The Power of Change

Young people can’t wait to get older.  Middle age people think they finally arrived but realizes that something is missing.  Older people wish they were smarter when they were younger.  The same person can and usually will go through each of these stages of self-evaluation.  In most cases our evaluation is a judgment on how we handled the decisions we made or the way we should have handled problems in our lives.  Our decision-making process changes as we age and with the change, we normally do a better job of solving problems.  That is why it is said that “With age comes wisdom.” 

But what causes us to change how we view the decisions that we will make in the future?

It is just three simple things; Time, Regrets and Successes.  Once more the Power of the Wisdom of Three comes to our aid.

Time brings with it many things; opportunity for more education, definitely the expansion of experience and the ability to personally examine the consequences of the good and bad choices in our life. 

Regrets brings pain and avoiding pain, even the possibility of pain is a great deterrent when it comes to making bad decisions.

Successes brings pleasure; an experience we will all go out of our way to repeat.  

With age, we create habits.  If we live long enough, we do a better job of creating more good habits than bad.  Putting these three change enhancers together in a string of historic life events, we become wiser with years.                       

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Division; Contradiction to the Truth

Two people disagree and fail to communicate

The Prediction of Division

“I have come to bring fire on the earth, and how I wish it were already kindled! But I have a baptism to undergo, and what constraint I am under until it is completed! Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.”

A little over two thousand years ago this prophesy was spoken by a man committed to teaching, professing and living the truth.  Not a truth applicable to only one person or one group of people.  No, this man was speaking about the natural laws that effect all mankind.  All races of people and both genders are equal under these eternal laws.  This simple man understood that people, when faced with the truth, would choose one of three ways to react to it; they would either accept it, reject it or ignore it. Despite the choice they would make, others in their life would choose to react in opposition to their decision causing unavoidable division. 

The orator who declared this prediction knew that the truth must be made known and that the division coming from any disagreements were the prices that had to be paid.  As a leaders by example, he himself would pay the ultimate price for speaking, thinking and acting on the truth but through his model the entire world changed accordingly.  No longer would the truth be hidden from the masses and any dissension would have to be dealt with as resulting consequences.

Those words were first spoken long ago but consider the division in today’s society.  The media claims we are more divided than ever before.  If this is indeed a fact then could it be because we have people reacting in opposition to the truth others are trying to make known? 

Take for example the headlines of today; “A Third Option for Gender”.  Eleven States have voted to allow a gender neutral option on driver licenses.  The scientific supported truth is that there are only two genders, male or female.  There is no third option.  Sure, people can chose to claim to be a male when they are a female and vice a versa but their DNA will always confirm their true gender.  This will cause division naturally because people oppose lies especially when the country’s law making bodies create laws that contradict the truth. 

Another example in the news; “Lawmakers Accused of White Supremacy”.  All people are created equal under the natural laws.  Whether your skin is black, white, red or yellow makes no difference to your talents, skills or abilities.  The law of gravity doesn’t treat you differently, the laws of motion will affect your life the same as it affects mine.  The truth will be equally fair with you and your neighbor, but as long as we continue to try to argue with the truth there will be division. 

A third example is the immigrant crisis. Whenever our actions circumvent the law by definition we are doing something illegal. To call it anything else is a lie. Those who oppose the truth can’t change it by naming it something less threatening; undocumented alien. The truth will still remain and as will the division.     

The silly thing about division, it all boils down to selfishness.  We want what we want and the truth doesn’t matter when we are being selfish.  Division will end when we all want the truth even when it goes against our personal desires. The fact is people live in the truth, we will never be able to change or control it.         

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

The Right Questions Matter

“When we ask the wrong questions, we normally receive the wrong answers.  Even when we know nothing about our problem, it is our responsibility to ask the right questions especially when speaking to those we seek assistance from in solving them.  A Solutionary is someone who understands this fact and they use their knowledge in a selfless manner to solve the problems brought to them.”

Anthony Boquet, A Modern Solutionary

Every species on earth depends on balance to function at optimum performance.  This balance is more difficult to achieve in the human species because we are the only creature that has the ability to act against the natural laws.  It is our freewill which allows us to make choices based on the whims of our three states of humanity; our physical, mental and spiritual selves.  Our higher level of intelligence also makes it possible for us to reach that perfect balance while at the same time creating internal battles over the complexities of protecting our body, mind and soul in equal unity.

Take for instance our financial responsibilities through our retirement years.  The average person does not have the education or experience to plan for this daunting task.  Someone well trained as a financial planner would know how to solve the financial problems people face in all aspects of their lives. To do this job completely and correctly, one must be willing and able to guide their client along their life journey, being responsible for balancing their financial matters in every phase of life where money plays a part, namely our three personas; our personal, professional and spiritual lives.  

A very large majority of planners have no problems when it comes to the professional persona because they are dealing with the client on a professional level by just doing business with them.  An equal number of them can rise to the occasion when it comes to the personal persona, especially when their client / planner dynamic share personal commonalities…their kids play on the same ball team or they each have young children.  It is the spiritual life that stumps most planners, mainly due to societies perception of the need to separate spirituality from our work life. In other words, people can see one another at Church on Sunday but on Monday we can no longer talk about our spirituality. A ridiculous mindset since each of us possess a spiritual persona requiring financial planning. It does not matter which religion one follows; it is the fact that we each have some form of spiritual belief that we support through our income and wealth.

Needless to say, finding that perfect balance in the financial area of one’s life could prove difficult not only because of the self-inflicted imbalance caused by emotional decision-making but also from that of the planner we choose to work with.  An important correct question should be, “What can I do to protect myself against further financial imbalance?”

The answer is to learn, profess and live the truths of financial literacy.  The first truth one should follow is the understanding that there are only three uses for our treasures.  Once you earn any treasure you can chose to spend it, save it or share it; nothing more.  Achieving balance in anything requires the appropriate distribution of the whole into the correct areas; thus balancing the unit.  The optimum appropriation percentages for a healthy budget is usually; seventy percent of what we earn should be allocated for spending (paying our bills), twenty percent should be placed in savings (ten percent long term and ten percent short term saving) and ten percent should be shared.  If your bills add up to more than seventy percent of your take home pay you are likely out of balance.  For short periods of time going above the seventy percent might not be an issue but habitually exceeding that percentage will create problems.  The same can be said about the other two components as well.  Balance is critical and fighting the truth by defending your over spending, choosing not to save and failing to share from your abundance will never create financial balance.        

Once you have the basics down the question becomes, “Do I need to hire a professional for assistance?” If you do, you should expect that person to live those same truths and selflessly apply their knowledge to your solutions.  You are looking for a Solutionary.  The next question is; “How do I determine their level competence?”  First, select a planner who can demonstrate their commitment to being a Solutionary not just a problem-solver. Everyone we hire to assist us in solving our problems should be knowledgeable in the field of expertise the problem is in.  This knowledge must come from three sources; education, experience and moral / ethical values.  We should never apologize for asking for credentials verifying the level of each.  When determining education, degrees or designations assures that the person learned and successfully tested their understanding of the field of study.  Experience is gauged by the amount of time worked in the profession.  Moral and ethical values can be more of a challenge in today’s world.   If the person holds a credential, usually the issuing body oversees the ethical standing of their members.  Asking questions about their beliefs and values can also shed light to their character.  With the internet, we can also easily research the background of anyone, including their social activities through various sites.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, Vice President, The American College and the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others. 

A Story Meant to Changed the World

 A little over two thousand years ago a story packed with examples of the Power of the Wisdom on Three was told as an answer to a simple four word question; “Who is my neighbor?”  This question was posed as a clarifying point to a spiritual law; one of the natural laws of civilized societies.  In Christian circles the law is called the First Commandment.  To philosophers and solutionaries it is called the Trinity of Selfless Love.  Simply stated, in order to live a peace filled existence one must love their God with their whole mind, body and soul; and love their neighbor as their self.

The story that was told in reply to that question is solely responsible for countless societal changes throughout the centuries. Today, if we were to see someone lying, hurt in the street, our first action would be to call 911.  That one action would put into motion a flood of goodwill that did not exist at the time of the original narrative. First responders, hospitals, insurance, orphanages, soup kitchens, homeless shelter and many other services were all a direct creation of the premise taught in that short tale.  We should each care for those who are in need of physical help but the story uncovers many deeper societal injuries as well.

The audience were the residents of a wealthy and prominent city of the time.  The setting was one of the entry ways into the city; a well traveled, yet prone to violence, thoroughfare.  One of the main characters of the story was a man who was robbed, brutally attacked and left for dead on the roadway.  The first two people who happened to pass the crime scene did nothing to help the man, thinking he was already dead.  These two people were described as holy people and due to the religious customs of the times, they were not to touch dead bodies at the risk of becoming “unclean”.  In other words, to the listeners, the two bystanders would have been justified, doing nothing wrong by just walking around the man laying in the street.  The third character was identified as a Samaritan, an outsider, a person from a neighboring town inhabited by people who were looked down upon because of their differing beliefs.  Of all people, it was the Samaritan who stopped and found the man to be alive. He cared for his wounds the best he could, physically carried him to an Inn, stayed with him over night, arranged and paid for the follow up care for this total stranger while making sure that any further bills would be paid if more were outstanding.  Then to end the story, this accomplished storyteller, wanting the audience to think, ended the parable with another question; “Who was neighbor to the beaten man?”

We each are called to love one another.  Not only when people agree with our beliefs.  Not only when they follow the letter of the “law”. That is what makes this story eternally relevant.  We can see ourselves in each character.  No more superior than any and possibly equally as guilty of ignoring the law of love. 

Would our world be a much better place if we all strove to be a good Samaritan to every neighbor we encounter?        

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

The Unity and Solution of Three

Three is a very unique number.  In the same way that every word has a meaning, so too does every number.  Through the last ten years I have been intrigued by my ever expanding understanding of the Power of the Wisdom of Three.  This power touches each of our lives and many of us don’t take the time to notice the impact this small yet significant number has on our life.

Dating back over six thousand years ago, the number three was given to stand for unity.  People understood that when three people were brought together in thought, word and deeds unity was always present.  Still today, when two people have opposing beliefs it is a third who is solicited to break the tie.  With the same level of accuracy the number three was thought to signify solutions.  Lessons that held three simple concepts were the ones easy to teach, remember and apply; successfully bringing a solution to the problem.  That is why, these early learned people, used this unique number to pass down traditions we use today; touching our personal, professional and spiritual personas. 

To illustrate these truths, we need only read the stories of the early Christians written over two thousand years ago; giving meaning to our Holy Week celebrations and the memorials of our Savior. 

If you consider only the accounts of the week that made up Jesus’ passion; you will find many uses of the number three.  Each application provides us, as well as the people of that time, with either an understanding of unity and / or a solution to problems presented.

One interesting example is the way Jesus accurately predicted that Peter would deny him three times.  Peter was a trusted and loyal disciple; so why would he, of all people, deny knowing his honorable friend whom he loved so much; not once, not twice but three times?

This incident greatly exemplifies that we are, at our very core, a self preserving race.  Peter and all the apostles were fearful of their lives after seeing their teacher arrested and abused.  He knew that Jesus was the most innocent man he knew and yet he watch him being tormented in ways no one would dare openly submit to.  It was Peter’s humanity that was tested three times, not to break him but to unify him.  It was through these three denials that Peter was unified to Christ.  In addition, these failures would act to strengthen three entities; Peter, those who would follow him and the future Church.  It was on that Holy Thursday night that Peter came face to face with depth of his Lord’s first commandment.  To love our self, our community and our God is the goal established by our Savior; even when we face the threat of persecution, physical suffering or mental anguish. Without a doubt, it can be the hardest thing one could ever do. 

Unlike Judas, who also denied Jesus three times that week, Peter found the solution in God’s forgiving love.  Judas had much more time to reverse his actions but he chose not to; yet Peter had minutes between his indiscretions.  Though Judas did finally repent by giving back the money and confessing that he did a terrible thing; he still was unable to accept the grace of God’s mercy.  Instead, he gave up on Jesus; taking his own life in an attempt to ease his own self inflicted suffering.  Peter on the other hand, learned from his three mistakes and became a champion for the world. 

For three years Peter experienced the essence of Jesus.  After Jesus’ resurrection, Peter was likely one of the first to feel the essence of God and would soon be introduced to the essence of the Holy Spirit.  God’s divine Essence magnified but not different from the three individual persons of the Trinity.  Just as every person has three humanities; mental, physical and spiritual we have one singular essence.  Our mind cannot think one way and have the body and soul act imposingly.  What we think becomes our words and then our deeds.  Our deeds are the result of the strength of our essence.

When we overcome great struggles like Peter did, our nature becomes a new and powerful essence; felt by all who experience us.  We are never the same again.  Our essence is magnified in our trinity; our mind, body and soul.  God’s and our essence are not distinct from our three personas; instead we become distinguished by the unity of the three.  

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”, your source for additional information about the Power of the Wisdom of Three.

The Wisdom of a Positive Self-Image

Have you ever gone somewhere with someone you did not particularly care for? They were not a bad person; they just were not a good fit to your personality. You may not have even realized why you felt the way you did about them.  Possibly the person was just not a lot of fun to be around, you might not have had much in common with them, or they just rubbed you the wrong way in general.

That kind of personal chemistry can make a one hour event feel like a week-long visit to a sadistic dentist.

It is sad but you just could not wait to be out of their presence for whatever the reason.

What if that person is you?

Have you ever considered that there is only one person that we have to be with every hour of every day and that person is our “self”? If our vision of that person is not good, life can be extremely rough and uncomfortable.  On the other hand, once we possess a positive self-image of our self we can reach heights that other can only dream of.  Those people have a healthy, honest and positive self-image.  This image also creates the mind set we use to form the basis of all of our decisions. Continue reading “The Wisdom of a Positive Self-Image”