Equality or Fairness; Which Do You Prefer?

We are born male or female, healthy or ill and our race or culture doesn’t matter at all.  At that special moment of our birth we are all equal in the eyes of our Creator, the world and our parents.  However, from that point on our values toward equality begins to change in the eyes of all who pay attention.  As we age we each begin to develop different talents, pursue different goals and strive for different aspirations.  It is because of these changes that we can never again be viewed, treated or even perceived as equal.

So, should we be treated equally?

Why would anyone seek to be treated as equal?

Instead, should we not strive for fairness?

It is through fairness that we show an individual respect earned for those differences that make each of us unique.  If gold was not an unique metal it would not be valued as precious.  This is why not all people will choose to limit themselves to the standards of those who wish to go through life doing just enough to skate by.  It is my belief that the majority are not satisfied with equality but rather demands, expects and wishes to receive fairness.

Speaking as a leader of various teams, I always strived to surround myself with people who wished to be better than all the rest.   Just think, if we applied the rules of equality to games, businesses or organizations then there would be no reason for competition.  If we were to treat every person as an equal to one another we would be working diligently at being mediocre.  The difference in being mediocre verses being outstanding is exactly what makes each of us unequal.

Picture the most spectacular painting you have ever saw; then ask yourself if you could have painted it.  If the answer is no, then you are not alone and you are definitely not an equal to the artist whose work you are admiring; nor should you be.  That difference is exactly what makes the work you’re admiring spectacular and I, for one, do not want to ever give up the spectacular for the mediocre.

So next time you hear of a school, business or organization’s leadership crying that we should not keep score, whining that everyone should be a winner or that everyone must be treated the same; think of that spectacular work of art, the gold medal athlete or the hardworking successful business owner who started their business with one hundred dollars and a dream. These remarkable people would not exist in the world of equality.  Instead, the world of art would be full of ugly painting because everyone would paint like the rest of us.  We would lose way more than we win because everyone would stop practicing too soon but worst of all we would all stop dreaming.

 It is for these reasons that I believe we were created equal to give us all a fair start but we are destined to be unequal and to accomplish extraordinary things through the use of our unique talents, skills and abilities.  By definition, nothing can be considered greater than without first surpassing equal and to make that leap all we need is a fair chance and the belief that we are special and unequal.

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

The Wisdom of a Positive Self-Image

Have you ever gone somewhere with someone you did not particularly care for? They were not a bad person; they just were not a good fit to your personality. You may not have even realized why you felt the way you did about them.  Possibly the person was just not a lot of fun to be around, you might not have had much in common with them, or they just rubbed you the wrong way in general.

That kind of personal chemistry can make a one hour event feel like a week-long visit to a sadistic dentist.

It is sad but you just could not wait to be out of their presence for whatever the reason.

What if that person is you?

Have you ever considered that there is only one person that we have to be with every hour of every day and that person is our “self”? If our vision of that person is not good, life can be extremely rough and uncomfortable.  On the other hand, once we possess a positive self-image of our self we can reach heights that other can only dream of.  Those people have a healthy, honest and positive self-image.  This image also creates the mind set we use to form the basis of all of our decisions. Continue reading “The Wisdom of a Positive Self-Image”

Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion

“Truth is ever to be found in simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things.”

Solutionary, Sir Isaac Newton

I have always been driven to “climb the ladder of success”.  I enjoy that metaphor the most because one of my mentors, Zig Ziglar, when speaking on the topic of the goal of success was fond of saying; “I will see you at the top.”   He was not the only one who commonly envisioned success as a state of being higher than the rest of the pack; a journey that called for the traveler to pay an extra price for getting to a place of distinction.  Anyone who ever climbed a mountain or even a hill can attest that the higher you climb the greater the toll, the harder work and the sweeter the victory.  Continue reading “Success; Guided by the Three Laws of Motion”