.”

The therapist silently nodded his head in acknowledgement.  

Turning back to the audience member, I asked, “One more question, did you learn from your mistake?” 

“I did but way too late!” As I turned to return to my seat the gentlemen shouted, “And I should have listened to my parents and some of my friends…they tried to warn me but I was too young and foolish to listen to them.”

I turned, walked down the aisle, stepped up to him, I shook his hand in thanks of his honesty and courage to share this personal hardship with everyone. 

We all make mistakes but some, if not most, can be avoided; many of the others can be righted.  First by using the lessons found in the Wisdom Formula and the Principles of Solomon; second by trusting the wisdom of those who reside in one of the three entities affected by your decision.  Those people will usually love and care about you to the level of Love to the Third Power. 

For those occasions when we do make a mistake, first realize it was probably a selfish act that caused the problem and begin the process of repair by selflessly considering others affected by your actions.  In addition to the great results that will follow as a result of the repair; you will also start to become a much better person by the lessons that you learned through the experience

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President, Business Development at The American College of Financial Services and the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Who Owns The Truth?

Since the beginning of time, humans have been questioning each other as to their reference of what they thought was the truth.  Parents have taught their children to always tell the truth whenever questioned.  As young adults, we begin to question any and all authority figures as to the level of truth they provide when it pertains to their area of control; sadly, the goal at that age drives us to spiral toward a selfish direction. It is here that we begin to learn only those truths that make sense to the life we wish to live.  All other truths are highly doubted. It isn’t until we are more mature adults, we begin to reflect back on all the truths we ignored and those which we chose to learn; trying to discern the ones that impacted or will impact the lives of those we care most about.  Only then do most of us begin to profess to the people most important in their lives, the truths we wished we had learned earlier in lives.  Finally, as elders, we are forced to face the final days of our lives, trying to live the truth in preparation of our final unknown journey. The young who witness this change recite, “Better safe than sorry…Right?” While the older wiser adults all say, “I wish I had done this much sooner.”

If this fleeting topic we call “the truth” is so important and we all struggle to possess it; then who owns it? 

The answer to this question should provide us the explanation as to why so many people live believing varying truths.  In today’s society, we have an interesting statement that leads people to believe there is no single truth for each situation, problem or circumstance.  When questioned as to whether what someone thought, said or did was based on a truth people quickly reply, “I don’t know but it is true for me.”  In other words, “the known truth doesn’t matter, only what I believe to be true matters.  This self-centered ideology changes the thought process of those who think this way.  It’s our way of stopping one’s self from further seeking the truth.  When we were kids we felt guilt when we lied to our parents. No one likes feeling guilty because it means I was wrong and I might like the results of the wrong that I am living. If I say this simple statement, “It’s true for me.” often enough they begin to believe that it absolves them of any guilt. What they fail to realize is it doesn’t work. This weak attempt to convince themselves that they already know the truth only blocks their mind from being open to even considering the real truth; they just continue living a lie.  

The bottom line is that “NO” human can own the truth, because they did not create it; they either know it, do not know it or completely ignore it. 

Throughout the millennium the human reality has struggled with the poor handling of the truth which can be narrowed down to only three types of behaviors. 

We can accidently choose wisely without knowing the truth.  

We can be completely mistaken about the truth but still arrive at the truth through the unforeseen consequences of our decision.  

Finally, we can know the truth but choose to ignore it completely for our own selfish reasons.  

This is why there will always be bad reasons for good ideas and good reasons for bad ideas.  This dilemma causes moral people to struggle to find common ground on ideological differences; without even considering the truth as it applies to the circumstance in question.  The truth is there but its lost in the mix we create through our selfish nature.  An individual’s reality can change but the truth remains constant regardless of our thoughts, reasons, or ideals.

Ownership by definition implies creation and control so if no human possesses this status, who would be able to claim the title of Creator of Truth? 

Before I let you answer that question consider that there are only three schools of thought as it pertains to the truth; Divine Natural Law (Spiritual), Secular Natural Law (Scientific) and Historic Natural Law (Natural).  Each and every truth imaginable will fall under one or more of these groups and in every possible truth known to mankind, people had no ownership in them.  They were not created by our hands.  In fact, we can only do three things with the truth; learn it, teach it and, only then, live it.  In no case can we create, own or control it.  Even when the very first person learns a truth, they never created, owned or controlled it.   They just discovered what was always there.  Just like the law of gravity; years before mankind understood it, named it and taught it; the species had to deal with it.  Sir Isaac Newton learned it, taught it and we all live it daily.  People have since learned how to work with it by flying and gliding through the air but no one can control the law.  We can only learn the dynamics of the application so we can harness our use to fit the parameters of the law. 

After all of this has been said, I hope you all figured out that the Creator of all things also made all the known truths.  Only the Creator can change what is a natural law or truth.  We never could and we never will so just tough it up and accept it.  The sooner we all understand this simple, yet for some a distasteful truth, the sooner the world will become a better place.      

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

All Life is Eternally Tied to the Natural Laws

As you read this article, open your mind’s eye to the image of a small bud on the tip of a tree branch.  Look closely so you can see the moist nodule as it lengthens before your very eyes.  Slowly the budding shoot forms the succulent body and delicate stem of a new leaf. 

For this process to happen the tree needs only three things; the first is a trusted water supply traveling through mineral rich soil.  The tree’s roots soaks in this life-giving water from the ground through the trunk of the tree to the very tips of the branches.  The water is rich with minerals primarily created from past animal and plant life.  It nourishes the supple leaves so that they can be molded into the full-bodied leaf they are designed to be.  Without this water the branch would be too dry to allow the easing of soft leaf out of its body and the leaf would crumble as it tries to unfurl from the tight bud. 

Bring your mind back to the image of the leaf, it has now opened into the likeness of the other leaves.  The second life-giving supply comes from the sun.  Without sunlight the leaf would not be able to do its part in the function of a tree.  The leaves are created in a way so they can catch the rays of the sun and turns them into the needed chemical resource that ensures the tree will survive.  It is the cycle of the sun, through the various seasons, which teach the tree a variety of experiences.  The tree learns how to adapt to hot days and cold nights.  It learns that the years have patterns which causes the tree to respond in advance of the predicted seasons. 

As we visit our leaf for the final time, the fully matured growth needs a final component to fulfill its duties as a leaf.  The leaf must have a constant supply of air.  This air must be shared so as to support life in general, all forms of life, not just plant life.  The leaf does not think nor is it taught to act; it will take the poison of carbon dioxide out of the air and emit oxygen, the animal’s breath of life, back into the air.  If it did not do this, the animal life which provides the water its source of mineral deposits would disappear and all life on Earth would cease to exist.  Thus, the exchange of air, in part life supporting and part poison, guarantees that all life will thrive.  This is a lesson of the relationship of good and bad. What is nurturing for one group brings death to the other.  The ying and yang of life.

Now, replace the image of that leaf sprout with that of a new employee.  Every new associate requires three things in order to solve the problems they are hired to solve; education being the first.  As a new associate we are put into a very delicate position.  We must be so pliable as to be molded into the image of the other “leaves” of the firm.  It is the responsibility of the company to force feed into the minds of their workers the trusted education as their enriched “water”.  Without the education provided by the firm, the newbies would be unable to function as a Solutionary to their clients.  Just as the tree needs to be constantly watered so too is education a life-long commitment.

Our well-educated employee also requires their own type of “sun” in the form of a mentor as a curator of experiences.  Without experience of the mentor the new educated associate will be unable to foresee future stumbling blocks destined to be in their way.  As they themselves begin to acquire years of service, they will be asked to be the “sun” to other new “leaves”.   The unity brought to the firm through a culture of nurtured tenure is much like a tree full of leaves that uniformly turning to face the sun for fuel.  Just like the tree needs food rich water and sun, so it is that Education without experience will breed a smart failure and experience without education will create a foolish replica of an associate.

This brings us to the comparison of our business associate and the air they breathe.   Every worker must deal with the negatives of the world every day while also producing positive outcomes for their company and the clients.  Just like the tree needs leave to take in the air to live so does the employer need workers with strong ethical values that spread to other living creatures.  Without ethics the workforce would put out nothing but poison or negative results.  Each of us must strengthen our resolve to ignore the bad of society and give back the good to the community.  By doing so we too breath out the air of survival.  The ying and yang of life.   

Finally consider this last truth.  Just as the tree is created to take in the carbon dioxide and emit oxygen so is that mankind is created to know right from wrong.   No one teaches the tree this miraculous action nor as an infant are, we taught right from wrong; it is an instinct given to us by our Creator.  However, it has been proven that we can and do greatly benefit from the reinforcement provided through ethical training.  

Life-long trusted supply of enriched water = Life-long trusted supply of education.

The daily presence of the sun that create changes inside the tree = The daily support and sharing of an experienced trusted mentor that guides us toward needed change.

Air made up of toxins and serums to the community of life = Ethics taken from the bad around us and given back as the good that we do.  

Natural Laws = Truth!

Any questions?         

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

The Power of Change

Young people can’t wait to get older.  Middle age people think they finally arrived but realizes that something is missing.  Older people wish they were smarter when they were younger.  The same person can and usually will go through each of these stages of self-evaluation.  In most cases our evaluation is a judgment on how we handled the decisions we made or the way we should have handled problems in our lives.  Our decision-making process changes as we age and with the change, we normally do a better job of solving problems.  That is why it is said that “With age comes wisdom.” 

But what causes us to change how we view the decisions that we will make in the future?

It is just three simple things; Time, Regrets and Successes.  Once more the Power of the Wisdom of Three comes to our aid.

Time brings with it many things; opportunity for more education, definitely the expansion of experience and the ability to personally examine the consequences of the good and bad choices in our life. 

Regrets brings pain and avoiding pain, even the possibility of pain is a great deterrent when it comes to making bad decisions.

Successes brings pleasure; an experience we will all go out of our way to repeat.  

With age, we create habits.  If we live long enough, we do a better job of creating more good habits than bad.  Putting these three change enhancers together in a string of historic life events, we become wiser with years.                       

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Trust Is More Than The Facts

In recent years there has been a tremendous amount of controversy about the American media and something called “Fake News”. When I was young; fake news existed but it was called lies, not news. We were raised, not to put much stock in things we read, heard on the radio or saw on the television. Instead, we depended on something more important; something called trust and it was not given, it was earned.

Fast forward a few generations and along comes this little thing called the Internet. Over time it has grown exponentially from a couple of hundred searchable sites into a massive repository of information. Gone are the old paper books of encyclopedias along with their searchable indexes. Here to stay is the with-you-always, ever present, all-knowing entity of Google, Bing or Siri; just to name a few.

I cannot tell you how often someone has told me that they learned something on the Internet. As someone who places a high value on education, I am always happy to hear that we, as a people, are still interested in learning. It does however, bring into question the quality of the content being relied upon without two of the three sources of knowledge, experience and ethical values. The level of unwarranted trust placed on this education alone could present more problems. It may be decades before we truly know the ultimate price society paid for this massive shift away from the reliance of an experienced, value based trustworthy source of knowledge.

Are we trading the importance of trust for convenience, the unlimited and unimaginable abundance of quantity?

Without trust, what good does this vast information really serve?

Without a doubt, the Internet has broadened the scope of our knowledge. At the touch of a finger, from anywhere and at anytime of the day or night, we can scour the endless resources of information like never before. However, we should never forget, that this information or education is comprised of all levels of accuracy. Some reliable, truthful and factual with an equal amount being conniving, manipulative and deceiving. Furthermore, the sheer volume of the material along with the speed new data is added makes sorting, classifying and justifying the truths from the lies almost impossible. Education is just one of the three sources of knowledge we need to make the best decisions.

To emphasize this point. let’s consider a widely used feature of technology, the Global Positioning System. Today, everyone who drives a car or a bike or walks in a strange city; uses the GPS feature on their phone to get from point A to point B. By simply entering the locations into the program, it calculates the turn by turn directions for the trip. No longer do we need to decide the course of travel, the system does it for you and at fifty five miles per hour we blindly trust this computer. Even though there may be multiple routes to get you where you are going, the system can be allowed to make the choices for us.

Why do we explicitly trust this technology without a second thought?

Should we trust the facts of any decision that effects our safety without also referencing past experience or the ethical and moral sources of knowledge?

I know, from personal experience, a GPS location is not always “correct”. In other words, this trusted source of guidance is not always true and even when it is true, it might not always be safe. I have been brought to the wrong location many times and in some cases the program selected roads that were unsafe to travel. As a motorcycle enthusiast, I have been placed on gravel roads that presented serious hazards to an unsuspecting motorist. Still, we trust this information as we would a loyal experienced friend. Further, when traveling in large cities, the selected route can bring you down dark deserted alleyways or through unsavory neighborhoods. Streets you would not select if you knew the area nor would you ever suggest this path to someone asking you for directions.

So, even with all the facts, we can still make bad decisions without the experience and caring guidance from an ethical and moral person. We must realize that even in today’s education rich world, any source of knowledge should be verified before being earning the stamp of trust.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President, Education & Development at The American College of Financial Services and the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Two Sides of the Same Coin

The idiom “two sides of the same coin” is a very meaningful phase that hold multiple applications in our world. With that said, on the surface it also falls short in the understanding of the three dimensional world in which we live.

Look at any coin held off from a side angle. You will quickly notice that the coin has three sides, not two. The edge of the coin brings in the third dimension; one that holds the true meaning of the statement itself. The coin is much more than the sum of the two images on the two prominent sides. What lies in the middle is the reason the side images can even exist. Once more, The Power of the Wisdom of Three can be held in the palm of your hand.

This saying is usually “coined”, pun intended, as a reference to the opposites of any one’s true nature. Meaning that we cannot determine the coin’s value just by considering a single engraved image found on either one of the two opposite sides. The same can be said about people. Whether we show the world the good that we do or the mistakes that we make; our value is the sum of both sides and the often ignored middle.  After all it is the middle that allows the two side images to exist. This is why that I believe it is the important middle that should not be overlooked.

Consider how our whole is made up of all three sides, not just the two that we intentionally showcase to the world. The images we project through our actions will either be good, bad or neutral. We make choices every day that will either benefit, harm or have no effect on the three entities of every solution. Even though our true value to society comes through the good that we do, as with the example of a coin, our conceived value doesn’t vary immediately when we do bad. The intrinsic value of a coin is found in the metal in the middle and our intrinsic value rests in the whole of our being; mind, body and soul.

Cannot a coin be used to fund good as well as evil and at the same value?

The tri-images that we present to the world are created through the tri-nature of our body, mind and soul which in turn will be featured in the tri-personas of our personal, professional or spiritual lives. No one person can always be bad or good nor a success or a failure; we are all flawed just like every coin is less than pure and somewhat tarnished. As with the coin, it takes both imperfect impressions and the less than distinguishable middle to make us whole.   

Even though we are flawed, it should not hinder us from doing all that we can to increase our value by doing more good than bad. As I mentioned before, the coins value does not decline immediately when used to fund inappropriate endeavors but over time, when the society that produces the coin begin to collapse, the value of the coin will decline. This down turn always occurs because of the accumulation of an abundance of poor decisions made by the majority of its citizens. The same can be said about a prosperous society or business; it only rises in value when the majority of individuals contributes to the growth and well being of whole. It is this well-being, funded by the selfless giving of ourselves, that supports and enhances the value of the coin through positive actions of the many. When more members of the team does well by their fellow members, the stronger the whole will be and the higher the net worth of the greater good.  

Next time you hold a coin in your hand, toss it around, notice the three sides and think about your personal growth.  Your growth will effect that of your family, your work and your spiritual life. The worth of that coin is made up of three sides as is yours.

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President / Adjunct Instructor at The American College of Financial Services and author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Equality or Fairness; Which Do You Prefer?

We are born male or female, healthy or ill and our race or culture doesn’t matter at all.  At that special moment of our birth we are all equal in the eyes of our Creator, the world and our parents.  However, from that point on our values toward equality begins to change in the eyes of all who pay attention.  As we age we each begin to develop different talents, pursue different goals and strive for different aspirations.  It is because of these changes that we can never again be viewed, treated or even perceived as equal.

So, should we be treated equally?

Why would anyone seek to be treated as equal?

Instead, should we not strive for fairness?

It is through fairness that we show an individual respect earned for those differences that make each of us unique.  If gold was not an unique metal it would not be valued as precious.  This is why not all people will choose to limit themselves to the standards of those who wish to go through life doing just enough to skate by.  It is my belief that the majority are not satisfied with equality but rather demands, expects and wishes to receive fairness.

Speaking as a leader of various teams, I always strived to surround myself with people who wished to be better than all the rest.   Just think, if we applied the rules of equality to games, businesses or organizations then there would be no reason for competition.  If we were to treat every person as an equal to one another we would be working diligently at being mediocre.  The difference in being mediocre verses being outstanding is exactly what makes each of us unequal.

Picture the most spectacular painting you have ever saw; then ask yourself if you could have painted it.  If the answer is no, then you are not alone and you are definitely not an equal to the artist whose work you are admiring; nor should you be.  That difference is exactly what makes the work you’re admiring spectacular and I, for one, do not want to ever give up the spectacular for the mediocre.

So next time you hear of a school, business or organization’s leadership crying that we should not keep score, whining that everyone should be a winner or that everyone must be treated the same; think of that spectacular work of art, the gold medal athlete or the hardworking successful business owner who started their business with one hundred dollars and a dream. These remarkable people would not exist in the world of equality.  Instead, the world of art would be full of ugly painting because everyone would paint like the rest of us.  We would lose way more than we win because everyone would stop practicing too soon but worst of all we would all stop dreaming.

 It is for these reasons that I believe we were created equal to give us all a fair start but we are destined to be unequal and to accomplish extraordinary things through the use of our unique talents, skills and abilities.  By definition, nothing can be considered greater than without first surpassing equal and to make that leap all we need is a fair chance and the belief that we are special and unequal.

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.