The Power of Change

Young people can’t wait to get older.  Middle age people think they finally arrived but realizes that something is missing.  Older people wish they were smarter when they were younger.  The same person can and usually will go through each of these stages of self-evaluation.  In most cases our evaluation is a judgment on how we handled the decisions we made or the way we should have handled problems in our lives.  Our decision-making process changes as we age and with the change, we normally do a better job of solving problems.  That is why it is said that “With age comes wisdom.” 

But what causes us to change how we view the decisions that we will make in the future?

It is just three simple things; Time, Regrets and Successes.  Once more the Power of the Wisdom of Three comes to our aid.

Time brings with it many things; opportunity for more education, definitely the expansion of experience and the ability to personally examine the consequences of the good and bad choices in our life. 

Regrets brings pain and avoiding pain, even the possibility of pain is a great deterrent when it comes to making bad decisions.

Successes brings pleasure; an experience we will all go out of our way to repeat.  

With age, we create habits.  If we live long enough, we do a better job of creating more good habits than bad.  Putting these three change enhancers together in a string of historic life events, we become wiser with years.                       

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Building a Strong Leader

A master carpenter who worked for the same builder for nearly 50 years announced he wanted to retire. The builder told him how much he appreciated his work. He gave the carpenter a $5,000 bonus and asked him if he would build just one more house. The builder owned a magnificent lot with a spectacular view, and said he wanted to build a dream home there.

The carpenter was bitterly disappointed at the small bonus, but his last building fee would help him buy a small cottage, so he agreed to build the dream house.

The carpenter had always prided himself on his uncompromising commitment to quality, but resentment over this last job caused him to cut corners, ignore details, and accept shoddy workmanship from other workers. He even looked the other way when some of them substituted cheaper materials and pocketed the difference.

When the house was finished, the builder shook the carpenter’s hand and, with a huge smile, gave him an envelope with a thank-you card and a folded piece of paper. The carpenter was disdainful until he unfolded the paper and found the deed to the house he had just built.

The carpenter was ashamed to have misjudged his old friend and betrayed his own values, and he was remorseful that the house he would live in for the rest of his life had been made so carelessly.

Our character is the house we live in and it’s built piece by piece by our daily choices. Deceit, irresponsibility, and disrespect are like shoddy workmanship. Whenever we put in less than our best and ignore our potential for excellence, we create a future full of creaky floors, leaky roofs, and crumbling foundations.

“The Parable of the Carpenter” by Michael Josephson

This parable emphasizes the power we each possess over the construction of our lives. We are each leaders of our self, our family and / or our work.  As the leader we determine the quality of workmanship based on our level of personal development, the quality of materials we choose to work with by the people we choose to bring into our lives and the quality of environment which we choose build our structure on through the places we live, work and pray.  Thus begins our daily construction of the ultimate work of art that is destined to be our life.

A master leader will pride them self on the work that goes into every project they are involved in. They will take the time to develop personally so that they are the best they can be.  The materials they will use will be of the highest quality.  The leader understands that once they start using subpar materials, the reflection will come to rest squarely on the leader’s shoulder.  When the valued leader gives the very best talents, skills and abilities using the very best resources, the structure must be positioned in the very best environment.  One would never build a mansion on a weak or unstable foundation so why would a master leader choose to operate in an environment destined to sink or collapse.

Also consider the Power of the Wisdom of Three using the features that make up every construction; the foundation, the walls and the roof. Every building must have these three building blocks.  The foundation must be solid, stable and strong so as to bear the weight of the entire structure.  The permanent and eternal part of every person, the soul.  The house is only as good as the foundation and so it is with a leaders soul.  The walls must be ridged, binding and durable to survive the elements.  They must be ridged enough to not bend under stress, be capable of binding the roof to the foundation and the walls to one another; keeping the structure together and they must be durable enough to endure outside forces powerful enough to topple the building.  We too have walls known as our body.  Of course, every resident must have a roof.  The roof must be constructed to allow for runoff so it does not take on additional weight from debris.  It must be centered so as to keep the walls straight. Most importantly, the roof must act as the covering protecting the valuables residing directly below it.  Our roof is our mind.

If this is my last post, I want all to know that there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

The Wisdom of a Positive Self-Image

Have you ever gone somewhere with someone you did not particularly care for? They were not a bad person; they just were not a good fit to your personality. You may not have even realized why you felt the way you did about them.  Possibly the person was just not a lot of fun to be around, you might not have had much in common with them, or they just rubbed you the wrong way in general.

That kind of personal chemistry can make a one hour event feel like a week-long visit to a sadistic dentist.

It is sad but you just could not wait to be out of their presence for whatever the reason.

What if that person is you?

Have you ever considered that there is only one person that we have to be with every hour of every day and that person is our “self”? If our vision of that person is not good, life can be extremely rough and uncomfortable.  On the other hand, once we possess a positive self-image of our self we can reach heights that other can only dream of.  Those people have a healthy, honest and positive self-image.  This image also creates the mind set we use to form the basis of all of our decisions. Continue reading “The Wisdom of a Positive Self-Image”

A Masterpiece in the Works

The stage is set, all is silent. The Master smiles; again the perfect story has been formed; one that will move the hearts, minds and souls of people and change the future of all mankind.  The Master has a history of perfecting all the stories based on the lives of the characters and using their children to perpetuate the next legacy of change.  In the mind of the Master, it is clear that every perfect story needs a perfect main character that will shape the epic tale.  Each phenomenal story places the setting as the life’s journey of the main character and who better to write this narrative but the characters themselves.  When that character has a child, eventually, the child will become the author as they become an adult. Due to this process, it is not usually a quick project but it is always a worthy one.    Continue reading “A Masterpiece in the Works”

The Trinities and The Sign of the Cross

Today is Trinity Sunday in the Christian faith.  As many of you know, I am a practicing Catholic who enjoys sharing the why behind the what.  The “what” of this week has to do with my favorite number, the number three and, more specifically; the Holy Trinity, the human trinity, the three human actions and the sign of the cross.

The sign of the cross in the Roman Catholic Church is much more than just an act that we do in remembrance of Jesus’ ultimate sacrifice for the world.  It is really an amazing prayer with much meaning.  Continue reading “The Trinities and The Sign of the Cross”

Your Body Doesn’t Lie

“It is as old as the truth and if you use it you believe you came out on top when, in essence, just the opposite has occurred. What am I?”

The lie is as old as the truth, at least as it pertains to our communication.  Each time that we are asked a question we make a choice of one of three ways we will answer it.  We can reply by telling the truth, telling a lie or ignoring the question all together.  Isn’t it interesting that we have only three replies; one right, one wrong and the third an acceptable concession.  These are the exact same choices we have for every problem we face.

Studies have shown that people lie more in their younger ages and even less after they reach sixty years of age.  It seems that as we mature we do get wiser.  We tell lies about many things but we do so for only three reasons; to satisfy our selfish reasons, to protect someone from perceived pain or embellish reality.  No matter the reason, lies, when discovered, always deteriorates established levels of trust.   It is trust that builds unity through relationships.

Trust is so important to our society; science has developed ways to determine when someone is lying.  One of these ways is the use of a polygraph machine.  By quizzing the subject, a polygraph examiner can look at the graphs and can see whether their vital signs changed significantly on any of the questions. If a lie is told there will be a significant change in three involuntary bodily functions; a faster heart rate, higher blood pressure and an increase in perspiration.  What science has proven is that when the body is in conflict, even with it’s own mind, the body will fight against the lie.  It acts differently in a state of conflict.  Our body wants to live in the peace provided by the truth.  

 “A man is never more truthful than when he acknowledges himself a liar.” – Mark Twain

Thanks to the Power of the Wisdom of Three we can solve our man-made problems pretty easily as long as we also stay selfless in nature.  We try so hard to uncover truths by creating top ten lists of this or the top seven ways of doing that but these will usually have redundancies that can be eliminated without harm or impact to the truth.  Three concepts are much simpler, will have much greater retention over time and they stay true to our natural laws.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary” and Vice President, Education and Development at The American College of Financial Services

Experience on the Balance Sheet

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”

Soren Kierkegaard

Look at any company’s website, mission statement or recruiting material; one of the first messages you will receive is that they value their people. This is a great sentiment for them to portray because we all desire to be valued…but do they?  If they truly do, it will be evident by the experience level of their workforce.  Current statistics paint a different picture however.  Tenure is down and long term employees are starting to build tenure later in life so maybe, just maybe, our business leaders don’t really get it; despite what they are trying to make us believe.

What’s the big deal?      

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When a Solution Becomes a Problem

It is said, “We are creatures of habit” and rightly so for mankind is merely a more intelligent creature but a creature none the less. As one of nature’s creatures we respond to threats, fears, and problems in much the same way as all creatures with one exception…we have the mental capacity to learn from, adapt to, and develop techniques used in solving problems.

It is the responsibility of the leader of a business, a family, or a team to teach their disciples that these lessons are critical. To be effective in this role as teacher, we must understand these principles, be able to communicate them, and transfer the required skills in a way that is easily remembered.  One proven technique is storytelling.  A good story can emphasize the message, embed the lessons, and enhances interest in sharing of the content with others.    Continue reading “When a Solution Becomes a Problem”

The Three Positions of Transit

“Triangular in concept, a law you must know; Linear in sight, on your mark, get set, Go!  What am I?”

Signal LightIf you said a traffic light you are correct.  Just like riddles, sometimes life can be confusing and vague.  That is why I believe our Maker gave us so many natural laws tied to the Wisdom of Three; we need simple guides to make our complex lives easier to navigate through.  These laws are undeniable, unchangeable, and unquestionable anywhere in the world.

So why focus on the traffic light?

In 1920, a police officer in Detroit, Michigan developed the three color lights we use today.  In an effort to reduce the ever increasing risks of accidents presented by the growing number of vehicles on the roads, he used the simple power behind the Wisdom of Three.  This Solutionary understood the problem and determined that there were only three positions needing to be controlled; the driver had to know when to stop the car, be warned in advance when to stop, and when it would be safe to go again.

Brilliant!  I wonder if Officer William Potts knew the rest of the story.  You see, not only is his solution applicable to the traffic problems of intersections, its meaning goes much deeper and can help to direct the traffic of our personal lives too.

The lights positions and colors are arranged uniformly so that wherever you may be you will be familiar with the patterns. The first light is the red one.  This position holds substantial meaning in the universe.  The number one means singular.  When applied to the driver of a vehicle it means you or self.  When I am driving and I see a red light I know that “I” must stop.  Red is the uniformed color for the word stop.  An interesting thing that Officer Potts probably did not know was that selfishness is the single offense that we have to stop in order to avoid all other offenses.  It we could ever “stop” our selfish flaws we would break no laws, have no disobedience, or civil unrest.  This is why; in the Wisdom of Three, selfishness is the number one problem that Solutionaries must be aware of.

The second position is the amber light or caution.  The number two means to share; picture two people holding hands.  In this position we must be ready to do our part to protect each other from an accident.  The number two also represents the potential for loss so caution must be taken.

Position number three is the green or go light. The most powerful number in the universe, the third position means power…the power to move.  It also means community.  When the light turns green, all the cars begin to move as one; as a community.  The color green represents a new start or growth.  We cannot have a new start if we do not move forward.

Remember the riddle at the start of this article; triangular in concept?  Picture a vertical traffic light in your mind.  Now, picture one light at the first position, two lights side by side in the second and three lights in the third position.  Do you see the perfect triangle?  The triangle is the strongest structure in the universe and the basis of the Wisdom of Three.

the-wisdom-of-three-the-law-of-the-flowOnce again, the natural laws created through the power of the Wisdom of Three helps us to solve our problems.  Next time you see a traffic light, I hope you think differently and reflect on the Wisdom of Three in your life.

If this is my last post, I want all to know there was only one purpose for all that I have written; to have made a positive difference in the lives of others.

Anthony “Tony” Boquet, the author of “The Bloodline of Wisdom, The Awakening of a Modern Solutionary”

The Three Gifts of Insight

Insight, as defined by Webster is the ability to understand people and situations in a very clear way; an understanding of the true nature of something.

In our personal, business, and spiritual lives, insight is a critical skill because it requires examining the truth.

the-wisdom-of-three-gift-of-insightInterestingly it is the book, the Bible, which first highlighted the importance of this commonly required skill.  There you will find the seven Gifts of the Holy Spirit: Knowledge, Understanding, Wisdom, Counsel, Piety, Fortitude, and Fear of the Lord.  The first three make up the Gifts of Insight.  As a student of wisdom I am learning that these three “gifts” are required before we can determine any truth.  Without insight we are more likely than not to: Continue reading “The Three Gifts of Insight”