Polarized or Fractured vs. Unified

“People are all fruit from the same tree.  Not all are appreciated; especially if they are tried before they have had the chance to ripen, others turn bad because of the experiences they endure and the rest bring joy to all who value what they have to offer.”

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Modern Solutionary

We are each born of the one human race; innocent, pure and good.  As we mature or ripen, flaws begin to appear as dark blemishes on our soul; invisible to the world until we act.  It is these acts that pull us apart and fracture our society.  This darkness is a byproduct of our acting out against the truth through the selfishness of our free will and the negative influences of a harmful environment.  Through the passage of time we will either allow this darkness to rot our decisions or we can take steps to scrub away the damaging thoughts, words and deeds that spoil the original fruit we were created to be.

This cleansing work need not be a solo job.  We are provided help in the form of various people whom we meet along the pathway of life; a co-worker, a friend or possibly the mailman who we speak with every now and then.  The role that others play depends on our predisposition at the time of the encounter.  It can also fluctuate as our being evolves daily through the people that you meet in person or by video, the books that we read and our moral and ethical values.

I find that with each good person who comes into one’s life and with each final farewell made to them; we strive harder to be a better version of our self as selflessness grows from the experience they provided us.

For years, university polls have reported that we are a polarized world; a people who cannot agree on the solutions needed to solve our communal problems.  Consider the term itself, “polarized” means two opposite extremes.  We are constantly trying to identify if people are right or left, black or white, gay verses straight, Republican or Democrat and the list goes on.  I personally believe the only polarization that should be of any importance is whether we are right verses wrong but in today’s relativistic world that is the one polarization that is not popular on either side.  As a matter of fact, it begs the question “Is it society’s factorization that causes blindness toward multiple wrong leaning views?”  It is like looking at the world through broken glasses; nothing looks like what it truly is.

As I age, I am prone to turn to the Power of the Wisdom of Three for answers.  These lessons can help us Learn, Understand and Apply the solutions against the forces that cause us to pull away from one another.  I am learning daily that, just like the tree in the quote above, we are “planted” securely in our own environment. As a society our environment does not allow us to quickly change our view of the world in which we live.  In our environment, each “fruit” starts as a bud struggling for Survival, if it can draw enough nourishment from the tree it will reach a state of Adequacy and with care, nourishment and strength it can eventually arrive at a place of Prosperity.  Unlike the fruit of a tree, we individually have the ability to make decisions that will impact our future environments.  These choices will differ based on our unique perspective but, just as the real fruit has to deal with outside influencers like heat, wind and insects so are we challenged to not succumb to the destructive effects of selfish perceptions, emotionally charged lies or inscrutable people but instead to base any decision on the truth.  We are assured that the truth does not change, regardless of which environment we find ourselves in.

Think back to when you were young; we depended on others.  This dependency, through the lessons of experience, should have drastically reduced as we matured.  As we become self-reliant we learn that there are only three attributes of a self-sufficient adult who strives for a state of prosperity; we first become Dependable, then are held Accountable and once accountable we must become Responsible. These attributes are viewed as noble statuses to hold but are not without cost.  People who possess these attributes must abide by the truth or be ridiculed when they are stripped of them.  A few good and wise decisions could earn you the respect of these attributes but in order to secure these traits long term one must live a selfless and truth filled existence. This cost is high and the reason why too many people choose to be dependent instead of dependable, unaccountable instead of accountable and irresponsible instead of responsible.  It will always be those who choose to be dependent, unaccountable and the irresponsible people who draw the focus away from the truth.

The last three proofs of the “ripening of the fruit” rest in the character of the person.  To finally reach prosperity one must be viewed as Honest.  When someone lives an honest life they will be said to have Integrity. Living a life of integrity will naturally foster the Trust of all whom you deal with.  These three character traits will always be present in those people who follow the truth.  For anyone who leads others to the truth will be said to be trustworthy.

So, even though we all are fruit from the same tree, the only way for us to become a unified society is to follow the truth and the truth will not and cannot be different for everybody, it never changes, and it requires a selfless nature.  Until we understand and live these facts there will never be unity.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others. 

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Our Motives Create Three Types of Actions

“Karma, akarma and vikarma are distinct actions in Buddhist and Hindi cultures.  Actions that are performed in terms of one’s prescribed duties are called karma. Actions that free one from the cycle of birth and death (Good) are called akarma. And actions that are performed through the misuse of one’s freedom and that direct one to the lower life forms (Bad) are called vikarma. Of these three types of actions, that which frees one from the bondage to karma is preferred by intelligent men.”

The above explanation of the types of actions dates back millenniums.  In modern western culture we still see these same three types of actions though they are not presented in the same manner nor do they use the Hindi titles.

First is the No Consequence Action; an action which seem to offer no evident consequences.  An example of the first type of action would be someone going for a walk around their neighborhood.  If they have no contact with any other living creature it could be viewed as the action having neither a positive nor negative impact, spinning off no future consequences. It is just an action; something which was done by someone effecting no one. In other words, “Do Nothing”.

The second described action, a Positive Consequence Action, would result in direct and indirect positive outcomes.  The person going for the walk stopped to help a neighbor load their car with groceries destined for a local soup kitchen.  Obviously this action was positive for the two loading the car as well as to those who will keep this act going once the food arrives at the kitchen.  “Do Good”

Finally, in the case of the Negative Consequence Action, the person walking through the neighborhood decided to steal the groceries; an act which would begin an ever expanding stream of negative ripples which would impact many people in a negative manner. Even the one person who stole the groceries, though self-perceived as reaping a positive outcome personally, will ultimately be impacted in a negative manner because of the self-incrimination they will carry in their mind.  “Do Harm”

Many people go through their lives experiencing consequences from an unidentifiable action or actions that cause positive or negative events in their lives.  We are all like boats floating on an ocean; effected by the waves created somewhere out at sea.  The only actions that we can affect are the ones we take ourselves; whether they are instigated by us or as a response to someone’s action.

The betterment of the world has always depended on the individual actions of each person.  When our individual actions are each based of the right choices, we do good things and our neighbors will be more likely to ride the wave toward taking positive actions themselves.  The same is true when we do the wrong things.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion

“Truth is ever to be found in simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things.”

Solutionary, Sir Isaac Newton

I have always been driven to “climb the ladder of success”.  I enjoy that metaphor the most because one of my mentors, Zig Ziglar, when speaking on the topic of the goal of success was fond of saying; “I will see you at the top.”   He was not the only one who commonly envisioned success as a state of being higher than the rest of the pack; a journey that called for the traveler to pay an extra price for getting to a place of distinction.  Anyone who ever climbed a mountain or even a hill can attest that the higher you climb the greater the toll, the harder work and the sweeter the victory.  Continue reading “Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion”

Down Is Not a Permanent State of Being

“I have been up and I have been down; and I will surely be both again.” Anthony “Tony” Boquet, A Modern Solutionary

Much has been written about the ups and downs of business. Whenever this topic is discussed it is widely accepted that up is good and down is bad but what about in between?

For those of us in a sales role we are acutely aware of the importance of keeping our sale activity up because our income and very possibly even our job will depend on it.  If you have ever been elected to an office or position you will naturally hone in on whether or not your poll numbers are up or down.  In accounting offices worldwide they focus on having the revenue up and the expense field down.  Even the CEOs have to report to their board of directors on whether the corporate graphs are tracking up or down.  From these simple examples it is clear that businesses makes decisions based on what is either up or down; not so much on what is in the middle.  I wonder that since this seems so important, why we shouldn’t examine the truths or laws that have the power to drive these critical movements.

Let’s begin with the basic truth found in the laws of physics that states that in order for anything to move, energy is required.  Due to this fact we must understand the first Law of Thermodynamics.

That law says that energy and matter cannot be created or destroyed it can only change form. To anyone who has ever worked in a manual labor position, it is clear that energy is a must.  The more energy that we give to any project the more results or heat that will be generated from those efforts.  Thus, when we are going in the upward direction you can bet we are applying more energy to the work that we are doing.  As with all things energy ebbs and flows, resulting in less or more results. Being that it is a natural and true occurrence we shouldn’t expect anyone or any entity to be constantly in the up or down position. The middle seems like a good place to regroup in preparation for the next upward drive.

More so, this law demands by its very existence that since energy cannot be destroyed, we should be in a constant state of motion. With that said, motion alone will not determine which direction we will be moving or at what speed. To help us solve that problem we must turn to another natural law, the Law of Gestation.

This law speaks to the three states or location of any matter; the beginning or down, the middle or center and the end or up.  This truth also explains that you can only go up if you are first down and when you reach the bottom, there is only one definite way to go.  This law fortifies the truth that it is literally impossible to stay in the up position just as it is equally impossible to stay in the middle or down position.  Every journey upward must, by truth and law, start from a lower position so if you are ever down, rejoice, the future is bright.

By understanding these laws of nature we should never expect a constant upward or downward trend in anything that we do.  Instead, we should stay strong so our energy is high, stay positive so the energy is directed in the right direction and stay focused on the truths because the matter that is you is the only matter that matters.  We can only change our self and the truth is the only path that leads to positive change.

I have more good news.  We are given another natural law that helps us solve the problem of maintaining control.  As with every law it must be known, understood and accepted before it can be used successfully to solve our problems. The Law of Attraction says that whatever we think, we believe then we become.  If you want to be successful you must first think of yourself as successful, believe you are successful and soon you will become successful.

By learning, professing and living these irrefutable laws we can become the person we are destined to be, a Solutionary to the world.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President, Education & Development at The American College and the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

It All Starts With A Dream

We all dream.

Sometimes they come to us unsolicited in our sleep; at other times we are wide awake, spurring on their existence.  Some dreams are remember vividly while others are never to be recalled. The storylines can vary greatly and need not be based on truth or even be realistic.  For millennium we have tried to determine their importance and in some regards they remain a mystery. However, there are a few universal facts controlled by the Power of the Wisdom of Three that are relevant in our lives and provides information that deserve our understanding as we consider New Year resolutions and business planning.    Continue reading “It All Starts With A Dream”

Professionally; Put Your Own Mask On First

The airplane sits idling on the tarmac just feet beyond the jet bridge as a soothing voice can be heard over the speakers; Should we experience a decrease in cabin pressure, four oxygen masks will fall from the ceiling compartment in front of you. Should this occur, reach up; pull a mask toward you, placing the cup over your nose and mouth, securing it with the elastic band. Please secure your own mask before assisting others. Breathe normally, even though the bag will not inflate, know that oxygen is flowing.Anyone who has traveled by air has heard this flight attendant’s safety presentation. Continue reading “Professionally; Put Your Own Mask On First”

Cloak the Pain or Solve the Problem

“This pain in my side is really driving me crazy.”

“Honey, why don’t you take the pain pills that you have?”

“Because the doctor hasn’t determined what is causing the pain. If it gets worse, I need to be able to know it.  If the pain is hidden by the medication, I will have a false sense of security thinking that all is well when it really isn’t.”

The above conversation highlights a central belief of mine. Pain is just a symptom of the actual problem; it is not the problem in and of itself.  Physical, mental and spiritual pain is our body’s way of communicating that something is wrong.  In neighborhoods all across the Country; we see, hear and feel the communications telling us that something is wrong in our societies. And just like the short discourse above between two loved ones, the evidence point to the facts that we are torn between continuing to manipulate the symptoms and wanting to solve the problem.  Continue reading “Cloak the Pain or Solve the Problem”

Millenniums of Storytelling

We live in a time when campfire stories, legends and myths are no longer the common method of detailing remarkable persons, places or events. For millenniums, leaders have been memorialized through the retelling of their outstanding character traits.  In some ways we seem to have outgrown those ancient forms of communication for something better; something more progressive. As a storyteller, I am personally torn in my acceptance of the various forms of modern communications. Continue reading “Millenniums of Storytelling”

Positive Change Always Requires a Price Paid in Advance

After many years of research and countless interviews on the topic of wise decision making, this picture sums up my findings nicely.

In the study of the lives of people who openly admit that they had tremendous struggles in their life and through deep personal reflection, we can usually pinpoint the single initial choice that started much of the discord.  The pivotal questions that I routinely ask are,

“What other choices did you consider at that moment in time?”

“Did you consider at the time, that one of the other choices would have been the right or even a better choice?”

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Experience on the Balance Sheet

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”

Soren Kierkegaard

Look at any company’s website, mission statement or recruiting material; one of the first messages you will receive is that they value their people. This is a great sentiment for them to portray because we all desire to be valued…but do they?  If they truly do, it will be evident by the experience level of their workforce.  Current statistics paint a different picture however.  Tenure is down and long term employees are starting to build tenure later in life so maybe, just maybe, our business leaders don’t really get it; despite what they are trying to make us believe.

What’s the big deal?      

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