I mentor people whenever possible because I was blest to be mentored; benefiting greatly due to their efforts. My mentors all had one thing in common, they all believed in the same learning structure; “Keeping It Simple”! That must be why, to this day, I like learning things that never change. The Natural Laws, eternal truths, never ever change. This is why I can say, without question, we live is a three-dimensional world. It is a Law; it has to happen.
For every earthly species, these dimensions take on many common characteristics. Consider our human person; it has a body, mind and a soul. Thus, we live our life addressing every aspect presented to us on a physical, mental and spiritual level. Our approach to these aspects will be made personally, professionally and spiritually. Yes, Mr. or Mrs. Sceptic, this applies to you too. People have no say in this, we cannot discard or add to these personas and each of us must learn to accept, understand and thrive within the confines of these realities. It is only when we accomplish this task well, we are said to be at peace. Finding “balance” in our life, we will be generally viewed as someone who has their life “all together”. Success!!
Many people strive for this nirvana their entire life and are never able to reach this place of “all togetherness”. They are good, hardworking, educated and focused people but something still seems to get in the way. This main hurtle is due to one major obstacle; we simply never truly learn, then profess and finally live the truth. For example, we pick and choose when we will hide, disown or ignore one or more of our three personas. We chose to be a different person at church than who we are at the office or on the golf course. We rarely intentionally bring all three personas together as one. In other words, we go through life denying to ourselves; who we really are in respect to one of more of our personas. This denial causes us to live a lie. A secret you might want to write down is that long term success can never be reached through falsehoods we convince ourselves to be true. As my mom use to say, “The truth will always be revealed.”
These natural personas are not man-made; we were created with all three and we will die with all three. Human kind cannot change these to suit our own desires; they are part of the natural laws that we have to live with. As with all-natural laws, they are all true but not all people like the truth. Some spend their life in a state of internal conflict fighting a battle that they cannot win. During these skirmishes, three common strategies are used.
The most common is when we try to compartmentalize the three personas. It goes something like this; “When we work; we work, when we play; we play and when we pray; we pray”. Thanks to our crazy litigious society, human resource departments struggle with this model because it might satisfy the attorneys but, in reality, the natural truth will always be revealed. Business culture tries to keep the three completely separate, appropriate and very tidy. It is like “trying to satisfy a three-headed beast.” This plan never works long term because one or more of the three will eventually cross the imaginary line; we were not wired to be only one persona at a time. The unity of the three make us who we are.
The second most common plan is for the person to try to intentionally remove, extinguish or ignore one or more of their personas. The deleted persona of choice is routinely their spiritual nature. We live in a secular culture that promotes disagreeing, discrediting and disavowing spirituality so denying this persona makes you one of the cool kids. Picture your body represented as our three triangle circle above; if you remove one of the triangles everyone can tell something is missing.
The last arrangement is where we spend all of our time focusing on only one persona. This is the technique we use in the attempt to “get ahead” in business. We rationalize that we will spend all of our time, talents and treasures on our professional nature which will make us successful, then, once the business is up and running, we will have more time for family, friends and God. All I can say is, good luck with that one. What generally happens in this scenario is when the business person finally gets around to doing the same for the other two personas, they find that the people whom are touched by those parts of their life are no longer there.
The truth is, we cannot successfully separate and then balance the three personas; our nature does not work well in this fragmented way. The winning formula is to use the truth completely and in unity for each persona. We must be deliberate in doing the right things; this requires learning, professing and living the truth while striving to do our very best and always treat others how we would want to be treated.
The triangle that assures that we can do all of this with a pure mission is the hierarchy of Love. Once again, we must do this in unity and without segregation of choice. We are called to love our Creator, our neighbor and our self as one. When I am spending time with my family and friends; I am also benefiting my work life by relaxing and the activities that I am doing should also be pleasing to my God. When I am working I do so to benefit my family and my God. When I am being spiritual it is to bring me to a closer relationship with my God, my spouse, my parents, siblings, friends, co-workers and supervisors. Victory can only be obtained by our ability to combine the three personas into a single cohesive unit; one well-rounded successful trinity of a person.
If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.
Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” and Vice President, Education and Development at The American College of Financial Services