Followship is a Goal of Leadership

I love unique words and each year new ones are created, liked or disliked by average people like me and you.  As a matter of fact, I created a word for my replacement of the word “problem-solver”.  I have never liked that word because it elevates the problem above the solution; at least it does so in my mind.  So, the word “Solutionary” was born in 2009.  Today its popularity continues to grow.

As a student of leadership, I have studied leadership for a little over thirty years and recently the term “followship” been growing in usage as a word that describes the practice of following a leader.

I LOVE IT!…mainly, because the entire premise builds off the power of the wisdom of three.  It guides a Solutionary along the ultimate path that leads to a successful life. Continue reading “Followship is a Goal of Leadership”

Heroes & Heroines; Solutionaries in Our Times of Need

Do we still have true heroes?  

Does the definition change as society changes?  

These are a couple of thought-provoking questions which were recently posed to me in a meeting that I attended. The discussion that followed was riveting and caused me to reflect more fully on the topic as it relates to moral and ethical changes of a society.

Heroes, in the simplest term, are a group of people.  To answer questions about any group, we first must try to understand the meanings of the title used to describe them.     Continue reading “Heroes & Heroines; Solutionaries in Our Times of Need”

The A Cappella Concert of the Mute

It is said that one cannot be a good leader before first being a good follower.  In the same vein we hear that the very best leaders hold the title of Servant Leader.  I believe that both of these statements are true. So why do some leaders, who are viewed as less than great, develop such a large following?

At any one moment in time there are many people who hold the title of leader.  Some will be good, some will be bad and a few will be considered great.  To determine which class they will be ranked in, we generally use the size and the loyalty of their following as two of many factors in the overall judgment of their placement.  Right or wrong, this is what we do.  So why do some mediocre leaders amass large groups of loyal followers?

Throughout history we have many examples of leaders with large, loyal fan bases.  In each example there is always one common denominator. I call this phenomenon the “a cappella concert of the mute”.  The people are attracted to someone who is brave enough to stand up to voice the beliefs that they themselves are not willing or able to voice on their own. This courageous individual quickly becomes the melodious voice of the muted many.

Think about what it would be like to have something you wished to be said; you believe it is extremely important but you are not able to make yourself heard.  That would have to be so frustrating.  Now, imagine being in a room with thousands of muted people all with the very same passionate message burning deeply in their hearts.  Their unified desire to make their message known to one another would be excruciatingly painful.

Then, in walks a person who feels what they feel, shares the belief in the importance of their message and is willing and able to voice this pent up desire that they believe all needs to hear.  The mute finally have their voice.

The leader in this case in not chosen because they exemplifies great leadership skills. This leader is selected as a courageous voice with the conviction shared by the muted masses with the message that obviously needs to be heard.

In every case of a leader rising through an “a cappella concert of the mute” the message truly needed to be heard and acted upon for the good of the whole.  The non-mute citizenry must take a step back and listen to the messenger; whether they liked the leader or not.  In these cases, it is not the leader who is of importance; it is the message.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.  Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

A Father’s Day Guide

I enjoy learning from the masters. The way that I see it, why should I have to learn from the painful beginning when others have paid the price on the behalf of others?  The Solutionaries among us who possess this hard earned wisdom are eager to share their education, experience, and ethical understandings. The rest of us should be ready to absorb this fountain of information.

One such Master lived over two thousand years ago; leaving behind his wisdom of truth which did not only survive but continues to thrive through the centuries with as much power as it had when the words were first spoken.  One such lesson can act as a guide to the sons of their father.  As with each of His lessons, there can be multiple interpretations so as we celebrate our earthly fathers let’s focus on this area of application.

“Do not let your hearts be troubled. You have faith in God; have faith also in me. In my Father’s house there are many dwelling places. If there were not, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back again and take you to myself, so that where I am you also may be. Where [I] am going you know the way.”

Jesus is explaining to his apostles the earthy process of finding their way to their heavenly reward.  Instilling the image of a loving father, He builds on the facts that when you revere the faith that we have in our fathers, that faith should grow in the persona of his child.  What a good father possesses, will be shared by the children.  More so, the relationship between a father and his child is one that should reside with an open invitation of belonging.

Thomas said to him, “Master, we do not know where you are going; how can we know the way?”

Jesus said to him, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me. If you know me, then you will also know my Father. From now on you do know him and have seen him.”

In these passages he uses the Power of the Wisdom of Three to make clear the solution to a very important problem. The apostles wanted to be with Jesus in Heaven but they still did not clearly see the way.  Expanding on the analogy of a good father, Jesus spells out that as a child grows in the ways of his father, through time he too becomes the father; believing what he believes, knowing what he knows, and loving what he loves.  A critical role of every father is to teach their children in the truths of this life.

Philip said to him, “Master, show us the Father, and that will be enough for us.”

Jesus said to him, “Have I been with you for so long a time and you still do not know me, Philip? Whoever has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’?  Do you not believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in me? The words that I speak to you I do not speak on my own. The Father who dwells in me is doing his works. Believe me that I am in the Father and the Father is in me, or else, believe because of the works themselves. Amen, amen, I say to you, whoever believes in me will do the works that I do, and will do greater ones than these, because I am going to the Father. And whatever you ask in my name, I will do, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. If you ask anything of me in my name, I will do it.”

Just as a good father and mother are the creators of a positive life, the father takes on the responsibility as the head of the family unit.  When the children live on past the earthly lives of their parents, it is the children who are viewed as living embodiment of their father and mother.  As we age, we physically become our parents.  If we do our part in honoring their legacy we can far exceed the good that they accomplished leaving our own legacy to our children.

Heaven is reached through a happy, healthy, and loving family environment.  This truth is supported by the fourth Judaeo/Christian commandment; Honor thy Father and Mother.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

A Parent’s Journey; Together Life

I am not sure how many of you know about the Law of Symbiosis.  It is a very interesting law that happens all around us every day of our life.  The word symbiosis actually means “together life”.  The law refers to the three types of relationships organisms share that live in close approximation to one another; often one cannot live without the other.  In extreme cases, one organism actually lives inside the other organism.  This law is the basis of ecology; the study of living organisms and their environment as well as the definition of a family environment.   This law like so many others is powered by the wisdom of three.

Relationship one is Parasitism: the parasite benefits and the host is harmed.

Relationship number two is Commensalism: one species benefits, the other is neither hurt nor helped.

The third relationship is Mutualism: when both species benefit.

In a family environment we see all three as an evolution from one to another.  As we examine each separately we can see how each pertains to a parent’s relationship to the children.

Parasitism is often viewed as a negative way to live life because of the harm the parasite brings to the host organism.  Many times in life the host organism knows the parasite is harming them but graciously allows the relationship to continue.  I can site hundreds of cases where a father or mother selflessly gave their all for the children.  When the child is young this is understandable and is a very natural occurrence. It is only when the child becomes older and knowingly “feeds” off the parent’s generosity does this affiliation become a negative situation.

As the child matures into adolescence the relationship should become one of Commensalism.  The child should benefit from the parental support and developmental guidance while the father and/or mother are made whole through the results of these efforts.  From the parent’s perspective it is enriching to be able to be a part of the fulfillment of their child’s needs and the rewards are great on many levels while the detriment is minimal.

Once the child has matured into an adult, the relationship should have reached a healthy state of Mutualism.  The child and the parent both benefit from the others existence without harm to either.  It is here that the parent can observe the start of a new cycle of relationships and the continuation of their legacy.  The child takes the lessons of the guardian, applying them in their lives while passing them along to the next generation.  The one time parasite has now becomes host to their children; the cycle of life continues and thrives.

Science proves once more the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  It is our God, through the Wisdom of Three, who gives us the blueprint we need to solve our problems.  The term symbiosis, together life, is His explanation of the steps Solutionary parents should take in order to teach others the truth to their children.  In May we celebrated Mother’s Day; in June we recognize the role of the father with their special day.  Thank you to everyone who selflessly leads another along their life’s journey with the motto; Together Life.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Our Motives Create Three Types of Actions

“Karma, akarma and vikarma are distinct actions in Buddhist and Hindi cultures.  Actions that are performed in terms of one’s prescribed duties are called karma. Actions that free one from the cycle of birth and death (Good) are called akarma. And actions that are performed through the misuse of one’s freedom and that direct one to the lower life forms (Bad) are called vikarma. Of these three types of actions, that which frees one from the bondage to karma is preferred by intelligent men.”

The above explanation of the types of actions dates back millenniums.  In modern western culture we still see these same three types of actions though they are not presented in the same manner nor do they use the Hindi titles.

First is the No Consequence Action; an action which seem to offer no evident consequences.  An example of the first type of action would be someone going for a walk around their neighborhood.  If they have no contact with any other living creature it could be viewed as the action having neither a positive nor negative impact, spinning off no future consequences. It is just an action; something which was done by someone effecting no one. In other words, “Do Nothing”.

The second described action, a Positive Consequence Action, would result in direct and indirect positive outcomes.  The person going for the walk stopped to help a neighbor load their car with groceries destined for a local soup kitchen.  Obviously this action was positive for the two loading the car as well as to those who will keep this act going once the food arrives at the kitchen.  “Do Good”

Finally, in the case of the Negative Consequence Action, the person walking through the neighborhood decided to steal the groceries; an act which would begin an ever expanding stream of negative ripples which would impact many people in a negative manner. Even the one person who stole the groceries, though self-perceived as reaping a positive outcome personally, will ultimately be impacted in a negative manner because of the self-incrimination they will carry in their mind.  “Do Harm”

Many people go through their lives experiencing consequences from an unidentifiable action or actions that cause positive or negative events in their lives.  We are all like boats floating on an ocean; effected by the waves created somewhere out at sea.  The only actions that we can affect are the ones we take ourselves; whether they are instigated by us or as a response to someone’s action.

The betterment of the world has always depended on the individual actions of each person.  When our individual actions are each based of the right choices, we do good things and our neighbors will be more likely to ride the wave toward taking positive actions themselves.  The same is true when we do the wrong things.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

All Actions Have Consequences

“How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it.”

Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor

This quote from one of the founder of the art of mediation understood well that every action or choice we make comes with it consequences.  These consequences are rarely in our control and usually cannot be successfully litigated against because they are created through our actions. Continue reading “All Actions Have Consequences”

Professionally; Put Your Own Mask On First

The airplane sits idling on the tarmac just feet beyond the jet bridge as a soothing voice can be heard over the speakers; Should we experience a decrease in cabin pressure, four oxygen masks will fall from the ceiling compartment in front of you. Should this occur, reach up; pull a mask toward you, placing the cup over your nose and mouth, securing it with the elastic band. Please secure your own mask before assisting others. Breathe normally, even though the bag will not inflate, know that oxygen is flowing.Anyone who has traveled by air has heard this flight attendant’s safety presentation. Continue reading “Professionally; Put Your Own Mask On First”

The Unacceptable Price of Better

This week a pharmaceutical giant learned a valuable lesson; better has its value and it is not always at a premium.

The company’s stock price turned drastically lower; reflecting the same direction the buying customers are saying their latest improvement drug’s price should be going. For years the leader in diabetes drug production has used the successful business model that new and better could be sold at a premium with the end users always being willing to pay an inflated price for this novel combination.  To leadership’s amazement, this model seems to have failed miserably on their latest endeavor.

Bad Good Better Best Meter

In the clinical trials, it was determined that the new drug showed slight yet consistent improvement in the treatment of the majority of patients; however the price of the drug is not being accepted by the patients/insurance carrier or their doctors.  Instead, the end users are finding that with a little more monitoring, the patient’s existing drug treatments can achieve the same results and at a substantially reduced cost. Continue reading “The Unacceptable Price of Better”

Clamping down on Leadership

History is so important to the human race because it provides us with the experience component of wisdom.  It is wisdom that solves our troubles and without history we have no chance of overcoming our future dilemmas before they cause harm. It is through the lessons of history that we come to understand; how the eternal laws can solve these quandaries, create tools that leverage the power of the laws and master the application of the laws through the tools that we create so as to benefit all mankind.

For instance, the first clamps are said to have been developed by the Egyptian around 600 BC.  They were made by wedging two boards between large rocks.  The wedging force tightly pressed the two boards together so the glue could set, binding the boards as one.  This created stronger boards and for ship building, made a leak proof seal between boards.

Much has changed since 600 BC but the uses of modern clamps still solve the exact same problems they were originally intended to solve using the same laws of nature.  The Egyptians understood the Law of the Lever; force leveraged by a fulcrum will increase power, creating extra strength.

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