School Shootings; A Symptom of a Major Problem

“An individual’s reality can and will change based on their actions guided by their thoughts, reasons and ideals.  There will always be bad reasons for good ideas and good reasons for bad ideas.  This is why moral people struggle to find common ground on ideological differences.  The truth, however, is the casualty; it commonly gets lost in the mix.”

Anthony “Tony” Boquet

Schools were created as a societal method of teaching our children how to solve problems. When the painful results of our problems show up on campus we must realize that the system is broken.  People all agree, it’s time for these violent symptoms and the problems that they represent to be fixed.  They cry out for something to be done to correct the situation but the areas of attention is off the mark and is not the problem so nothing makes a difference.

Why?   Continue reading “School Shootings; A Symptom of a Major Problem”

Cloak the Pain or Solve the Problem

“This pain in my side is really driving me crazy.”

“Honey, why don’t you take the pain pills that you have?”

“Because the doctor hasn’t determined what is causing the pain. If it gets worse, I need to be able to know it.  If the pain is hidden by the medication, I will have a false sense of security thinking that all is well when it really isn’t.”

The above conversation highlights a central belief of mine. Pain is just a symptom of the actual problem; it is not the problem in and of itself.  Physical, mental and spiritual pain is our body’s way of communicating that something is wrong.  In neighborhoods all across the Country; we see, hear and feel the communications telling us that something is wrong in our societies. And just like the short discourse above between two loved ones, the evidence point to the facts that we are torn between continuing to manipulate the symptoms and wanting to solve the problem.  Continue reading “Cloak the Pain or Solve the Problem”

When a Solution Becomes a Problem

It is said, “We are creatures of habit” and rightly so for mankind is merely a more intelligent creature but a creature none the less. As one of nature’s creatures we respond to threats, fears, and problems in much the same way as all creatures with one exception…we have the mental capacity to learn from, adapt to, and develop techniques used in solving problems.

It is the responsibility of the leader of a business, a family, or a team to teach their disciples that these lessons are critical. To be effective in this role as teacher, we must understand these principles, be able to communicate them, and transfer the required skills in a way that is easily remembered.  One proven technique is storytelling.  A good story can emphasize the message, embed the lessons, and enhances interest in sharing of the content with others.    Continue reading “When a Solution Becomes a Problem”