Method of Deceit

Have you ever wondered why words or phrases that are commonly used to describe something are suddenly change but the act, status or procedure remains the same?

What is gained by this action?

Who benefits from the manipulation of terms or definitions?

These are all good questions and we all benefit from understanding the “why” behind the answers. 

This week a news source reported that the Biden administration would be using new terms in the immigration bill being submitted to Congress.  In the article, “the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services acting Director Tracy Renaud recently issued a memo calling for “more inclusive language in the agency’s outreach efforts, internal documents and in overall communication with stakeholders, partners and the general public is another prime example of how groups try and get the apparent approval from others.”  They also reported, “The memo suggests some examples, such as using “undocumented noncitizen” or “undocumented individual” rather than “illegal alien” and “integration or civic integration” instead of “assimilation.”

As my readers know, I am all about finding truthful solutions to our problems; regardless if I like or dislike it personally. I believe that most people want to tell the truth but some will go out of their way to manipulate the language in order to maintain the impression of truth without telling it entirely.  This further acerbates the problems dividing us today; speaking the truth comes with being silenced by the fear of alienating someone while the main-street media and our own government are implicit in assisting in this division.  People and groups are finding creative ways of changing terms or phrases of distasteful topics and positioning these changes as efforts to be “more compassionate and inclusive”.  We went from “abortion rights” to “female reproductive rights”, yet both are inexplicitly tied to the problem of women killing their unborn children.  These efforts do not make a foolish choice wise or make a lie true.  As long as people understand the truth, these deceptive methods do not work but when the messages are delivered repeatedly, in mass public communications, totally out of the original context and when many of whom receive the messages are not educated on the topic; it can and does make all the difference. They know the majority who will hear the messages will not know, understand or care about the topic; then when they follow up with polling to this same specific demographic the numbers will be on their side.  They will then spout, “See, the people agree with us.” but if asked differently, truthfully and with relevant details, the outcome would be the complete opposite.

Unethical, YES but illegal, NO, but still very WRONG!

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Solutions Are Never Free

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Do you ever wonder why you do what you do? 

In your line of work, is there an underlining reason for everything that you do?

Are you passionate about this reason?  

Sure, we all work to provide a product or service that solves a problem for others that they can’t solve on their own.  For a price, businesses will sell you this product or that service to alleviate your problem but accessing some of these products or services requires more than just money.  It might require good health, good character and / or a certain credit rating.  In essence, to be able to solve some problems, you have to be doing the right things before the problem occurs and plan in advance for a future problem.  For some people, this adds another problem to their list of problems that they have to deal with.  Solving some of life’s problems for many can feel overwhelming.  At those times, they need a Solutionary to come to their aid.

A Solutionary, is my term for an ethical “problem-solving” expert with a selfless heart.  They must be viewed as a trustworthy individual so that you are comfortable in their detective work when it comes to knowing all the relevant facts in personal areas of your life, as it pertains to the problem you want them to solve.    

As an example, for the men and women who make their living solving insurance related problems, because they are passionate about what they do, the dichotomy described above can bring a high level of frustration.  In most cases, it is easy to solve a person’s problem when they have the money needed to purchase the solution and they are willing to act now.  It becomes extremely difficult to solve that same problem when there is no money or they are allocating the money to less important things, they are already in poor health or financially ill and on top of that, they believe they are in no hurry.

Believe me when I say, “Money is very rarely the true deterrent when purchasing insurance as a solution to a problem.”  It is likely, a budgeting issue where needed resources are currently being used in less important ways.  It is the Solutionary’s responsibility to bring this to the attention of the client, regardless of the level of discomfort this might entail.  It is the client’s responsibility for their loved ones that should drive the necessary actions to fix the budget as needed.

When the client’s health is already poor or their past actions has injured their character and or their financial health there will be limited recourse available to the Solutionary.  That is why we must all be vigilant in helping one another other to be the best version of our self.  We should each strive to help one another by not being quiet about the ills we see around us.  As a caring society, when we see someone hurting themselves, we must step forward to make them aware that there is a better way.  Yes, they might not listen to one stranger but if the message is carried by many whom they respect, it will eventually be received.   

The most frustrating objection is when the client believes they are in no hurry to act.  This is elevated in the Solutionary’s heart because of the experiences they lived through from those other clients who came to the same realization too late.  Those people whose health was already bad; the man whose debt was out of control, the woman who over indulges with alcohol or medications or the person who smoked cigarettes for twenty years without a problem then was just diagnosed with lung cancer.  These are real people who come to Solutionaries too late but need insurance that all the money in the world cannot buy.

“Live everyday like it really matters, because it truly does.”         

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Hearing, a Given Sense; Listening, a Powerful Tool

Said, Heard, Listen

I enjoy using your sense of sight as a means to share these articles with you.  It will be your sense of sight that will allow me the ability to share some interesting facts about the art of listening without even using your sense of hearing. 

As with most of our Solutionary tools, we are given the solution for our need to hear from the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  I’m sure my anatomy nerds will already know that our ear, the tool for hearing, has only three bones that aid in the operation of human hearing; the malleus, incus, and stapes bones. They are positioned in a precise manner so that they detect sound waves that our brain then processes.  Our physical sense of hearing is totally involuntary, can even be accidental and totally effortless on our part.

Listening, on the other hand, is much more deliberate, requiring, of course, three things; first, we must choose to do it, the act must be focused and will always be intentional.  Yes, your spouse is correct, when they tell you, that you are choosing not to listen.  When we listen, I mean really listen, our brain must concentrate on the sounds that we are hearing.  This mental process connects with and extends to our other senses as well.  We see, notice and interpret the facial expressions of the speaker, the vibrations from the musical beats of the bass drum causes our body to sway to the rhythm, we might even recall a past memory of a smell, present the first time we heard the words of a marital vow spoken.    

In all the writings that we read, the seminars and meetings we attend, or the videos we consume; the lesson is the same.  To learn the art of listening requires much more than just our ears.  It entails the conscious attention of our entire being; the mind, body, and soul.  It is my belief, that to truly listen one must use their body as the receiver of the messages being delivered, our brain is the instrument used to process the information with the ultimate goal being to derive meaning or the truth from the message, and our soul, the basis of our human morality, to determine the proper reactions, responses and further inquiries that will be needed for understanding.

Our responses will be source of our future decisions.  The decisions we make all have consequences; good or bad, happy or sad, right or wrong.  We cannot control all that we hear, nor should we, but each of us can and does control what we listen to, how we respond, and the decisions we make.     

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Experience; Aging’s Gift to the Human Race

“We live in a circular world.”  This saying speaks to us on multiple levels but for this article, it means that what goes around comes around.  On a business level, if we experience a problem once, we will more than likely experience it again in the future and, when we do, we should be better equipped to handle the problem the second time around.  In addition, we will have also lived through the ethical / moral consequences of the decisions we chose to make. 

When we are young and are just beginning our professional journey, it is likely we might not know what to do with these important gems of wisdom.  We must learn to rely on the natural truths that have led man-kind since the very beginning.  As with all our problems, there is a natural law for experience and like most natural laws, it follows the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  Once attained there are only Three Uses of Experience and these are taught to us through the School of Hard Knocks. 

First, we must reflect on what we learned.  It is said, “We do not fail; we either succeed or learn.”  This is the basic truth as to why we get wiser with age.  Sadly, if we pay no heed to this lesson, we will be doomed to repeat the past errors over and over again.  This is where having an experienced mentor, who is also a Solutionary, can spring board your career ahead of your colleagues who have none.  When you do not have your own experiences to reflect upon; the next best experiences can come from a trusted guide who has walked on the same path.

The second way we use experience is for us to adapt those past teachings to our current problems or to situations which might become a problem.  Not every problem we encounter will be identical to the ones faced before.  There will be subtle shades of difference but luckily the truths that we pick up through the ages will never change.  Remember, all truths are eternal; the problems come in all shapes and sizes.

Finally, we must apply the lessons of life, along with the combination of our education and the morals/ethics we possess, as knowledge toward the solution to our problems or before they arise; to ward off future mistakes.  No matter your level of education, you will face bad outcomes that will better prepare you for the future. Those experiences cannot be acquired solely by studying simulations, no matter how well they are crafted, established or delivered.  Some unconceived consequences have a way of lingering under the surface for months or years after the decision was made.  An excellent class professor teaching us the learning objectives of the course, has no way of knowing the depth of the knowledge that can only be uncovered by living the experiences.  This is why knowledge applied without experience leaves the student naive.  Many college students are quickly shocked into the reality when they try to solve the problems of their job using only their education.  It becomes clear they have more to learn.  It is also true that knowledge applied without education leaves you foolish and knowledge applied without ethics / morals leaves you gullible.  It is only when we selflessly apply all three that we can be assured of a wise decision.

Many years ago, I coined this saying and it has proved to be very true.  “I have been up; I have been down and I will be both again.” 

Even knowing this in advance, we will each ask three important questions:

What controls the frequency between the peaks and valleys?          

How do we affect the variance between the highs and lows?           

What can elevate one’s trajectory over a lifetime?

The single answer to each is the same; make more wise decisions.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Constitutions Are Not All Created Equal

I love history because it can teach us so much about what we are going through today.  It can also be our guide to the truth.  Take our Constitution as an example. During each and every election year, we will hear the words of how certain politicians support our Constitution but it is only words.  If you follow their actions you will quickly discover, their true beliefs, are not even close to what the document actually stands for.  

Since 1789, our Constitution has been amended twenty-seven times but the original drafted document has remained untouched throughout our history.   Isn’t it amazing that even with a steady flow of ever-changing leadership, the original document continues to stand the test of time and the Republic continues to be the example that other countries aspire to emulate?

The most recent attempt to follow our lead was the country of Brazil, in 1988.  They drafted and passed the Federal Constitution of 1988.  This document was meant to structure a democracy from their long-standing military rule.  The country’s economy improved and quickly became the envy of the southern hemisphere.  The citizens of Brazil were thriving even better than they ever thought possible.  Oh…but there is always a price and it became obvious in short order what that price was.  They assumed that the government could be the ever-generous provider.

The Brazilian Constitution is 77,000 words long and is literally packed with social, economic and political mandates.  It goes so far as to dictate a forty-four-hour work week for all businesses and mandatory retirement ages; 65 years of age for men and 60 for women.  Since the passage of this Constitution, the federal spending has nearly doubled.  Inflation has slowly but continuously crept up mainly because the document stipulates that the purchasing power of their federal benefits (health care and pensions) shall forever be preserved.  In other words, the legal document that should have provided the citizens lasting freedom and prosperity is choking the life out of the very system they have come to depend on; primarily due to too much government reliance.   

Now let’s contrast their document to ours.  Our Constitution is only 4,400 words and that is after two hundred and thirty-one years of existence and twenty-seven revisions.  Already we can see that less is more.  In addition, our Constitution does not mandate or call for the enforcement of economic demands.  As a matter of fact, it pushes those social, economic and political pressures into local and state governments so that those nearest to the issue can solve the problems.  As to model the national document, each State has their own constitution which allows for an interesting addition found in all 50 state constitutions; the mention of a divine power.  The U.S. Constitution never explicitly mentions God, but the same cannot be said of the 50 state constitutions.  In fact, God or the divine is mentioned at least once in each state constitution and nearly 200 times overall, according to a Pew Research Center analysis.  We are indeed, “One Nation Under God!”

Quoting our Founding Fathers in the opening words of this great document, “We the People” make the difference and we the people have the power to control our government not the other way around.  Our early leaders were not lifelong politicians, they were hardworking men of high moral character who understood that the government didn’t exist to benefit anyone; only a foundation to rest each society upon.  These brave pioneers did not agree on everything, they did not all like one another and some of them were uneducated; making bad decisions.  But they all had one thing in common, as should the citizens of today, being of one mind; the belief that we are creating a Country that allows for every citizen to have Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness.  

What adds to today’s confusion is that for a Country founded on Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness; each political party no longer demonstrates these three rights in all that they do. I find it extremely odd that certain parties support the death of the innocent, unwanted and unborn solely on the auspices of purging a past mistake of the parents.  These same parties also rebuke the monuments of our ancestors, in the hope of wiping away their mistake as well.  Both actions testify to the selfishness of the parties and their reproach to the rights we should unitedly hold dear. As our Constitution illustrates, through the lack of an abundance of words; it is not the words the people say that hold them guilty but the actions they take.

May God continue to bless these United States of America!    

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others. 

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

The Death of America’s Common Sense

We are gathered here today to remember an old and faithful servant of the people of the United States of America.  For years people have been saying “Common Sense is not very common anymore.” but I am not sure if everyone fully realizes how true that statement really is.  

Common Sense has been with America since its founding.  Most, if not all, of the drafters of the Bill of Rights and the Constitution of the United States signed these documents only after the words had the approval of Common Sense.  For centuries Common Sense was the voice of the people.  Leaders from all walks of life understood that for this Country to grow, prosper and last; it would require the unifying power of Common Sense. 

Today, the number of community heads, government officials and even church organizers (in honor of Common Sense, I refrain from calling them leaders) have chosen to shun this leader’s friend in numbers never before seen.  Not because of anything Common Sense has done, but instead as a way to distance the citizens from what Common Sense stands for.  The recent decline in Common Sense’s health can be attributed to the introduction of a third gender, the moral decline evident in public programming, crazy ideas “made true” on social media such as the defunding of our local police and most recently the idea that looting and rioting against innocent people is a citizen’s right if they are angry enough. 

The facts are that the endurance of Common Sense is no longer possible with the mindset of the vast majority of this country.  People no longer want to be inconvenienced by the truth spoken by Common Sense.  We have too many people with varying agendas, biases and beliefs who no longer wish to come together under a single value system provided by Common Sense.  Suffering a senseless death by neglect because too many people rely on their own shaded “truths” with no willingness to even consider bringing Common Sense to the table.

For those citizens who have shared a relationship with Common Sense and has been caring for Common Sense through the years, we have analyzed the various forms of human communication and observed the public interaction only to admit that the time has come for us to formally declare; Common Sense is officially dead in the United States of America.   

With the death of this “truthful servant”, this Country is literally at an intersection of crossroads; we will either take the path that divide us further as a Nation or we will, together, journey down the road that brings us back to unity and the birth of a new herald of truth.

I pray that this idolization of off the wall views has not endured for so long that our reversal back toward our historic single national value is still possible.  Once more our thoughts, words and deeds as a Country; must each loudly proclaim our common shared belief that we are still, “One Nation under God”.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Shouldn’t Higher Education Lead to Wisdom?

There are three sources of knowledge for a reason.

  • Knowledge applied without education leaves you foolish.
  • Knowledge applied without experience leaves you naive.
  • Knowledge applied without ethics / morals leaves you gullible.

It is only when we selflessly apply all three sources that we can be assured of a wise decision.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet

The sole purpose of every business ever created has been based on one central premise; to offer a product or service at a profit for a reasonable price that will solve a problem that the consumer could not solve on their own.  The same should be said for our colleges and universities when it comes to their ability to transfer the knowledge needed to solve future problems in the specific field of education.  Wisdom is the application of the three sources of knowledge toward the best solution to a problem.  It is up to the schools to affirm that their education is first true so that it can be transferred as knowledge applied as wisdom.  

 After all, wouldn’t a school be the perfect place to explore, understand and apply the truths that answer the questions raised by the unknowing?

The early universities were established around the understanding that knowledge is made up of three sources of development; Education, Experience and Ethical / Moral values.  The Solutionaries who led these great institutions understood that wise decisions cannot be assured without all three being applied as a solution to a problem.  For years institutions of higher learning were solely and totally focused on providing all three areas of development.  This required that the school hire professors who were well educated but also had to have experience in their field of study and be able to demonstrate a strong commitment to ethical and moral values.  In other words, professors were not only “educators” but experienced ethical practitioners.  Sadly, in todays hallowed halls of academia, this is not always the case.  Most schools are satisfied with turning out students who have an education instead of being Solutionaries with the knowledge required to make wise decisions.      

We live in a circular world.  This means that what goes around comes around.  In other words, if you experience something in your business of choice, you will more than likely experience it again in the future and you should be better equipped to handle the problem the second time around.  You will also have lived through the ethical / moral consequences of the decisions you chose to make.  That cannot be done solely by studying simulations, no matter how well established or delivered.  Some consequences may not surface until months or years after the decision is made.  A professor who never actually experienced this phenomenon has no way of teaching the lessons that only experiences can uncover.  

Every wise decision you or your business associates make must be based on the truth; identifying the true problem, understanding the true motivating factors impacting those affected by the problem and committing to the truly selfless solution as well as the consequences that will impact each of the three parties involved.  Education alone will fall short because it is almost impossible to do without experience yet some academic leaders believe that wise decision making is not important, not their responsibility or that education alone is adequate to deliver a solid graduate. 

My personal experiences taught me that each source of knowledge does matter; as a practitioner, as a business leader and now as someone who in works in academia.  I am proud to say that the institution I work for still delivers on all three components of wisdom.  Our professors are well educated and came out of the profession of which they now teach, each course we teach has an ethics component built into it and the educational material taught is based on well established truths. In addition, we have an experience requirement tied to the use of our college level designations.     

Regardless what is believed, the fact does not change; experience along with education and ethics are the three factors required in order to make wise decisions.  Sure, anyone can luck out and make a wise decision without any of the three but tuitions are paid and the value associated with holding a degree of higher learning demands more than just luck.  The business that hire the graduates do so because of the perceived value.  They do not just want to survive, they want to thrive, and that takes more than just luck.  If given a choice between two highly educated candidates; one with the knowledge to solve problems verses the other just a well-educated student, the corporate leaders would likely select wisdom over education every time.  One can buy an education but wisdom is only obtained through a lifetime of selfless dedication to solving problems with the truth.  

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”, Vice President, Business Development at The American College of Financial Services

The Annunciation; the Feast of Free Will

If you are a Christian of any denomination, the ancestors of your faith followed the belief that a virgin girl of twelve to thirteen years of age, was asked by an angel if she would allow herself to become the mother of the son of God.  A pretty hefty ask of anyone; much less from someone who would be considered a child today but two thousand years ago she would have been viewed as a woman, since she reached what was considered then the age of reason; twelve years of age.

Today Christians worldwide celebrate that special day because her miraculous offspring, by historical accounts, ended up changing the path of mankind forever.  From a solely human perspective, this single decision laid the first stone for man’s relationship to family tree of God.  Without Mary’s consent, Jesus would have not been born and countless prophecies would never have been fulfilled.  That single, yes answer was unquestionably the single most impactful answer ever given by any one person in all of history.  

Think about the ramifications of your person decisions. 

When you make big decisions, do you spend time procrastinating? 

If you make a mistake; you say no when you should have said yes.  Do the negative outcomes haunt you? 

Mary was just a poor girl who lived a righteous life.  She was faithful and tried to live a life reflective of her Jewish beliefs but that can be said us many people, then or today.  What sets her apart from others was the depth of her faith and the belief that by doing God’s will everything would be fine.  

From God’s perspective, He shows us that we are not forced to do anything.  Mary could have said no to the angel.  At the time, she was engaged to be married; she was planning her life, minding her own business.  You could say that God shared His will with her and she accepted His path over her own. 

Do we have enough faith to do that? 

God nudges us many times in our life, showing us the direction that He wants us to go, but we don’t always accept His nudge.  We have our own plans. 

What miracles could we be apart of, if we followed Mary’s example?  

We all have free will, and God respects it completely…He understands; created us to use it.

The rest of this article is compliments of the website, http://www.churchyear.net/.  If you enjoy history, check this out.  

The Feast of the Annunciation of the Blessed Virgin Mary dates back to at least the 6th century, and is mentioned between AD 530 and 533 in a sermon by Abraham of Ephesus.  It was adopted worldwide through the Trullan Synod (AD 692) that speaks of the Annunciation feast as universally celebrated in the Catholic Church.  

The oldest observance of the day is on March 25, although in Spain the feast was at times celebrated on December 19 to avoid any chance of the date falling during the Lenten season. March 25 is obviously 9 months before Christmas, the birth of Jesus. Scholars are not completely sure whether the date of the Annunciation influenced the date of Christmas, or vice-versa. Before the Church adopted fixed days of celebration, early Christians speculated on the dates of major events in Jesus’ life. Second-century Latin Christians in Rome and North Africa tried to find the day in which Jesus died. By the time of Tertullian (d. AD 225) they had concluded that he died on Friday, March 25, AD 29 (incidentally, this is an impossibility, since March 25 in the year AD 29 was not a Friday). How does the day of Jesus’ death relate to the day of his conception? It comes from the Jewish concept of the “integral age” of the great Jewish prophets. This is the notion that the prophets of Israel died on the same dates as their birth or conception. Therefore, if Jesus died on March 25, he was also conceived that day. The pseudo-(John)Chrysostomic work de solstitia et aequinoctia conceptionis et nativitatis nostri Iesu Christi et Iohannis Baptistae accepts the same calculation. St. Augustine mentions it as well. Other ancient Christians believed Jesus was conceived on March 25th for another reason: they believed (based on Jewish calculations of the period) that the creation of the world occurred that day. Thus, it was fitting that the one who makes us new creations was conceived on the day the world was created.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Where Two or More are Gathered in My Name

Deciding on the best solution is not always easy and sometimes even comes through conflict. With the Corona virus bringing chaos to many aspects of our personal, professional and spiritual lives, we must rely on the wisdom of uniquely qualified Solutionaries to solve the problems that this confusion breeds. Parents must make decision for their families, business owners and company leaders are charged with set rules for our professional life and each of these must rely on the medical Solutionaries for trustworthy information needed to make the wise decisions.   Every one of these decision makers must recognize, that in order to make truly wise choices, they must turn to their God for the spiritual aspects of the problem that man-kind cannot control.  While this pandemic touches the lives of everyone, conflicts within our own families will be an additional problem that must be addressed.

Two thousand years ago, a man named Jesus, taught us about conflict resolution guidelines. These guidelines give us the road-map of the best route to take when we need to correct our brothers and sisters who are on the wrong side of a problem.  He used the Power of the Wisdom of Three to teach us this simple process.  As you will soon read, the problems we deal with haven’t changed in over two thousand years and neither has the solution process but be aware, two of the three methods only work if the person believes that you care about them, they can trust you and you know the true solution.

Jesus said to his disciples:
15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have won over your brother.
16 If he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, so that every fact may be established on the testimony of two or three witnesses.
17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell the Church. If he refuses to listen even to the Church, then treat him as you would a Gentile or a tax collector.
20 For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.”

Matthew 18:15-20

In His discourse to His follower, He said, “When you see that your brother has done something wrong, first approach the person alone.”  This one-on-one technique is very effective for many reasons.  The key being we never like being told we are wrong and when confronted in a public setting, emotions and embarrassment can last for years.  Also the person may have not been aware of the mistake in the first place.  

Jesus goes on to say, “When you are unable to resolve the problem alone, seek the help of another friend or two.”  We have all heard and likely said that two minds are better than one. Whenever we work on a problem, by bringing in a Solutionary or two with more education and or experience and a strong moral character; the problem will be easier to solve.  The person who was wrong in their thought process will be more likely to agree once they are convinced by the facts agreed upon by people respected and trusted.  Jesus, also being the Son of God, understood our problems must be resolved using all three personas which includes our spiritual nature.  He tells us that “When two or three are gathered together in His Name, He will be in their midst” to give additional support.  He knows that we to have faith that our problems are His problems too.  When we ask Him to help us, He says He will.

When both of these methods fail, a last ditched effort should be used.  Jesus, puts forth the reality that there is only one God and one Church and we are all part of that same church.  Once revealed to our Church family the problem is now a societal problem; much like where we are our efforts against the problems resulting from our handling of the pandemic.  If the combination of love, prayers and trusted advice from the entire societal family doesn’t do the trick, then our conscience can be clear that we did all we could to make a difference toward the true solution.  The problem and the consequences are solely his’ or her’s to solve and deal with from that point on.   

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

Nesting; Together Life

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It can be said, that our families form us in many ways.  As children we depend on our parents or guardians to provide safety, shelter and comfort.  These first teachers are charged with the responsibility of preparing us for when we are no longer dependent upon someone else.  This home environment and the lessons learned there will develop our personal, professional and spiritual personas; the basis of who we are and who we become in society.  This is how important the nest we create is to all of man-kind.     

Many animals depend on and instinctively build nests.  The human animal does as well.  We might not like to think of ourselves as animals but the truth remains.  Human nesting is commonly called our home.  Some of us nest for years in the same place while some practice a nomadic lifestyle.  Those viewed as nomads, still create a nest wherever they stop, even if it is only for the night.  When we study these nesting animals, we find only three reasons they share in this practice; safety, shelter and comfort.

What I find most interesting about nesting is that it is biological, ecological and sociological.  Our home is where we raise our children which is a biological process.  It is ecological as it relates to the environments we create and the relationships between the living things in our lives.  Unlike other animals, our home is also the center of our social circle making the act of nesting sociological in nature.   

Biology, ecology and sociology all encompass human health and the environment’s effect on how we live.  Health takes into consideration our mental, physical and spiritual well being. A number of characteristics of a healthy environment is controlled by the family.  During the Coronavirus pandemic it became clear that our home, country and the entire world became a very small yet connected place.  We are all in this together!

Unless you studied ecology, I am not sure how many of you know about the Law of Symbiosis.  It is a very interesting law that happens all around us every day of our life.  The word symbiosis actually means “together life”.  The law refers to the three types of relationships organisms share that live in close approximation to one another; often one cannot live without the other.  In extreme cases, one organism actually lives inside the other organism.  This law is the basis of ecology; the study of living organisms and their environment and as you can tell, it is uniquely Powered by the Wisdom of Three.  The relationships are:

  • Parasitism: the parasite benefits and the host are harmed.
  • Commensalism: one species benefit, the other is neither hurt nor helped.
  • Mutualism: when both species benefit.

During the time of being sequestered at home due to the pandemic; in a family environment we see all three of these “isms” as an evolution from one to another. From a leadership perspective, let’s examine each separately as they pertain to a parent’s relationship to the children; especially during times of reflection.

Parasitism is often viewed as a negative way to live life because of the harm the parasite brings to the host organism.  Many times in life the host organism knows the parasite is harming them but graciously allows the relationship to continue.  I can site hundreds of cases where a parent selflessly gave their all for the children.  When the children are young this is totally understandable and a very natural occurrence. It is only when the child becomes older and knowingly “feeds” off the parent’s generosity does this affiliation become a negative situation.  

As the child matures into adolescence the relationship should become one of Commensalism.  The child should benefit from the parental support and developmental guidance while the parent is made whole through the results of these efforts.  From their perspective, the father and mother are enriched to be able to be a part of the fulfillment of their child’s needs and the rewards are great on many levels while the detriment can and should be minimal.

Once the child has matured into an adult, the relationship should have reached a healthy state of Mutualism.  The child and the parents both benefit from each other’s existence without harm to either.  It is here that the parents can observe the start of a new cycle of relationships and the continuation of their legacy.  The child takes the lessons learned in their childhood family life, apply them in their own adult life while also passing them along to the next generation.  The one time “parasite” now becomes a host to their own children; allowing the cycle of life to continue and thrive.

Science continues to prove the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  Through this Wisdom of Three, we find the blueprint that we need to solve our family problems, even during trying times.  The term symbiosis, together life, is the explanation of the steps that a Solutionary should take in order to teach others the problem-solving truths of family life. 

For everyone who selflessly leads another along their life’s journey, shout out the motto; Together Life.                 

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”